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To pull her up in "public" about this?

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Auntieobem · 23/12/2023 08:22

Last night DD was in a Christmas show - big event, looking forward to it for months. Night was ruined by 3 drunk women behind us who shouted at each other the whole way through, swearing and generally being arses. After a while I realised that I knew one of them vaguely through work, so turned around and said hello to her (hoping that seeing me would embarrass her into shutting up) - I just got abuse from the women she was with.

Will be due to attend a meeting with her in the New Year. Would I be unreasonable to mention in front of people how she'd been???

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Tessisme · 23/12/2023 12:24

By all means fantasise inside your head about how great it would feel to make her squirm. But DO NOT DO IT. Things rarely play out the way you want in real life.

LBFseBrom · 23/12/2023 12:44

theduchessofspork · 23/12/2023 08:27

Of course it would be unreasonable

You would be the one who looked unprofessional, not her

Raise it with her in private if you want to

I think that too.

One should never publicly humiliate another; if you have something to say to them, take them to one side and mention it. Just because this person and her friends upset you (and probably others), there is no need for you to get your own back. Be the bigger person, op, it is far more dignified. If you did mention it at a meeting, nobody would be impressed with you.

Please don't think I do not sympathise with you because I do.

The woman was presumably quite inebriated at the time and may well now wish she had not been.

TheYearOfSmallThings · 23/12/2023 13:11

Tessisme · 23/12/2023 12:24

By all means fantasise inside your head about how great it would feel to make her squirm. But DO NOT DO IT. Things rarely play out the way you want in real life.

Totally agree.

OutsideLookingOut · 23/12/2023 13:55

I wouldn't blame you.
I wish so many people didn't get drunk to the point of inconveniencing others and making complete fools of themselves. It is a national problem.

ShittingPeugeot · 23/12/2023 15:37

I mean I wouldn't say anything really I'd just avoid her but if you're bursting at the seams to say something and it won't affect your job a 'gosh, your friends a loud cunt' and walk away.

MzHz · 23/12/2023 21:38

Auntieobem · 23/12/2023 10:28

Indeed. It was surprising to hear shouts of "motherfucker!" when jingle bells came on...

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You know what? I would mention it to the contracting manager @Auntieobem

ActDottie · 24/12/2023 19:59

Glenthebattleostrich · 23/12/2023 08:29

I would say it was nice to see you at my daughter's performance just before Christmas, you certainly seemed yo be enjoying it, with a big smile and watch her squirm!

Something like this I think would be enough

Dibbydoos · 25/12/2023 02:17

Def raise it but not in front of others.

How rude.

Skodacool · 26/12/2023 06:35

Dotcheck · 23/12/2023 08:57

Why didn’t you just ask them to keep their voices down? Surely that would have been the ONLY option for dealing with this?

Why do you want to drag her work into it?
I’m not sure you are thinking this through. What, really do you suppose her colleague/ boss could do? THEY will just be uncomfortable. It would take very little for her to deny it. She would be believed because, after all, what kind of twat brings up something like this weeks later and at work?
Crazy

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If you RTFT you’ll sea that people did ask them to be quiet and got sworn at.
I’m staggered, but sadly not surprised at the tone of the responses here. Disruptive behaviour in theatres is getting increasingly common, yet we must ‘let it go’. I expect OP was wary of challenging potentially violent people but the abuse she’s getting on here shows how low standards of behaviour are getting. Sad.

Londonrach1 · 26/12/2023 06:40

No. It backfire as showing you as mean and very unprofessional

Skodacool · 26/12/2023 11:09

OutsideLookingOut · 23/12/2023 13:55

I wouldn't blame you.
I wish so many people didn't get drunk to the point of inconveniencing others and making complete fools of themselves. It is a national problem.

This

LovelyIssues · 29/12/2023 22:18

I'd definitely say "were you and your mates ok the other evening? Couldn't work out if you were arguing, hope all is ok" with a fake concerned look in front of others

LBFseBrom · 30/12/2023 05:46

No, not in front of others, that would be mean spirited and achieve nothing except to embarrass the 'others'. It's over now, I think if the op wants to say something, she should do it discreetly, or else just leave it. It wasn't pleasant but nobody died.

Goldypants · 30/12/2023 05:49

Where on earth do you live ?

Frangipanyoul8r · 30/12/2023 06:11

I’d have asked for them to be removed. Too late to do anything about it now.

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