Pictures of niece in hospital all over SM but no idea what's wrong

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So bil has posted pics of niece in hospital. She been in for a few days evidently. Lots of what's wrong? Hope she is OK? Posts from family, But nothing to say what is up with her. It's dhs brother kid. I don't feel like engaging over sm and it was serious surely mil or bil would have said? Any way it's up to dh to ask.

A a&e trip I can understand a quick frustrated hand hold FFS type post. But this feels different. She been in for days before posting on FB. Got to ask via SM what's going on? Am I being weird not to ask on SM? Leaving it to dh to ask directly.

Well, surely your husband phones his brother?

Novel thought but why don't you pick up the phone and ring them? 🙄

Novel thought but why don't you read the OP and see it isn't OP's sibling to call

How do you know she’s been in for days before they posted? Are they holding newspapers up in the photo?

Is It normal for your family to use SM in this way? I don’t want to sound cruel but it all sounds a bit overly dramatic.

Your DH can contact his brother and ask.

I hate these posts on social media. If you are going to post about a hospital visit you need to give enough information not to worry and upset people

I’d be ringing my brother to ask if she was ok

I’m not sure it’s the done thing to phone around everyone when you get admitted to hospital? It’d seem really attention seeking. Perhaps it’s generational - DH’s mum used to phone and tell us that aunt Jane’s daughter’s frog was at the vets, but it always felt a bit odd.

If DS was admitted, I’d probably tell friends as it’d come up in conversation, but I wouldn’t purposefully go out of my way to update every family member.

My reading of this would be that your DH & his brother aren’t that close.

If I saw my niece was in hospital my first thought wouldn’t be to offended. I’d wonder how I could help / support.

So I’d ring my sister. If no answer, I’d WhatsApp.

just contact them ffs.

Just say, 'Hey DH, our niece appears to be in hospital. You should ring your brother and ask if they are ok'.

Or alternatively you could post on MN and speculate with lots of strangers.

But if the OP is a close enough friend or family member to be concerned that a niece is hospitalised, I don't see why she wouldn't phone to see how she is?

They'll be waiting for all the 'Oh no you ok hon' posts...

Why wouldn’t you just ask on social media, as that’s clearly their preferred method of communication?

I am pretty sure your DH heard something just didn't pass it on yet

Just message or call....

They said its her second day of admission.

She already said it was for her DH to do as it's his brother. So she's has already answered her own question about what to do.

Dh has phoned and left a message. Not sure it's my place to chase that up?

Wondering now if if I am being unreasonable. Maybe we do need to ask on FB.

My friend found out their brother had died on FB before being told due to one of his "friends" posting it in an attention seeking post

That's really shit. An aqauntance of mine announced my pregnancy on FB.

When dh had a near fatal accident at work I didn't tell anyone until I knew what was going on.

Don't ask on fb. Poor girl, how old is she , does she know her dad has posted photos of her, that's a really weird thing for a parent to do,

Well your Dh has called and left a message. If he doesn't hear back maybe call again?

I hate those type of attention seeking posts. I have a friend who does it all the time and can't bring myself to ask!

I don't understand why you can't just phone yourself?

Maybe they find it easier to answer any questions on the one place. It's difficult and can be very lonely when your childs in hospital. A lot of the time can be spent just waiting. I wouldn't put it on Facebook myself, but I know others do, and I certainly wouldn't judge them for it whilst going through a difficult time.