Pictures of niece in hospital all over SM but no idea what's wrong

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So bil has posted pics of niece in hospital. She been in for a few days evidently. Lots of what's wrong? Hope she is OK? Posts from family, But nothing to say what is up with her. It's dhs brother kid. I don't feel like engaging over sm and it was serious surely mil or bil would have said? Any way it's up to dh to ask.

A a&e trip I can understand a quick frustrated hand hold FFS type post. But this feels different. She been in for days before posting on FB. Got to ask via SM what's going on? Am I being weird not to ask on SM? Leaving it to dh to ask directly.

What is the point of this thread? No aibu. Clearly an in-family issue

You can always ask in a private message on FB

I had a colleague like this. She would tag her location to hospital ans write "here again 😢" and if people asked what's up she says "I'll DM. Don't want to share here".

"Not sure it's my place to chase that up?"

It certainly is not your place to chase it up.
Your DH has rung his brother. That's enough.

Major cringe alert! Id probably go NC simply for the fact of them posting about it on social media. Cringe cringe cringe

She would. But she already said DH was going to so it's just pointless

Why "obviously not in the UK"? People are hospitalised with tonsillitis in Britain too..

God this drives me mad! MIL posts that she’s at the hospital multiple times a year, always with some vague tag looking for attention.

When you finally get a response, it’s either something entirely routine or very minor. It’s attention seeking and makes people worry for no reason.

On a side note, I usually find that the same people who post vaguely about being in hospital are the same people to absolutely milk someone dying on social media. It doesn’t matter how tenuously they knew the deceased, as long as it gets a few likes.

Posting on SM is attention seeking. Either tell people and be honest about the detail so they don't worry unnecessarily, or keep it quiet.

An overseas student at uni died it was an accidental overdose because of the time difference his parents found out from Facebook.

Why don't people communicate by the 'old ways' rather than using social media?

It's a bit mad IMO.

Why don't you or your husband telephone?

Also, depending how old your niece is, does she agree to her medical stuff being there for people to read?

Surely DH just calls his brother and asks what's wrong?

Not sure why the snide NHS comment.

I work in Paeds. Children are absolutely admitted for tonsillitis if they have trouble with intake( need fluids/pain relief) or a severe infection that requires IV antibiotics.

Which staff would have time to be stopping parents/family members taking photographs of their own children? Children’s wards are busy!

We can ask not to take photos of other patients and staff but not their own family.

People that put their sick kids on social media are so weird. Total invasion of child’s privacy. Medical records are supposed to confidential not attention seeking click bait.

My thoughts exactly!

I've spent a lot of time at hospitals in the past few years and never known of any restrictions on photo taking. I could imagine there may be in certain places like icu/picu but none in NICU or the general adult and children wards

I’ve seen notices posted to that effect in our local hospital - one was in the childrens’ ward, but I think it’s generally frowned on because it would potentially include photos of other peoples’ children. On thinking back I think the other was in the high dependency unit, so you may be right.

When my older sis had a cardiac episode and was admitted to ITU nobody knew about it until she came home
Her absolute AH of a dh wouldn't tell anyone.
My dmum was extremely upset and never forgave him.
What if this admission had a bad outcome...was he going to tell us after the event..?
Thankfully after many ahole episodes with him dsis got rid of him..

God, I hate this style of weird attention seeking bull shit.

You OK hun?
Pm.

Repeat.

I don't understand why people post hospitals pics and updates on their Facebook. If you want family to know then just text them?

What a disgusting and attention seeking thing to do. Poor girl. Focus on your sick child and get off the phone.

All those saying dh should just call, that’s fine however I cannot imagine a time when my nephew was in hospital and my brother would announce on fb before letting close family know. That’s not the dynamic of our family and I totally understand why op finds it odd. It would be very much frowned on in my world.

I hate people posting stupid Vaguebook posts and just waiting for people to ask how they are. Ffs.

It's the fact that he posted and didn't say what was wrong dispite about 30 odd replies asking him what was wrong I'm musing over.

FB is a quick one stop way to update everyone I get that. But I'd say why. I think.