To be seething at relative who’s passed on an illness this close to Christmas

[YaWeeFurryBastard]

Probably BVU but I’m awake in the middle of the night unable to sleep on day 2 of a bloody rotten cold. Relative came to stay for three days earlier in the week and neglected to mention they had a cold, I did hear some snuffling and throat clearing but put it down to age.

I have a crap immune system and pick up everything going and it always seems to be worse than for others as well. I am frankly really pissed off they didn’t mention it so I could have steered well clear of them as we are hosting Christmas for the first time with multiple relatives staying and I now feel bloody awful and would rather just be in bed.

I was so excited for this and have spent ages planning a nice day and now I just feel it will be ruined as going to feel like complete shit. Going elsewhere is not an option and all food has been bought. Guests are still happy to come despite my cold so I’ll just have to soldier on but I’m really not looking forward to it. Have dosed up on all the right meds but doesn’t seem to be making much difference.

I’d honestly never see that friend again. I had a friend like this and no longer see her as she made my child unwell too many times by meeting up when really unwell and my child ended up being hospitalized was the final straw!

It's a bit awkward you clearly didn't but there we go. Rest of us did.

YANBU. One year, some relatives came with a sickness bug. Insisted it was probably just the pizza they ate the day before. Still do to this day. Never mind the fact they passed it on to 4 others.

They were sick throughout Christmas eve. A few of us were staying in the same place and then got woken up to the sound of their DD throwing up Christmas morning. Ended up passing it to my brother, as well as my nephew. I have emetophobia so they ended up ruining it for us too.

Stupid selfish people (doesn't help they weren't my direct family and shouldn't even have been there that day - stepmum's family who invited themselves last minute)

We're all still seething from that ruined Christmas. The fact they kept denying it and made no effort to avoid spreading it does not help!

This year, DB's family have recently all had Covid. He's kept us posted of who's tested positive when and left it up to us if we would rather stay away. It's just basic manners.

I always stay away from events etc when I'm ill and inform people if I'm under the weather. Coming from a family of asthmatics, it's just the kindest thing to do.

Such a bummer!
and I completely understand why you’re irate.

We kept our LO away from playdates and such for fear that we would get sick (last year we missed Christmas with family because we got Covid 😡) and we STILL GOT SICK!!!

No idea WHERE we got it from, as we haven’t gone anywhere either 😭

Now we’ve had to cancel Christmas Day plans as we are on day 7 of this awful cold. We were hoping that the worst was behind, but today was just brutal.

I get your annoyance. Up with 20month old DS, both got that sticking rotten cold.
Every time I see this same friend, we get ill.
I'm 29 weeks pregnant, with a crap immune system anyway, so feeling particularly peeved to be ill right now.

Seriously makes me consider new friends.

I wonder if they’re seething at the person who gave it to them? 🤔

It’s annoying to have a bug, but also hard to avoid at this time of year, especially if you ‘pick up everything going’.

Maybe they didn't know they were ill. If people stayed indoors with every sniffle the UK would collapse! I woke up this morning with a very tiny cough. I did a covid test as we are due to meet up with immunocompromised friends later, and it's bloody covid! I would usually not have bothered testing as symptoms are so mild (so far). I could have picked it up anywhere, silly to blame someone IMO.

I agree to an extent, but it doesn’t improve your chances any when people are careless. My dd(19) has long Covid. Her dad is remarried with two kids who obviously get sick a lot, as all kids do. She’s asked them repeatedly to let her know if the kids are ill and she won’t visit. Last weekend she went to stay and the kids were poorly but her dad hadn’t let her know.

She came home and tested positive for Covid (to any smart arse who asks why she’s still testing, it’s because she was hospitalised with heart problems the last two times she had Covid, so she’s very, very wary). I felt ill and tested positive yesterday. Christmas is now cancelled in our house, I feel too weak and achy to even think about peeling a spud! Last time I had Covid it took weeks and weeks to shake it off (I have M.E and ulcerative colitis).

Why can’t selfish people understand that just because something is “just a bit of a cold” to them, doesn’t mean we’re all as lucky?

Really sorry, your ex is a total bastard and I hope you’re both ok 💐.

I’m on the verge of tears to be honest. I feel horrendous and in no way up to preparing veg and hosting tonight. Been sick due to coughing and had about 3 hours sleep. Most of the visitors are being ver dismissive and saying it’s just a cold and to get on with it. I’ve only just bloody recovered from a brutal chest infection so I’m absolutely wiped out. I can sense a massive family row coming ☹️

I wouldn't be bothered about getting a cold but last Xmas we turned up at MILs only for her to announce that FIL had a stomach bug. I was not impressed with that and really felt like she ought to have called it off. I spent the whole time trying to avoid touching, eating or breathing.

About half the people in the office had a cold last week. Its just one of those things.

Thats not on. Don't get on with it if you are unwell. Let them get on with it

Fully aware I’m probably being a dramatic moaner! DH is off to get me some night nurse when the shops open and is going to do all the cooking with my mum.

Yeah, I think relative probably didn’t think it would be an issue so I do think I’m unreasonably angry ☹️

Yeah that is worse really, pretty sure I have emetephobia so I would be on my knees with a stomach bug. Even the sick from hacking with this cold is bad enough.

YANBU. We’ve had to cancel our Christmas plans as we all caught flu from a friend who stayed last week. I guess I’ll have to drag myself to the shops in a mask today just to get some chicken nuggets in for tomorrow. The only silver lining is that DD is still too young to understand that we’ve cancelled Christmas.

Why would you have to cancel your Christmas plans because you are on day 7 of a cold?

If you spent all day in bed yesterday it should be fairly obvious you wouldn't sleep overnight.
I am taking you at your word that it's just a cold here.....get up, get moving and get some fresh air. You will then be able to sleep overnight as you will actually be tired.

We're due to go and see our grandsons today. We've woken up sneezy and snottery. I'll check with their DParents later and understand if they'd rather we gave it a miss. I'd be so sad, but don't want to pass anything on especially over Christmas. Might just be a facetime call.

She explains this in the last sentence of the post you’re quoting.

@YaWeeFurryBastard
Ignore the unkind / dismissive comments

Completely get it

It's awful feeling awful but when it was avoidable and with it being Cmas too, it's worse
I've been laid in bed crying cos I feel rough and I'm not a crier at all

Dose up, drink lots of water, let some air in and hope for the best

Mind over matter OP something that is a decongestant (sudofed), and plenty of caffeine. The year I had a really bad cold I spent it rather tipsy was a very fun Christmas in the end!

It's annoying they didn't tell you but if you just heard about of snuffling or throat clearing it might have been the case that they personally were not that unwell with it and so didn't think it was serious enough to say. I find colds seem to vary in severity for different people. I would always tell someone if I was visiting and had a bad cold but probably wouldn't think to if I just had some sniffles.