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To find this a bit boastful?

226 replies

Sandstorm33 · 19/12/2023 13:57

I have a friend with an 18 month old daughter with her husband. They often post photos of her/them all as a family on social media, and I rarely seem to see this friend anymore but I know they have bought a new build home and her husband is in quite a senior position at work.
They posted a picture of their daughter yesterday and wrote a caption: "We are so blessed with our jobs to be in a position to provide you with absolutely everything you need and so much more!"
I just think it's a bit showy-off, yes it's not a big deal but it's kind of boasting that they earn well, and that it's only monetary things that matter/mean you can provide.

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YouOKHun · 19/12/2023 14:46

Well they haven’t provided everything for their child have they? There is no provision for their child’s privacy, which is a major thing anyone can do for their children for free. I’ve got older teens and adult children and they’d be pretty unhappy to see this kind of output popping up on FB Memories to haunt them.

Over the last few days I’ve been mourning the loss of the Christmas Round Robin letter which mercifully confined the wankery to two sides of A4 once a year. Now social media has given us the gift of all year round smugness, virtue signalling, overt and stealth showing off, carefully edited highlights and calls for everyone else to hashtag be kind while doing nothing to moderate their own behaviour. Just keep hiding people until the only thing that pops up is pictures of Labradors, that’s what I’ve done!

IMustDoMoreExercise · 19/12/2023 14:47

So sad that she has to write things like this.

I remember my ex DIL saying similar things about her marriage when I knew they are having real problems.

I think that people who say things like this are trying to convince themselves that they are happy when they are not.

FictionalCharacter · 19/12/2023 14:47

Smug and extremely boastful. And I can't stand the current trend for saying "blessed" when they mean "fortunate". Do they really think they've been given these things by God or some other deity because they are good deserving people?

BingoMarieHeeler · 19/12/2023 14:48

Crass and also brainless as the baby they’re addressing can’t/will probably never read that caption (nor care).

IMustDoMoreExercise · 19/12/2023 14:48

isthesolution · 19/12/2023 14:07

They sound v unhappy and keen to show the opposite quite honestly.

Yes, I agree with this. Happy people don't need to boast.

IMustDoMoreExercise · 19/12/2023 14:49

FictionalCharacter · 19/12/2023 14:47

Smug and extremely boastful. And I can't stand the current trend for saying "blessed" when they mean "fortunate". Do they really think they've been given these things by God or some other deity because they are good deserving people?

Unfortunately, I think that they do think exactly that.

shearwater2 · 19/12/2023 14:49

Faux modesty - not good.

CatchHimDerry · 19/12/2023 14:51

I know of somebody that does this and it’s basically just another way to draw attention to MLM crap she sells and try to encourage others to want to sign upon the hope that they will be as “lucky”

Slitheringheights · 19/12/2023 14:55

God that’s cringing! That’s embarrassing

Wednesday6 · 19/12/2023 14:55

🤮 never heard anything quite like this!

Mills86 · 19/12/2023 14:58

Well, who’s going to teach her how to behave with tact is my question…

ThreeRingCircus · 19/12/2023 15:03

How utterly embarrassing and tone deaf!

And I totally agree that it's normally the unhappy ones that have something lacking in their personal lives that feel the need to post nonsense like this on social media. My sister did similar, loads of Facebook posts about how lucky she was to be married to BIL and how much she loved him...... right before they divorced and when I knew they were having real issues. It's like they're trying to convince themselves, it's quite sad really.

FrenchandSaunders · 19/12/2023 15:03

They aren't providing her with everything she needs .... humility, humbleness, reading the room. Arses.

FrenchandSaunders · 19/12/2023 15:04

I know someone like this who boasts about her amazing DH ... 'my rock' and all that shit. I know they have huge issues.

HarrietStyles · 19/12/2023 15:06

Yes it’s crass and very insensitive. I’m always so careful about what I post on social media, only put the occasional post of what we are doing. No-one likes a show off, especially so in a cost of living crisis. I had to delete a friend on facebook because her constant posts about holidays, day trips, presents, brags about her children’s achievements etc just make me cringe.
I do understand why people do it - I myself grew up poor but am now in a very fortunate position …… and I totally understand the psychology behind it. But it’s just so cringey isn’t it.

TheBeesKnee · 19/12/2023 15:06

I'd be tempted to comment "congratulations on your new job!!" But then again I can be a twat.

Sarah2891 · 19/12/2023 15:07

It's just embarrassing shite like 99% of social media posts

NeedToChangeName · 19/12/2023 15:07

CatchHimDerry · 19/12/2023 14:51

I know of somebody that does this and it’s basically just another way to draw attention to MLM crap she sells and try to encourage others to want to sign upon the hope that they will be as “lucky”

I've seen similar. Fake it til you make it

nearlyemptynes · 19/12/2023 15:07

They will regret this when she is a teenager

mrlistersgelfbride · 19/12/2023 15:08

Camarthen67912 · 19/12/2023 14:45

I had similar over the weekend. They posted their actual pay cheque on social media 😂 Mind boggling

Hurrendous.
I know someone who takes a picture of their pay slip and sends it to a friend of mine.
You can't buy class.

GodDammitCecil · 19/12/2023 15:08

Social media brings out the worst in many people - it’s been around long enough that we all know that by now.

Lots of people genuinely don’t realise that people are eye-rolling at much of what they post. They are not in aspirational awe.

WorriedMum231 · 19/12/2023 15:10

Do you think they feel bad because they are always working?

Yeah some parents can afford so many things and go on plush holidays a couple times a year but they only get to see them kids on said holiday because for the other 50 weeks of the year they are working.

I could work more, I choose not to. My partner could work more, we choose to see our kids instead. It’s all about choice, we’re all just doing our best with the choices and priorities that we have. I don’t begrudge parents that want to work more, but it does cost them in different ways.

JenniferJuniper80 · 19/12/2023 15:11

Am I mistaken? Or would you be happier to see "sorry we're too poor to buy you Christmas gifts or new clothes. We hope the packet of crayons and second hand pyjamas will be enough this year"

You sound as bitter as a lemon op.

Sorry but, you sound so far up your own arsehole as to be unreal. Your friend is happy to be giving her darling child a lovely Christmas. Try it yourself, instead of getting your knickers in a twist about others.

Mary28 · 19/12/2023 15:12

I think it's twatish too and she'll probably be a bit embarrassed in a few yrs looking back. I just think some people get a bit lost in their own joy, especially after having a baby and they're so blissed out and everything is going really well for them now. Life will not always be like that so I think let them enjoy it and how great for them. Some will always be glass is half full too and others the glass is half empty. I wish I was more glass is half full myself to be honest. I wouldn't rain on their parade but it's not something I would be doing on social media. But I'm cynical and would be expecting to jinx myself with such a post.

dutysuite · 19/12/2023 15:13

I find it embarrassing. I think if you have to let everyone know you’ve got some money you probably don’t have that much.