Pictures of niece in hospital all over SM but no idea what's wrong

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So bil has posted pics of niece in hospital. She been in for a few days evidently. Lots of what's wrong? Hope she is OK? Posts from family, But nothing to say what is up with her. It's dhs brother kid. I don't feel like engaging over sm and it was serious surely mil or bil would have said? Any way it's up to dh to ask.

A a&e trip I can understand a quick frustrated hand hold FFS type post. But this feels different. She been in for days before posting on FB. Got to ask via SM what's going on? Am I being weird not to ask on SM? Leaving it to dh to ask directly.

Your DH should call his parents surely?
WRAF also putting all over FB 🤯 family should be told before FB

Social media? No. If it were my niece, I'd be calling and texting

Did your BIL get your niece's permission before putting a photo of her in hospital all over Facebook.

I know I'm old but I do find these type of FB posts quite distasteful.

I'd say if they wanted you to know they'd have phoned someone in the family and asked them to let others know.
Itseems they just want social media attention, which is grubby considering they've an ill child who presumably needs their attention too. Some people are just idiots.

Phoned mil as instructed. Tonsillitis. Obviously not in the UK.

As a side note imagine get that level of care in the UK!

Not sure why bil didn't get back to dh or tell anyone why on FB buy it looks like a non issue

Didn’t reply as it’s a minor
issue and the sympathy would stop pretty damn quick. I have family
members like this. We just assume it’s all a nonsense until told otherwise now - the cousin who cried wolf.

He's an attention whore.

Urrrghh attention seeking at it’s finest. For future reference OP, the acceptable response is a very public ‘Are you ok hon’ on the social media post and then you wait to see if you’re a ‘chosen one’ who gets a ‘I’ll pm you hon’ response. If you’re not a chosen one you’ll grt a ‘Thanks-sooooo stressed’ reply.

Well, you would get admitted in the UK if you had very bad tonsillitis which was stopping you from hydrating or taking antibiotics orally.

Otherwise an admission is pointless.

This sort of thing really pisses me off. I have a friend who does this all the time. Until this point it's never been anything serious (thank goodness) but she has 4 children and they seem to have regular hospital visits. Photo of sad looking kid in a hospital bed with caption "My poor little man is in hospital again. So worried"
FFS. Just say roughly what it is and if you don't want to say what it is, don't share the post in the first place and if it's serious let one or two family members know who can tell other family members if necessary.
She posted fairly recently about one child - she looked pretty bad to be honest. "My poor Ellie, in hospital again". Cue lots of "Oh no, what's happened?" "U ok hun, let me know if I can do anything for you"
Ellie was having 3 baby teeth out under general anaesthetic at the local dental hospital in a planned procedure - but she didn't say that, just posted a cryptic attention-seeking post.

Hate these kinds of SM posts, it’s just attention seeking. Posts on SM in general are all just attention seeking though I guess. Same as people that ‘check in’ at A&E usually for something they don’t really need to be at A&E for.

DS nearly went into sepsis from tonsillitis and needed iv antibiotics, janes Jordan daughter is currently in hospital with the same. If admitted it is probably fairly bad abd can turn bad fairly quickly (trust me on this) and can be very scary.

it may well be downplaying to your mil or just not realising how bad it can get

I’d just text or call my sister in law because my DH and his brother are useless at speaking to each other. But then we have a good relationship so I wouldn’t have given it a second thought.

He sounds like an attention seeker, taking photos of his daughter in hospital and not responding to people asking what's wrong. Typical social media attention seeker.

Just seen this. I don’t know what’s weirder, then posting photos on social media. Or you updating a bunch of internet strangers about your niece’s health. All a bit odd

But you don't know me or DN in real life do you?

Posting anything on MN is pointless surely? Just a load of randomers musing on life's going on.

Yep. It's attention seeking. Not answering people's questions and the inevitable 'I'll PM you hun'. So annoying.

I don't understand why she wouldn't be able to call just because it isn't her sibling?

Surely, as it’s still op’s DN that they presumably care about, it doesn’t need to be her DH that has to contact?
Doesn’t anyone on MN every speak to any IL’s directly?

I actually didn’t think the hospital allowed photographs of inpatients, for exactly this reason.

Those posts drive me nuts tbh - I wouldn't ask over social media either! YANBU
How long does it take to send a text to family saying x is in hospital because of y - instead of family finding out via bloody social media!!!

My cousins wife dies this. Complete with pictures of her hospital bed and cannula.

DD has five hospital stays with severe tonsillitis before having them removed (UK). Hope it’s not too bad, DD was extremely unwell.

Bil tends not to reply to me for a few days. Shame as I do reply promptly to him. As he's not not my brother I'm not comfortable pulling him up on that. He's the same with dh. Should have gone direct to mil in the first place.

Ps. Can’t stand attention seeking fb hospital posts!