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That this is getting on my tits?

109 replies

Grapefruitstars · 20/12/2023 16:32

Work in a nice team. We get presents over Xmas. The usual chocolates etc. One member of the team has started saying I eat all the chocolate and have hidden some for myself. This isn't true. Literally everytime I get up out my chair this starts. Ohhh grapefruit has gone for the food, she's eaten all the goodies. It's getting on my fucking tits.

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ChilledToTheBone · 20/12/2023 16:33

Just tell them to f off. I would and have in a similar situation

Sauvblanctime · 20/12/2023 16:33

Tell them to fuck off

EvilElsa · 20/12/2023 16:34

'That's really not as funny as you think it is' and then ignore every comment from then on. They want a response. Tune it out.

husbandcallsmepickle · 20/12/2023 16:34

Maybe they're trying to distract from the fact they're the one eating all the treats

DeedlessIndeed · 20/12/2023 16:35

Ooh that would rile me up, what a cheeky cow!

StephanieSuperpowers · 20/12/2023 16:36

What an arsehole.

Xmasisoffsantahascovid · 20/12/2023 16:38

At a previous job our manager was always reminding us to sign in with whatever money we had.. New rules... One day someone pointed out he never signed cash or card in but was always eating. He was caught out thieving...

velvetoptions · 20/12/2023 16:45

you say you work in a nice team

is this person also nice?

in which case… why not just say “oh come on, please stop saying that… it’s making me feel uncomfortable getting up to go to the toilet let alone actually have a chocolate!”

Marwoodsbigbreak · 20/12/2023 16:46

Fuck off is the correct response

MaggieFS · 20/12/2023 16:49

Just say something like "I'm not sure if you think that constantly saying that deflects from everyone knowing you eat the most, but it doesn't and it's irritating. Please stop."

Even if they don't, it should shut them up.

TomatoSandwiches · 20/12/2023 16:51

Why would they do that? It's not even funny.

Nanny0gg · 20/12/2023 16:51

velvetoptions · 20/12/2023 16:45

you say you work in a nice team

is this person also nice?

in which case… why not just say “oh come on, please stop saying that… it’s making me feel uncomfortable getting up to go to the toilet let alone actually have a chocolate!”

Edited

'Fuck off' is shorter.

OracleofWurms · 20/12/2023 16:52

Usually if it was me id say of course , i have a secret loot.

Jelly0naplate · 20/12/2023 16:52

This is actually bullying. Tell them to stop with the comments and if that doesn't work report to management /HR. It's that simple. Don't bring in personal comments about them eating the most as it brings you down to their level

velvetoptions · 20/12/2023 16:53

Nanny0gg · 20/12/2023 16:51

'Fuck off' is shorter.

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well yes, if you want everyone to look up from their desks with a start and think “shit…. is @Grapefruitstars about to blow a gasket over chocolate?”

mathanxiety · 20/12/2023 16:54

"That might have been funny the first time you said it, but it's just really boring now".

TomatoSandwiches · 20/12/2023 16:57

Is it some awkward display of trying to get your attention op? Could they fancy you and just be going about it in a really immature way?

Legoninjago1 · 20/12/2023 16:58

Sounds a bit passive aggressive to me. Is she jealous/ resentful of you for any reason do you think?

MorningSunshineSparkles · 20/12/2023 16:59

I’d be telling them to cut it out, “teasing” is a form of bullying.

Edited as my reading comprehension is clearly failing this evening.

ManateeFair · 20/12/2023 17:01

Christ, they sound tedious. It's that sort of weird, unfunny negging that becomes a bit of obsessive and is basically low level bullying.

In a similar situation, I think I eventually responded in a wry sort of tone but with no hint of a smile, 'Susan, I realise you find this hilarious but it's really fucking boring me now and we're not five years old, so can you just give it a rest?'

toomuchfaff · 20/12/2023 17:02

What you need to do is make them embarrassed

I'm sorry, what did you say, I didn't hear you (they repeat it),
Oh what do you mean, sorry I don't understand (they expand or repeat)
I'm sorry I don't get what you mean? Is it me being a bit thick? What do you mean?
(by now should be squirming a bit)
And carry on and on til they squirm... they have to squirm, ACT STUPID... ACT THICK, ACT DEAF anything just get them to repeat, and repeat and expand til they squirm...

Dacadactyl · 20/12/2023 17:05

velvetoptions · 20/12/2023 16:45

you say you work in a nice team

is this person also nice?

in which case… why not just say “oh come on, please stop saying that… it’s making me feel uncomfortable getting up to go to the toilet let alone actually have a chocolate!”

Edited

This is the only sane response so far.

velvetoptions · 20/12/2023 17:06

toomuchfaff · 20/12/2023 17:02

What you need to do is make them embarrassed

I'm sorry, what did you say, I didn't hear you (they repeat it),
Oh what do you mean, sorry I don't understand (they expand or repeat)
I'm sorry I don't get what you mean? Is it me being a bit thick? What do you mean?
(by now should be squirming a bit)
And carry on and on til they squirm... they have to squirm, ACT STUPID... ACT THICK, ACT DEAF anything just get them to repeat, and repeat and expand til they squirm...

whilst i agree to making them feel embarrassed is the way to go

your example of how to do so would simply make the OP look very slow on the uptake. And he would just say “all i’m saying is that you clearly enjoy indulging in the chocs… and good for you i say!”

And then what? if the OP kept repeating “i don’t understand” it’s going to look a bit odd

velvetoptions · 20/12/2023 17:07

Dacadactyl · 20/12/2023 17:05

This is the only sane response so far.

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i always think some posters like to give advice that they themselves would never actually do or say if it was them in the OP’s shoes.

JenJenJenJenJenJen · 20/12/2023 17:09

My trick with difficult people who think they’re smart when they say stuff like this is to get them to repeat it until they realise how ridiculous they sound.

“Ohhh grapefruit has gone for the food, she's eaten all the goodies”

”I didn’t catch that, Julie, can you say it again?”

”I was saying that you’re going to eat more sweets”

”I’m not sure I get you, Julie, say it again”.

And keep going.

Edited to add- I didn’t refresh the page so I’m repeating what @toomuchfaff said, coincidentally!