To feel like I want to go home, even though I'm already at home?

[WantToGoHomee]

I'm in my 20s still living with parents, with all of my siblings and my family dog. I'm at home, the same home that I've lived in my entire life. Yet I find myself saying to myself 'I want to go home' even when I'm sitting at home. Does anyone else experience this? There's this sad, mournful longing for 'home', but I'm already at home?

It’s something I say quite often, not really sure why but just a feeling I get. Your not alone.

I find myself saying it too, mostly if I’m overwhelmed or stressed. Quite often I am home and it’s not a longing for my childhood home, more a ‘stop the world I want to get off’ plea!

Yep I’ve been searching and yearning for “home” for a few years now. It’s a state of anxiety or discomfort I think.

I’ve always wished I was somewhere else.

Could it be that you're starting to want your own space now?

Yanbu at all.
We recently left our rented property (owners sold up) and we moved in with my parents briefly while our sale went through. Their house was always "home", but as a PP said, that feeling of wanting your own space that you've made into a home, is a very real feeling.

I often have this feeling too. The Welsh actually have a word for it - hiraeth - https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hiraeth

It's a feature of being an adult unfortunately. However sometimes you can confuse it with thirst and a big drink of water will sort you out.

Someone at work was talking about this feeling the other week. They said that they felt home sick even when they were at home.
She reckoned it was anxiety. Unease.

In a similar vein, elderly people with dementia often say they want to go home, and they don't necessarily mean a physical place, they mean that sense of comfort and belonging that someone has already described as Hiraeth. It might be that you're ready to start the journey of creating your own home. After all, there's no place like it.

I felt this so strongly as a child. Like feeling homesick but right as I was sat at home. If it's a common feeling I wonder why it hasn't spawned additional theories about past lives, genetic memories etc...

I suspect it's a yearning for your own home, your own space, to spread your wings into adulthood and be able to make a space your own, have freedom, autonomy and independence.

The comments above have really been a relief to me. I have sometimes said this or felt like this when I'm stressed or overtired.

@Spinet

lmao

I sometimes feel like this. It's usually when I need space. I have my own home, and my own family, and I feel like it when I'm overwhelmed or haven't been able to decompress properly. I usually take it as more of a "I need to take a moment" rather than a need to actually go anywhere. I need to feel safe and secure and calm.

Awww OP. I am ancient and have on one or two tricky occasions recently thought ‘I want my mum.’ I definitely don’t, we’ve swapped places now tbh and she makes shit worse 🤣 What I want is to be small and worry-free and comforted and cared for. Sounds like something similar. Short-circuit in the wiring type thing.

I feel this all the time. I’m homesick. I don’t know what for. I just don’t think I have ever felt truly safe in any place (traumatic childhood, neglect etc)

It’s a strange restless anxiousness that can’t be soothed. I don’t think everyone feels it tbh, a lot of people I have spoken to don’t feel it or don’t admit they do.

You're not in your own home. You're in your parents' home. This is just what happens when you become an adult.

My oldest DC will repeatedly say "I want to go home," when soothing herself during ND overwhelm. She's done it since she was tiny. I used to find it heartbreaking, but now see it is like a mantra of reconnection with the home she's in, as she experiences herself as out of her zone when in overwhelm, like she's weaving a spell of security and comfort around herself.

That's odd. Do you think you lived a previous life somewhere @WantToGoHomee ??? And that is why you don't feel you are home?

I have never felt that I am 'not at home,' but I grew up in a big busy town, and moved to a tiny low population village some 7 years ago (35 miles north of my 'hometown,') and I felt like I had 'come home' when I moved here. I have never felt so comfortable and happy anywhere.

I mean I wasn't UNHAPPY in my old town/the places I have lived before, indeed I have been happy where I have lived before - but I feel 'at home' here IYSWIM. People are really friendly and welcoming, and when I first got here, and walked around some of the lanes/by the canal/along the riverside, I felt as if I had walked these walks before, and I feel as if I have belonged here all my life.

I get this. It's not a literal desire to be at home. For me, it's more about wanting to be a child again and feel safe and secure and looked after.

I get this. Particularly just after having my baby

Yes I get this horrible homesick feeling. I've had it since I was a child. It happens less now.

I used to wonder if I was adopted as it was such a strong, undescribable urge.

Sometimes when I’m in bed I really long for being tucked up in bed… so weird. For me it’s about feeling where I’m at, feeling my body and feeling comfortable.

I was thinking this a while ago is it something to do with past lifes.

I sometimes miss home but i am home.
I miss the country side so much I never lived in the county side.
Also miss the people cant explain that one.
If im out for a day or a drive around and i end up miles in the county or in a small village in the middle of nowhere i feel so at home.
It's very odd i am normal i swear😄