Somebody keeps knocking at my door

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I’ve no idea who it is. Peeped outside without them seeing me and they keep knocking hard 3 times. Then again 3 times then again 3 times. They left and now half an hour later they’re back. Would you answer? I’m worried as I really do not recognise them

I do!

Didn't it go along the lines of 'rearrange these words into a well known phrase...' or something

I had Jehovah's Witnesses ask me yesterday if I think mankind can solve problems like death so I'm not going to open my door again in a hurry. However, if someone seemed hell-bent on getting in contact with me I would either shout to them from an upstairs window, through the letterbox or just through the closed door to find out what they want. I'd probably start with "Hello, what do you want? Max is on his way back, he's taken half the dogs out!" or something that doesn't scream "I'm alone and scared"

If they knock three times and you don't want to answer you knock twice on the pipe if the answer is noooo

If my elderly mother was still around and lived on her own I would tell her in no uncertain terms not to open the door unless she was expecting family - and we all had keys.

As to the issue of assault by random strangers I was pushed over by someone a couple of weeks ago who jumped a queue for an ATM. I told them I was next as I thought they might not have seen me but they forcefully pushed me. I was really shocked and, for some reason, very embarrassed. So embarrassed that I am talking about it for the first time on here. I think I was embarrassed because I wanted to push her back, but knew that would be pointless. So, instead I made out that I was calling the police and she ran off. Don't be complacent out there people. These really are desperate times and at this time of year people will resort to anything. We've all by now witnessed people boldly shoplifting. Just take care. If op doesn't feel in her gut that she wants to answer the door to this person then she shouldn't have to.

i remember reading this poem in school as a kid. It's quite scary. Perhaps it is responsible for my current anxiety about opening the door.

😂Stop it.. 😂

@Ramalangadingdong agree. That’s not something for kids unless it’s Halloween. The ‘when Mary was a baby’ song sung at brownies also scared the crap out of me.

I don’t answer the door unless I’m expecting a delivery etc as it is always a Jehovah’s Witness, (hence my pp) knock and run, (which only encourages them if you do answer) or someone wanting to know who’s car is parked on the street. Non of which add anything to my life.

This thread has turned very nasty. I understand your anxiety OP, I wouldn’t unless I was expecting someone either. Of course other people may think differently but the cattiness here is akin to a year 8 group chat, not grown adults.

If someone's determined enough to get into your house they bring bolt cutters with them they will just kick your door in if you don't answer anyway.

‘Tell them I came, and no one answered,

That I kept my word,’ he said.

My apologies about swearing, to the other sensible and kind posters who may be reading my comments. I dint usually mouthe off like that, but being called a liar has really pissed me off as that did happen to me. I've got absolutely no reason to lie about anything.

OP still hasn't replied so I hope she is OK.

You need a ring doorbell

I always answer but I've got an intercom!

Things that people have buzzed for
My car handbrake had failed and rolled
I left my car window open
They had a parcel for me
Unexpected visit from family
Police needing CCTV
Police asking if I knew someone
Car outside on fire and they needed a phone
Impromptu BBQ
Neighbour bringing cake
My boss with a gift for me
Prescription delivery a day early

I've rung my neighbours for
Help with a smoke alarm
Someone threw a firework in my window and i was too frightened to go and look at the damage

Maybe your car is parked in the way of something. Maybe there's an issue with your house that's affecting theirs. Maybe they're a solicitor coming to tell you you've inherited from a mysterious relative! Put the door on the chain, open it, and find out!!!!

It’s probably someone trying to sell something like a charity.

Put your coat and shoes on and open the door.

If it’s someone you don’t want to talk to just say you’re just about to go out or say you’re on a work call.

If it’s a charity be firm and just say no thank you I’m not interested and that you need to go as you’re on a work call/need to be somewhere.

😄😄

Anyone who's got premium bonds make sure you always answer your door on a Sunday. That's when Agent Million comes to tell the jackpot
winer they've won...they have to keep coming back if no answer because person has to be ID'd before being informed.

The thing with anxiety is avoidance makes anxiety worse. The more you answer the door the more evidence you will have that answering the door is a safe thing to do. The more you avoid answering the door the more unsafe it will feel for you.

It’s up to you whether you deal with the anxiety or not but chances are you will now be plagued with escalating thoughts about who was at the door when answering the door would have given you the answer you need.

Well there are 2 options aren't there?

1. Answer the door.
2. Listen to them knock.

Just chose one.

Same. You know you don't HAVE to answer your door.
It's your safe space and once you open it, you are vulnerable to someone barging in or worse.
It might not be a common occurrence but surely it's understandable why someone is uncomfortable answering the door if they are not expecting someone

Could you get a video of an old gangster film of some sort and play it very loud to scare the intruders away? They might come back later but it would give you time to make plans.

What like Kevin in home alone 😂

And it’s someone knocking on her door, not intruders 😂