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To feel like I want to go home, even though I'm already at home?

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WantToGoHomee · 21/12/2023 12:22

I'm in my 20s still living with parents, with all of my siblings and my family dog. I'm at home, the same home that I've lived in my entire life. Yet I find myself saying to myself 'I want to go home' even when I'm sitting at home. Does anyone else experience this? There's this sad, mournful longing for 'home', but I'm already at home?

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caodha · 26/12/2023 13:20

I have the same experience. Quite often and it’s nothing to do with my physical surroundings- I wondered if it is a more spiritual experience wanting to go back to where you came from. It’s not hiraeth although I’m Welsh -it’s definitely not homesickness for another country or a wish to be in another house- interesting and glad to know others have felt b this way too.

MrsHughesPinny · 26/12/2023 22:34

I’ve experienced this since I was little. I always called it ‘wanting my Mum’ even if she was with me. I lived in the same house for the vast majority of my childhood and would feel it there. I experienced it particularly intensely when I was pregnant and right after, so I don’t think it’s about wanting a home of your own in my mind it’s more about wanting to feel looked after.

I do also believe in genetic memory/the possibility of past lives so I’ve often wondered if it’s that. I also have recurring dreams of a particular place where I’ve never been.

Willyoubuymeahouseofgold · 26/12/2023 22:43

We call it ' the bad feeling ' in our family. You can feel homesick at work or at home...or anywhere. I had it so bad as a child it felt like a physical hole in my chest ... It's awful. You have to get up and move.

WantToGoHomee · 27/12/2023 17:22

It does feel like this deep, ancestral longing.

I remember when I was a child having this kind of inclination/memory of before I was born, and being 'chosen' for this particular life. As a child it felt like a memory, and I can picture it clearly now. It was probably just a dream or something I thought up as a child as some kind of child-like and cliche interpretation of what I was taught at my religious primary school. I always think of it when I have the 'I want to go home' feeling, as if it's that I'm longing for Heaven.

I'm not religious anymore, but it still tugs at me a little

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ssd · 27/12/2023 23:05

I totally identify with a lot of these posts. I have it just now. Its a feeling like everything's down to me and i just want to be soothed and looked after. Like when i was in primary and came home for lunch during school and mum was always there, not fussing over me, just there.
That's what i want, feeling safe and secure and looked after.

PurpleOrchid42 · 27/12/2023 23:13

For me, as an adult with kids of my own, it's really a feeling of wishing I could be a child again, at my childhood home, with my parents looking after me, no responsibilities, the world at my feet, everything still to play for and nothing to lose. The ultimate safe and happy feeling. Happens when everything feels to difficult/upsetting.

PurpleBugz · 28/12/2023 00:18

I felt like this soo many times. Once it was because I wanted my own home not my parents home. Then it was because the man I was with had me feeling home wasn't home. Now I'm single, own my house make all the decisions for my home and I well and truly feel at home here.

For me it was about wanting a safe space and autonomy

Tiredwithaspecialneedschild · 16/05/2024 21:55

‘home’ isn’t necessarily a place, ‘home’ is where you feel safe. So essentially you could be saying “I want to feel safe”

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