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Some people are so fucking selfish 🤬

127 replies

BlondeRaven · 19/12/2023 21:48

Who the fuck thinks it’s ok to send a 6yo into school with a tummy bug anytime let alone 4 days before everyone breaks up for Christmas!

Turns out the child was up throwing up all night but the parents didn’t want them missing out on Christmas activities so sent them in, only for the school to send them home 2 hours later after the child projectiled all over the classroom. The mum was pissed off as she was out shopping and is complaining about being called into school WTF!

So fucking stupid and selfish!

I had to walk away from her complaining at the school gate, I know I should have kicked off but I was afraid I’d just loose it. We have 2 immune compromised people in our house and planning on visiting elderly relatives this week, I’ve done all my shopping and avoiding crowded places to reduce risks so we can see them this year and the selfish bitch just sends her contagious child into school because otherwise it’s inconvenient for her 🤬🤬🤬🤬

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FlyingCherub · 19/12/2023 21:50

People like that need calling out on their shitty behaviour.

Poor kid.

DustyLee123 · 19/12/2023 21:51

Poor child must have felt so ill.

whatdidshedotogetahillnamedafterher · 19/12/2023 21:51

You are a much better person than me OP . I would have gone to town on this stupid mother who has no common sense.

DrinkFeckArseBrick · 19/12/2023 21:53

I know someone who has done this this week. Both have flexible working so could have stayed home with their sick child. Not in my child's class but I can't believe the fucking selfishness. That's potentially a huge number of people's spoiled Christmases because they didn't want to work from home with a 5 year old bothering them. Disgusting

IDontLoveTheWayYouLie · 19/12/2023 21:53

What a silly cow. The poor kid would have had to have gone in feeling like shite too.

Ponoka7 · 19/12/2023 21:55

My GC vomited in school today, but it was because of the antibiotics combined with the laxatives that they are on. Not all vomiting is bug related.

gamerchick · 19/12/2023 21:55

Poor bairn being forced to go into school feeling like that.

Sapphire387 · 19/12/2023 21:56

Does the dad not bear any responsibility either?

Other than that, YANBU. Very selfish behaviour.

Catsbreakfast · 19/12/2023 21:58

Ponoka7 · 19/12/2023 21:55

My GC vomited in school today, but it was because of the antibiotics combined with the laxatives that they are on. Not all vomiting is bug related.

Are you for real? A kid on antibiotics vomiting should still not be in school.

Onceuponaheartache · 19/12/2023 21:59

Ponoka7 · 19/12/2023 21:55

My GC vomited in school today, but it was because of the antibiotics combined with the laxatives that they are on. Not all vomiting is bug related.

My dd regularly vomits as part of her asthma attacks, however the mum has told the op their kid eas upchucking all night...very much a bug I'm this instance.

@BlondeRaven I would have ripped her a new one in your position so kudos for keeping calm!! But I have an imuno compromised child so the absolute fuckwittery of parents who think school is the best place for a sick child never ceases to amaze me.

Missingmyusername · 19/12/2023 21:59

13% would still send their sick child to school apparently. 🙄
YANBU OP.

Goodlard · 19/12/2023 22:02

BlondeRaven · 19/12/2023 21:48

Who the fuck thinks it’s ok to send a 6yo into school with a tummy bug anytime let alone 4 days before everyone breaks up for Christmas!

Turns out the child was up throwing up all night but the parents didn’t want them missing out on Christmas activities so sent them in, only for the school to send them home 2 hours later after the child projectiled all over the classroom. The mum was pissed off as she was out shopping and is complaining about being called into school WTF!

So fucking stupid and selfish!

I had to walk away from her complaining at the school gate, I know I should have kicked off but I was afraid I’d just loose it. We have 2 immune compromised people in our house and planning on visiting elderly relatives this week, I’ve done all my shopping and avoiding crowded places to reduce risks so we can see them this year and the selfish bitch just sends her contagious child into school because otherwise it’s inconvenient for her 🤬🤬🤬🤬

Did she disclose the fact the child had been vomiting all night when collecting the child?

