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Snowsnowsnow97 · 2023-12-15T12:37:21+00:00

I’ve no idea who it is. Peeped outside without them seeing me and they keep knocking hard 3 times. Then again 3 times then again 3 times. They left and now half an hour later they’re back. Would you answer? I’m worried as I really do not recognise them

MintsSpy · 15/12/2023 14:32

IncompleteSenten · 15/12/2023 13:23

Have they stopped?
If they haven't then shout through the door or out of a window.

I don't answer my door if it's not convenient and the whole "never seen it in real life" thing baffles me. Do you think we're lying?

No, I just think people like you are few and far between

IncompleteSenten · 15/12/2023 14:41

rainbowunicorn · 15/12/2023 14:03

No, I have no doubt that some people really don't answer their door as they are always on here telling people that they dont. I have not ever experienced it in real life though. People just answer their door, phone etc without thinking about it.

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I wonder if it's a like attracts like thing perhaps. Maybe us unsociable people gravitate to one another. From a distance and only on our terms, obviously 😁

I only answer the door if it's convenient and my closest friend is the same.

I've got no problem someone walking right past my window with me in full view and still not answer the door if I'm working or halfway through a knitting row or just knackered, in pain and can't be arsed.

Same with the phone.

Makes my mum twitchy. She's got a sort of Pavlov's dogs thing going on and the thought that I don't jump up at the sound of the knock/ring gives her palpitations 😂

Crumpleton · 15/12/2023 14:45

For all you know they've got the wrong address so open the door/window, find some way of communicating, you never know you could be saving the door knocker person from wasting their time and yourself a lot of anxiety by waiting for the next round of knocking.

2jacqi · 15/12/2023 14:49

@Snowsnowsnow97 going to tell you my husband is in the type of job where he has to knock on the doors of people with good and bad news! he once did a trace to find a family regarding a large inheritance and not once would any of them open the door!!!

pizzaHeart · 15/12/2023 14:50

Sauvblanctime · 15/12/2023 12:57

Shout out the window?

This^ what I usually do

Ortila · 15/12/2023 14:50

I reckon it was the fuzz and OP's been nicked.

mumda · 15/12/2023 14:51

Do you have a doorchain?

If not, then get one.

margotrose · 15/12/2023 14:51

I don't know how grown adults get through life not being able to answer their doors.

We once had someone banging on our door at 5am - to warn us to evacuate as their was a fire up the road, so it's a bloody good thing we didn't ignore it 🙈

SurelySmartie · 15/12/2023 14:53

OP are you still there or have you been assassinated by the phantom door knocker?

Sauvblanctime · 15/12/2023 14:53

Op hasn’t replied for a bit.. maybe she answered the door and has been kidnapped by aliens?

MadamVastra · 15/12/2023 14:53

See if I hadn't answered the door earlier I would have missed the Jehovah's Witnesses.

uncomfortablydumb53 · 15/12/2023 14:54

Did you answer the door?
Not answering heightens your anxiety even more!
It could be as simple as a kind neighbour telling you you've left your lights on, on your car
Get a door chain... it's that simple

ilovesushi · 15/12/2023 14:55

TV licensing?

AcrossthePond55 · 15/12/2023 14:55

@Snowsnowsnow97

If you have anxiety around answering the door, get a Ring doorbell. You can see who's at the door and remotely 'answer' (nor not) it using your phone. We love ours and never answer the door to anyone we don't recognize anymore, we just turn on the microphone and say 'May I help you?'. If it's someone soliciting or proselytizing we just say "Not interested" and away they go. If it's someone we want to see we say "Be right there" and go to the door. I don't see any difference in doing that 'in person' or via Ring.

We actually used our Ring from 2000 miles away when we were on holiday. It was old friends of DH's who happened to be in our area and they had a nice little visit via the doorbell.

I don't get the feeling on MN that there's something 'wrong' about not answering the door. It's your house, if you don't want to answer the door, don't. Same with the phone.

Ramalangadingdong · 15/12/2023 15:00

Astrak · 15/12/2023 13:01

Open an upstairs window and shout down. They'll have to look up and you can see their face. Ask them what they want and, on the basis of the information you can decide whether to open the door or not.

I always do this. So do many of my neighbours.

Ramalangadingdong · 15/12/2023 15:00

I hope OP is OK. If anything happens to her I am going to blame all those making her feel like an idiot for not opening the door as soon as she hears a knock.

Frasers · 15/12/2023 15:01

Op are you getting help for your anxiety?

I think that an intercom or ring doorbell would help. It’s easy for folks who are not unwell to just say answer the door, it’s what I would do without a second thought , but you are unwell and feel unable to.

if you can’t bring yourself to shout out a window. Then, just stay hiding, or phone a responsible adult who can come and support you. Then order a ring doorbell.

