To refuse to go in extra on boxing day because they kept my bonus?

[Housekeeperbatcocoa]

I'm not sure where to start with this one, sorry!

I work as a private housekeeper on a large farm/estate. The lady who owns the house is and always has been difficult and demanding, as is the rest of the family. She's been in and out of hospital this year with various injuries and I've been working my backside off to help - even going in on an evening to close the house up for her because she couldn't walk and none of her family would help her!

She's back in hospital atm and her daughters have also been putting on me in various ways - shopping runs for them, constant texts about stuff and just basically treating me like a skivvy from the Downton Abby days!

I accidentally saw a message saying she'd planned to give me £30 bonus for Christmas. When I left yesterday the oldest daughter gave me a card which I assumed had my bonus. Said thank you, came home. Just got around to opening it and the envelope had clearly been opened and there's no money in it.

That's fine - people can change their minds and if they have it is what it is. Though part of me can't help but think the oldest daughter has taken the money from the card 🙁 can't prove it, obviously, but that's what my gut says 😕

But they've just messaged me to say I need to go in on boxing day to "sort the dogs out". She wants me to go for 7am because no one else will be there.

I haven't answered yet but I feel like telling them to get stuffed and just not going back.

I've got a new job lined up for Feb and while it would be tight, I could manage without this one for the month!

Yay you!!!! Enjoy your January off! Or offer special ‘Post Christmas deep cleans’ at a time convenient to yourself and an excellent hourly rate!!

Good for you !

Done more or less the same thing myself years ago when I quit a job .

I applaud you OP. It might be a bit of a struggle financially till you start your new job but at least you don’t have to put up with those selfish gits anymore,

Well done 👏. At least it’s happened now and you’re not on tenterhooks for the rest of the day wondering if they may call. After the shakiness will come the elation that you stood up for yourself and told a horrible person where to go.

Oh, WOW!!! 😃

Well done, you!

That'll wipe the smug smile off her entitled face - and clearing up her own sh!t after her party will knock it to the other side of her head.

It's a pity you had to leave on such bad terms - always more pleasant to keep things on an even keel if you can - but it's far better than being taken advantage of. I think you did all you could to be considerate and civil, but they didn't return the compliment.

(And bliddy good luck to them getting a replacement with the wages they have been paying you!)

Good on you @Housekeeperbatcocoa 👏🏻💐
I'd also guide her to this thread so the nasty b*tch could see exactly what people thought of her Ebenezer Scrooge like behaviour.
Obviously the mean, tight fisted, nastiness is genetic. You said your actual employer was a difficult, demanding woman. The apple didn't fall far from the tree.

Thank you! Settling down with some nibbles and a nice big glass of wine with my friend to watch doctor who. Kids are in the garden shooting each other with nerf guns and are having an absolute blast - and that bitch wanted me to miss it with the way they've treated me? I don't think so!

She's also really shot herself in the foot because they have no one lined up to replace me. As far as I know they had a few people lined up to interview but none worked out so they'll have to clean their own loos and take in their own deliveries and walk their own horrid dogs.

Well done OP, good for you standing up for yourself. Have a wonderful break before you start your new job

This. There is no chance I'd be going.

Good for you. Enjoy your day.

@Housekeeperbatcocoa happy Christmas and good luck with all your future endeavours.
Well done you!

Well done op!!

Tell them to jog on. I think Christmas often really makes clear who is a lovely supportive boss/employer and which employers are self serving horrible people. You are worth more than this shit.

Yay! Good for you for standing up for yourself. They should be offering you a bonus AND double play as a MINIMUM. Good help is valuable. The days of being able to find a skivvy for sixpence a week plus scraps are thankfully over.

I've done this once myself and it felt wonderful.
Especially knowing they'd have to do the work themselves.

well done OP.

👏 👏 👏
Well done OP!
Glad you've something else lined up from Feb, can you do a few casual jobs in January to tide yourself over?

She's also really shot herself in the foot because they have no one lined up to replace me. As far as I know they had a few people lined up to interview but none worked

The others probably worked out what was coming their way and swerved it

I've only just realised these were indeed the people who accused you of stealing, which explains the lack of miserly bonus ... they may have "apologised" at the time to keep you running after their demands, but probably the money was kept back because they're still convincing themselves you did it (and will be even more convinced now you've rightly dumped them)

Onwards and upwards though; enjoy the rest of your Christmas and have a lovely new year while they look after themselves

Well done op, happy Christmas!

Wow, what a nasty cow. Well done for standing up to her, you’ve done yourself a massive favor in the long run. Enjoy!

What was the thread about they accusing you of stealing @Housekeeperbatcocoa

I hope they paid you to date op. Can't believe how nasty that lady is

Oh wow well done! What entitled piece of shit that lady is!

@Housekeeperbatcocoa well done!

Crikey, that update!

I'm very proud of you. And I hope they can't get even temporary relief staff and have to walk their own damn dogs. As for cleaning up after their NYE party, that's just <chefs kisses>

It gladdens my heart to read posts like this. Good for you!