How strange...

DragonMama3 · 19/12/2023 22:08

Don't you think the attendance rules push attendance - all these 100 pc attendance awards?

DragonMama3 · 19/12/2023 22:12

I had whooping cough as a child. I still vomit when I'm really ill. It's a weakness caused by the pertussis. I'm not infectious. It terrified the minor injuries unit as covid was there first thought.

StrawberryWater · 19/12/2023 22:17

Don't even get me started on selfish assholes!

Someone in Ds's class brought a covid infection in last week and now he has it a week before Christmas. Both Dh and I are ill too and poor old Ds has missed out on all his school parties, after school and weekend activities that we had planned and now Christmas itself is likely postponed because we're all coughing our guts up and can't taste anything and I haven't been able to go shopping.

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BlondeRaven · 19/12/2023 22:18

@Goodlard yes, though not directly to me, her friend, but we were all stood in a group chatting.

@Sapphire387 no idea, the dad works shifts so not sure he was aware or if he was part of the decision.

Part of me is kicking myself for not kicking off but the other part is saying would it actually have made a difference if I had. I can be quite explicit when loosing my temper and I’d never forgive myself if I lost it at the school gates. I try and keep myself neutral at school avoiding drama and politics but this definitely pissed me off.

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Twicemother · 19/12/2023 22:18

Would a coughing reception child be too sick for school?

I get so confused. They seem to have constantly running noses and colds as soon as they've recovered from one!

I remember being off school at the slightest hint of any kind illness, my attendance was awful. So I'm never sure if I'm being cruel to send them to school or silly to keep them home!

Vomiting is an obvious no no. But how about coughing?

Rosegarden12 · 19/12/2023 22:21

It drives me insane when things like this happen, anytime of the year, Christmas does seem to be especially selfish. So annoying how some people don’t think the rules apply to them.

We had an incident of 10 year old physically throwing up in the classroom at end of day, child was collected as usual as was very close to school pick up time. Said child was back in the very next day and the school did nothing. My child then contracted the nasty sickness bug (was confirmed by child’s parent to another) and was off for 3 days.

Fingers cross your family stays healthy over the festive period.

Rosscameasdoody · 19/12/2023 22:22

Ponoka7 · 19/12/2023 21:55

My GC vomited in school today, but it was because of the antibiotics combined with the laxatives that they are on. Not all vomiting is bug related.

And not all children vomiting in school are on a combination of antibiotics and laxatives - which, by the way, I would think is a reason for them not to be in school.

YouBoggleMyMind · 19/12/2023 22:23

My DS vomited last night and we have kept him off today and will tomorrow as per the 48 hour rules. I hate when people disregard them, even more so when it's this close to Christmas. My DS has and will miss out on end of term Christmas fun but there's no way he'd be back at school until he was 48 hours clear.

Hotchocolateand5marshmellows · 19/12/2023 22:24

Poor child. Imagine if it had come out the other end at school.

Andthereyougo · 19/12/2023 22:25

A mum brought her ds into school, he’d been at home vomiting until that morning. When I said he’d have to leave, rules etc… she started crying and berating me about how she had to see him in the Nativity play and his dad had taken the morning off work especially. She couldn’t see any harm in a projectile-vomiting shepherd being on the stage with 40-50 other kids………

IDontLoveTheWayYouLie · 19/12/2023 22:26

DragonMama3 · 19/12/2023 22:08

Don't you think the attendance rules push attendance - all these 100 pc attendance awards?

Forget the attendance rules if it means the whole class could be ill.

wronginalltherightways · 19/12/2023 22:27

Yep. We've had the same this week: children telling me they'd been throwing up at the weekend, even Sunday night, and parents brought them in. They were outraged when we called them and made them collect them.

Selfish arseholes, the lot of them.

instantick · 19/12/2023 22:28

My kids and I have been off since last week as I won't send mine in poorly there due to go back tomorrow but I hate people who do things like this and think it's ok it's not you keep them off until they are recovered as it is not fair on them or other families. I would of kicked off