Frasers · 15/12/2023 15:03

Ramalangadingdong · 15/12/2023 15:00

I hope OP is OK. If anything happens to her I am going to blame all those making her feel like an idiot for not opening the door as soon as she hears a knock.

Um ok, queen of the world 😂

Lovemusic82 · 15/12/2023 15:05

I wouldn’t ever consider not answering, if it was the phone ringing with a unrecognisable number though 🤔.

Just answer to door, it might be something important, very unlikely to be someone wanting to rob you or kill you. Could be someone needing help? Someone looking for directions? Someone trying to find the owners of a cat that has been knocked down? A long lost relative?

I newer the door to anyone, one day the door knocked and a man asked me where the nearest petrol station was as he had run out of fuel, obviously a murderer or rapist, so I offered to drive him to the nearest petrol station with his dog and his petrol can. Luckily he didn’t murder me 🤣, he dropped off a bar of chocolate and a thank you card the next day.

I am an anxious person but I would never not open the door to someone, it’s not something I’ve ever really worried about.

tuvamoodyson · 15/12/2023 15:09

Ramalangadingdong · 15/12/2023 15:00

I hope OP is OK. If anything happens to her I am going to blame all those making her feel like an idiot for not opening the door as soon as she hears a knock.

Well, I’m not psychic, but I have a very strong feeling OP will be absolutely fine!

Alphabet1spaghetti2 · 15/12/2023 15:10

I think op did own the door and is still talking/listening to the Jehovah witnesses. They take forever to shift once they see a crack in the door.

thinslicedham · 15/12/2023 15:15

I honestly feel all the 'You don't answer your door? You're a psycho/weirdo! I don't know how you make it through life! Only on MN!' comments verge on bullying.

If someone's not answering their door (and in this case even tells us that they have anxiety), they clearly have a reason for making that choice. Telling them how weird and stupid they are isn't going to help.

I choose not to answer the door to people I don't know and am not expecting for a variety of reasons. I don't have neighbours near enough to see or hear if I scream for help, and I don't want to make it easier for someone to force their way in. I also have noisy dogs that are loose in the house. A knock at the door triggers chaos, so it's easier not to open the door. If I'm expecting someone, I'll have taken measures to manage this.

Anyway, my reasons for not opening the door are my own, completely valid to me, and not anyone else's business. It doesn't affect random strangers on the Internet, so there's no need to be aggressively rude about it!

Blanketpolicy · 15/12/2023 15:18

I cannot imagine what life must be like if you cannot do something so basic as answer your own front door. Can you go out at all or is it just this thing that is an issue?

Are you scared of the interaction and just talking to someone, or, that they might try to enter your home or harm you?

Door chain?
Ring door bell with camera and intercom?

Are you receiving medical help?

Didydani · 15/12/2023 15:23

Ignore the posters saying just open the door op! I wouldn't either, especially if you're not expecting a visitor. You know don't who it is or what they want. It could be someone trying to burgle/rob you. I realise that sounds paranoid, but because it's Christmas they may think you have expensive gifts or something of value in the house that they want and try to force entry. I don't mean to worry you by saying that btw, I would be cautious too.

I only recently had someone stick super glue in my door lock! I didn't notice it until I was leaving the house and went to lock the door, realising I couldn't because of the glue inside it. I reported it to my housing association who changed the locks the next day and eventually the police too, just in case anything else happened, and to have it on record.

Im sure you'd much rather be safe than sorry. Get yourself a ring doorbell if you can afford to. I plan to.

Frasers · 15/12/2023 15:25

Didydani · 15/12/2023 15:23

Ignore the posters saying just open the door op! I wouldn't either, especially if you're not expecting a visitor. You know don't who it is or what they want. It could be someone trying to burgle/rob you. I realise that sounds paranoid, but because it's Christmas they may think you have expensive gifts or something of value in the house that they want and try to force entry. I don't mean to worry you by saying that btw, I would be cautious too.

I only recently had someone stick super glue in my door lock! I didn't notice it until I was leaving the house and went to lock the door, realising I couldn't because of the glue inside it. I reported it to my housing association who changed the locks the next day and eventually the police too, just in case anything else happened, and to have it on record.

Im sure you'd much rather be safe than sorry. Get yourself a ring doorbell if you can afford to. I plan to.

Why would you post this? Just why? Someone is so mentally unwell they cannot open their door due to fear and you post yeah mate they might be trying to rob you, force entry. The odds of someone repeatedly knocking on someone’s door for that reason are beyond non existent.

so why scare someone already unable to function even more??