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Worried about DH

118 replies

lanterncat · 15/12/2023 21:20

DH had a work Christmas do that started at 2pm today, just lunch and a few drinks in a pub. He said he wasn't expecting it to last all day.

It's after 9pm now and he's still not home. He's not the type to go out really, he's an introvert and prefers to be home.

I've sent him whatsapp messages asking if he's OK and it's stuck one one tick. Sent a text too and I called him and his phone just beeps, no answer.

I'm getting a bit worried.

AIBU to start ringing hospitals?

OP posts:
RatatouillePie · 15/12/2023 21:34

He's an adult. If he was in a hospital they'd find some ID and let you know.

His phone has probably run out of battery. If he's not back by 3am I'd be worried/cross.

Ilovemyshed · 15/12/2023 21:35

Yes, stop worrying. He's probably been dragged to a pub or club with no signal. Worry if he's not home by 2 am.
Xmas parties can be like that.

Hiddenvoice · 15/12/2023 21:35

I imagine his phone has gone dead and he’s probably quite drunk and not paying attention to time. Hopefully he will be home soon!
Do you know anyone he went out with to contact?

meganorks · 15/12/2023 21:35

He's been out on his works Christmas do and it isn't late. One tick means message sent and not delivered, so phone is out of battery. I wouldn't be worried to be honest.

Nagado · 15/12/2023 21:36

He’s probably just had a few more drinks than he meant to and is sat in a pub somewhere with his work mates, not even thinking about the time. If anything serious had happened, you’d have had the police knocking on your door by now, so try not to worry.

Give it another hour or so, then start nosing on social media. Do you know any of his colleagues?

HungryandIknowit · 15/12/2023 21:36

Can't you call the venue or a colleague before calling hospitals?

SusanKennedyshouldLTB · 15/12/2023 21:37

Well, this exact thread ended with the husband arrested for drink driving a few weeks ago.

JenJenJenJenJenJen · 15/12/2023 21:38

It’s 9pm. Please don’t waste hospital resources.

HelpMeGetThrough · 15/12/2023 21:38

It's Christmas, he's pissed, he'll suffer on Saturday, no drama.

Allfur · 15/12/2023 21:39

Do women do this with such regularity ?!

Isittimeformynapyet · 15/12/2023 21:40

JenJenJenJenJenJen · 15/12/2023 21:38

It’s 9pm. Please don’t waste hospital resources.

I don't think the switchboards are affected in the same way as medical departments.

StBrides · 15/12/2023 21:41

There seems to be one of these threads on a weekly basis and the husband always turns up fine if hungover so on that basis, yabu

But for your sake I hope he's home soon

Pennyslot26 · 15/12/2023 21:43

It’s 9:45, is this a windup?!

PrimaniTu · 15/12/2023 21:44

I crack up at these grown men on MN going out at Christmas having a curfew. There was another one last week when the dh had to be home by 11.

They're adults not 12 year olds. Confused

OhThatHappenedWhatNow · 15/12/2023 21:47

He can choose to stay out as late as he wants, seeing as he is an adult so he doesn’t need you staying up and waiting for him.

do you worry normally, or have anxiety around being home alone? I do get this but that’s not his responsibility so just lock up as agreed and enjoy the extra space in bed.

mrsbyers · 15/12/2023 21:47

It’s a canny session if he’d gone out at 7 that would be nearly 3am and I’d be concerned too to be honest but he’s probably just enjoying himself

BananaSplitsss · 15/12/2023 21:47

A little empathy

AlanTeeth · 15/12/2023 21:47

This was me last Friday. Out at 2pm and got home at 12:45am. To be fair to me, I did keep telling DH I was definitely coming home after this next drink, but nights like this just run away with you!

HollaHolla · 15/12/2023 21:48

He’s an adult. I suspect he’s somewhere with no signal. Or a bit pissed, and not checking his phone.
Have you tried actually calling him?
if it gets to midnight, and no response; I’d start worrying then.

Catza · 15/12/2023 21:49

He will most likely be OK and home soon. I see where you are coming from, I really do. My partner goes to the gym at 4 am and if I wake up and it’s raining, I have these dreadful thoughts of him getting into an accident on his way there. Then I remind myself that he got to the age of 45 independently and this is an irrational thought. He left for London today and I know his last business meeting was at two PM. Messaged him at 7 and turned out he is having dinner with the client. He will turn up eventually and I won’t start panicking till tomorrow morning.
Your hubby was with his work colleagues. If emergency happened, someone would let you know by now. He may have been mugged on his way home, of course but it is extremely unlikely to happen in the late afternoon/early evening. The most likely scenario is him getting carried away and his phone running out of charge.

BrightGreenMoonBuggy · 15/12/2023 21:51

I wouldn’t ring hospitals as early as 9pm. He’s probably just having fun and his battery has gone. It’s a bit uncharacteristic of him but not so bizarre and worrying you need to panic. Can you get hold of a colleague’s number?

Allfur · 15/12/2023 21:51

Catza, so he didn't let you know he was going for dinner?

OhThatHappenedWhatNow · 15/12/2023 21:52

HollaHolla · 15/12/2023 21:48

He’s an adult. I suspect he’s somewhere with no signal. Or a bit pissed, and not checking his phone.
Have you tried actually calling him?
if it gets to midnight, and no response; I’d start worrying then.

I would not be waiting up till midnight for an adult to come home, I’d lock up as agreed and enjoy the peace and quiet.

CatVsTree · 15/12/2023 21:54

Last time we had one of these on MN the quiet and prefer-to-stay-at-home-DH had got wrecked and tried to drive home and ended up being arrested.

Anyway, in answer to your question OP it's too early to ring round hospitals.

Olika · 15/12/2023 21:56

I would just let him get on with his Xmas party and continue with my normal evening things and go to bed. He is an adult, he can take care of himself.

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