To dress siblings the same?

[RickWhittington]

Really important post. Vital. Life depends on it. I know, my choice and all but tacky as hell or unbelievably cute?

Tacky unless its page boy suits for a wedding or something like that.

For a wedding I think it looks ok, but everyday where I think it looks a bit cult like. Ie the parent is so desperate to replicate themselves that they cannot accept that the child is a separate and unique individual. My sister and I were dressed alike in the 70s and we both hated it. Mum soon realised it was better to not bother.

Cute.

They're not 12 and 14 in matching dresses. Your baby has a dress and her big bro has a coordinating jumper. It's not even matching

#mother of twins who periodically dresses the boys the same

I completely agree.

I love dressing my boys in matching outfits!

Ultimate try hard wannabee bullshit. They are individuals

oh no! I didn't realise so many people think this is tacky! I sew and make simple clothes for my boys (almost 4yo, and 18mo) - joggers, leggings, tops. and I often use the same fabric. I dont usually purposefully match them and if one didnt want to wear it i wouldn't make them. it is usually one part that would be matching, eg tops but the rest is different.

I think it’s cute!!!

Very tacky

It’s your money and your children, do what the heck you want! It’s not my preference, but who cares?

My SIL has 2 daughters with a 3-4 years age gap and they’ve always been dressed identical. Every time we meet it’s the same outfit with the exact same stupid hair style and accessories. It’s so awful and tacky.

i don't like it. i would've hated being dressed like my younger sister.

My 2 are 16 months apart. It’s pure laziness on my part I just tend to buy 2 of everything.

I was often dressed the same as my sister until I was around 10, we’re two years apart and I am not scarred by the experience. I find it hilarious when I see the pictures.
I have matched outfits with my daughter when she was a toddler and I couldn’t give a toss if people thought it was tacky. You do what you want, not what others like.

"Tacky" isn't a valid criticism. It just marks the critic as a colossal snob.

The key is whether or not the children are happy with it. If they are too little or too laid back to care, or if they actively like it - which they may, if it's an option rather than an edict and it isn't all the time - then it does no harm at all.

The moment either child expresses the slightest objection, it stops and you know they are ready to start exercising agency over what they wear.

I know a family where the son and the dad always dress the same, the sons 13 the dad 45 usually matching stone island/boss clothes they look ridiculous!
On small kids for special occasions its cute!

A big No from me. We have twins, MIL wanted them in identical clothes.

We lived in Chile and middle class families dressed all their children identical clothes. There it was a way of showing their wealth. Once saw a family with 5 boys in a restaurant, probably ages between 2 and 12yr olds. Every boy had the same leather shoes and trousers and shirts from Tommy Hilfiger. it was showing that no hand me downs.

Go for it while you can!

Wannabe what?? Parent of two young kids??

Tacky and cringe!!!!

I have a funny story about this. My Aunty bought me and my 3 older sisters an identical party dress. They were expensive at the time and my parents could have never afforded to buy them for us. They were white with large royal blue polka dots and a huge royal blue sash. She bought us Royal Blue hair ribbon in the same colour. The first year was great we all 4 wore our new dresses and hair ribbons. The following year the dress no longer fit my eldest sister she got a new different dress. My second eldest sister wore her old dress. Basically each dress passed down to a younger sister. The same thing happened the following 2 years. When I look through my old childhood photos there are 5 or possibly even 6 years where I appear to be wearing the same dress from 6-12 years. All my sister's now think it was hilarious. I can clearly remember my best friend saying "Oh, you are wearing that dress again" to a Xmas party.

As an adult who was subjected to this as a child I hated it.

Haha my dc are very individual but still love occasionally dressing the same. It’s cute and often practical - find a dress you like, buy two of them. Shopping done. Why make life harder? My girls all love that the three of them have matching bridesmaids dresses they could wear to parties. No identity crisis and the younger two are identical twins and love photos where they’re dressed the same (and they’ve no idea which is which so have to ask me).

Only where there was a danger of them misbehaving at some special occasion, then they had to look as cute as possible to offset any judgement.
Nowe they are teenagers they slouch around in identical hoodies, (and dressing gowns) does that count?

My girls used to love dressing the same. They'd have days where they'd go and discuss what they would wear to be the same. They didn't all the time. Other than weddings I never did it, but they'd choose to a couple of times a month.
They haven't chosen to for around 10 years, but as the older one is now in her 20s that's not surprising.