To be seething at relative who’s passed on an illness this close to Christmas

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Probably BVU but I’m awake in the middle of the night unable to sleep on day 2 of a bloody rotten cold. Relative came to stay for three days earlier in the week and neglected to mention they had a cold, I did hear some snuffling and throat clearing but put it down to age.

I have a crap immune system and pick up everything going and it always seems to be worse than for others as well. I am frankly really pissed off they didn’t mention it so I could have steered well clear of them as we are hosting Christmas for the first time with multiple relatives staying and I now feel bloody awful and would rather just be in bed.

I was so excited for this and have spent ages planning a nice day and now I just feel it will be ruined as going to feel like complete shit. Going elsewhere is not an option and all food has been bought. Guests are still happy to come despite my cold so I’ll just have to soldier on but I’m really not looking forward to it. Have dosed up on all the right meds but doesn’t seem to be making much difference.

This. Posters on mumsnet always seem to know the exact person who gave them or their child an illness. Whether that’s a friend or relative or even the precise child in their DCs school.

In reality colds are going around everywhere at the moment and you can be contagious for 2 weeks with the cold virus. So ‘we haven’t been around any other ill people’ doesn’t mean anything.

Colds spread and a lot of the time nobody’s at fault or blame.

That was really mean of them OP, we have managed to pick up an illness as a family just before every important occasion for what feels like the last two years, DS1 gets them at school and throws them off within a day or so, then the baby catches them, then and I and especially DH have them for days longer. DS1 started a 40 degree fever yesterday I just could have wept! He seems much better today, maybe the rest of us won't get it...no matter how much I loved someone I wouldn't risk a cold rn because I am so over it, I want us well for Christmas! I don't care if it's "just" a cold, especially when the baby gets them and his already not great sleep gets awful and then I get no sleep, fuck that.

Love the poster who's like "just improve your immune system." Er okay then?! It's not like washing your clothes. DH and I eat the same (good) diet, he is a healthier weight than me and exercises more and it takes him far longer to fight off a bug than me. It's not all within a person's control.

I can't remember blaming a specific person for passing on a cold. If I have, I've forgotten. Into every life some cold pesky cold virus will blow. Take some paracetamol and stay warm.

Yes, I was trying to be diplomatic about it thought 😁🍈🍈

Unless someone already has other health issues or is in an at risk age group, a cold is generally something you can get on with. They aren’t debilitating. Yes, you feel rough, but the reality is most people can and do carry on. Obviously, if you’ve got a fever with it or an inner ear infection, that’s a bit different and can stop you being well enough. If it’s a headache, sore throat, cough, runny nose and bunged up sinuses, it’s not really a huge thing. It’s not common to be utterly bedridden with a cold. Obviously, other respiratory viruses are different to colds and can, therefore, be more debilitating. It’s not ridiculous, a common cold’s description is a ‘mild’ viral infection.

*This. Posters on mumsnet always seem to know the exact person who gave them or their child an illness. Whether that’s a friend or relative or even the precise child in their DCs school.

In reality colds are going around everywhere at the moment and you can be contagious for 2 weeks with the cold virus. So ‘we haven’t been around any other ill people’ doesn’t mean anything.

Colds spread and a lot of the time nobody’s at fault or blame.*

Honestly this.

My in laws did the same but if I pull them on it, they will deny it until they're blue in the face and claim it's going around - but they were the only sick people we have been near.

Dear me. Are we talking about a sniffly cold here or typhoid?

Colds are everywhere.

YANBU. Some years ago, we invited a friend round for dinner and it was only once he'd sat down and been handed a drink that he told us he was just starting a 'really bad' cold. My DH caught it, but thankfully I didn't. The person who passed it on is on a salary, so took the week off, spending 16 hours a day in bed. Thanks for letting us know, Salary Man. We're self-employed, so no work means no money. We both work outside and are generally quite unsociable, so DH didn't pass it onto anyone else but he felt like absolute shit for several days.

I think if they're happy to have you there and you can keep out of their way that's fine - I wouldn't want one of my adult dc staying in their house alone over xmas when they were sick.

I'd be naffed off too. Tbh I'm busy laughing at your user name. That wins the internet today for me 🤣🤣Hope you feel better soon OP x

because we have runny noses mixed with intense mucus. Who wants to be around that? We’re coughing, sneezing. .. still unwell, even though we’ve been feeling ill for a week now. We probably have Covid, but we have not taken any tests.

Also woke up today with a fever and general achy ness. Our plans were with a 74yr and 79yr. No way we’re giving them our sickness 😭😫

Twenty odd years ago, I was on a 1 day course. There was a woman there who was sneezing and hacking with non-stop running nose. It looked like I was going to be seated next to her and I simply told the organiser that I wasn't sitting next to somebody in that kind of state. I had a newborn baby at home. She whined at me through all the mucus, but I didn't end up sitting next to her.

Thanks my name comes from what literally what runs through my mind every time I see a certain small pet of mine 😅

Just an update, symptoms have significantly worsened, shortness of breath, wheezing and chest pains. Have been advised by a nurse in the family that I need to have my chest listened to tomorrow so going to try and find somewhere to do it. Medication not really helping and I can’t eat, feeling quite scared ☹️.

Oh I'm really sorry OP
my guess is some antibiotics and steroid inhaler.. voice of experience.

if that person has given you a chest infection or worse, tell them in no uncertain terms that you'll not have them round with a cold or cough again.

You mean OTC meds aren't helping, right?

I hope you get seen tomorrow.

Please call 111. There is a big increase in pneumonia at the moment and it sounds as if you are very poorly.

DD,her DP,kids have all been ill, various symptoms. Asked for COVID tests, I dropped some off. Hers was negative, I understand they had another relative visiting in the week,who had same symptoms. Have now been told it actually WAS COVID,(and his test was positive, but they haven't told me that) am fuming, they're meant to be visiting today or tomorrow, I had it first time in September, now long Covid,under cardiac consultant and 3 others. How do I say anything, without letting on that other relative has been informed? She is CV and left Christmas presents on the doorstep

I hope you are feeling better now OP