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To wonder if something is actually wrong with me or whether I’m just a bit weird?

151 replies

weitdsj · 13/12/2023 20:12

Today I went to the hairdressers. It was cold and they brought a tea as is often the case. The hairdresser had gone to get the colour chart and I poured the tea, then sort of dipped my nose into the cup, not touching the tea but enough so the warmth hit my face. The cup was essentially completely over my face and I had leaned forward slightly to do this, it sort of suctioned the cup to my face. Obviously as you breath it makes it warmer initially so I was still doing it when the hairdresser came back. He looked astonished. I removed myself from the cup and he asked if I was ok, I said I was cold and tried to brush it off.

I have been thinking all day that I do things like this often. Am I lacking social awareness? A bit stupid? What is it? I can totally see in reflection that it was extremely weird but at the time it didn’t cross my mind at all.

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ithinkthatmaybeimdreaming · 14/12/2023 04:37

I don't find it particularly odd, I'm sure I've done the same thing myself when I'm cold - although probably not in public!!

I also used to eat paper when I was at high school, and still do it now and again.

Panaa · 14/12/2023 04:42

I kind of rest the cup against my lips and have my nose over it. I don't suction it to my face though 😂 I'm awaiting an ADHD assessment but wouldn't have put it down to ADHD.

If it makes you feel less weird there was a thread here recently where a lady got bored in the hairdressers so she started spinning around on her chair like a child would and the staff had to ask her to stop 😂

Smugandproud · 14/12/2023 05:51

None of these things seem odd to me so perhaps I am nd and don't know it.😀
My db, as a teen, once suctioned a tupperware beaker to his face and couldn't get it off for a few minutes, he had a ring round his face when he did remove it.

Diah · 14/12/2023 05:59

I could picture the action and the sensation perfectly as something I used to do a lot. Made me sad that I had finished my cup of tea and the mug was cold so I couldn’t try it again.

I would probably be a bit embarrassed to have been busted doing it in the hairdressers, but no harm done, will be forgotten about pretty quickly 😊

Bitchassmosquito · 14/12/2023 07:34

That is a bit weird but at the same time it makes complete sense 😆

TheKnittedCharacter · 14/12/2023 07:36

It’s odd, but not something to worry about.

LBFseBrom · 14/12/2023 07:38

Most odd but harmless. If you often have such impulses I suggest you do them only when alone.

schmuzz · 14/12/2023 07:39

I love when other people do this kind of thing or say something unfiltered. It makes me feel less weird

Thepelly · 14/12/2023 08:02

This made me grin!
You’re not hurting anyone OP and if it’s not affecting your life in any negative way, just carry on!

ValerieDoonican · 14/12/2023 08:06

MiniMaxi · 13/12/2023 20:29

Sounds like a brilliant idea! I’m fairly sure I used to put my ruler down my socks on occasion too, now you mention it @BreakfastAtMilliways

Me too!

TheOccupier · 14/12/2023 09:44

Rolling my eyes at all the armchair diagnosers and cheerleaders for behaviour that is ultimately just bad manners - snuffling and sweating into a cup that some poor salon junior is then going to have to pick up and wash is weird and nasty. The OP apparently has trouble working out how to act appropriately and asked for advice - it does her no favours to post bullshit like "ooh, you sound awesome! I'd want to be your friend if I saw that!" - come off it, no you wouldn't. There was a kid in my class at primary school who used to blow his nose into his hand then slowly lick off all the snot - nobody wanted to sit next to him!

schmuzz · 14/12/2023 09:48

TheOccupier · 14/12/2023 09:44

Rolling my eyes at all the armchair diagnosers and cheerleaders for behaviour that is ultimately just bad manners - snuffling and sweating into a cup that some poor salon junior is then going to have to pick up and wash is weird and nasty. The OP apparently has trouble working out how to act appropriately and asked for advice - it does her no favours to post bullshit like "ooh, you sound awesome! I'd want to be your friend if I saw that!" - come off it, no you wouldn't. There was a kid in my class at primary school who used to blow his nose into his hand then slowly lick off all the snot - nobody wanted to sit next to him!

I mean I really doubt she had her face there long enough to start sweating and dripping into the cup. Never mind snuffling, she's a person, not a piglet.

Writing an aggressive post like that is more offensive on the spectrum of inappropriate behaviour.

leachesleachesleachesleachesleaches · 14/12/2023 13:00

TheOccupier · 14/12/2023 09:44

Rolling my eyes at all the armchair diagnosers and cheerleaders for behaviour that is ultimately just bad manners - snuffling and sweating into a cup that some poor salon junior is then going to have to pick up and wash is weird and nasty. The OP apparently has trouble working out how to act appropriately and asked for advice - it does her no favours to post bullshit like "ooh, you sound awesome! I'd want to be your friend if I saw that!" - come off it, no you wouldn't. There was a kid in my class at primary school who used to blow his nose into his hand then slowly lick off all the snot - nobody wanted to sit next to him!

Would much rather be op’s friend than yours!

Ramalangadingdong · 14/12/2023 13:08

Coffeecoughcough · 13/12/2023 20:14

Frankly if you want to do it and you're not hurting anyone I'd say you should do it. Our quirks and idiosyncrasies are a wonderful thing 💛

The world is full of stuffed shirts and needs more oddballs.

I speak as a bit of an oddball myself. Oddballs of the world unite!

wingardiumleviosar · 14/12/2023 13:32

I always hold newly photocopied paper near my face because it feels so cosy!

Mochudubh · 14/12/2023 13:45

This is a perfectly normal way to warm a cold nose.

I don't get the rulers down the sock thing though. Are we talking Wood? Plastic? Metal? 12"? 6"? Why? I suppose it might be a handy way to carry it from class to class if your hands were full but otherwise just why?

I'm now thinking of starting a line of "Utility Socks" with loops and pockets for pencils, rubbers etc.

Dotjones · 14/12/2023 13:51

Yes I do that. Try to avoid doing it when around people I don't know or am at work but that's true with lots of things I do when alone. It's not weird you're just using the heat of the drink to warm yourself rather than let it escape into the air.

Makkacakka · 14/12/2023 13:51

MrsKwazi · 13/12/2023 20:25

I like holding my cheek over a warm mug.

You’re fine OP. What a boring world we’d live in if we were all the same.

I do this too!

Socialyawkward · 14/12/2023 14:08

It would just make me want to be friends with you tbh. I've done many a silly thing without thinking about people around me then got a bit awkward when I've realised the stares this increases when its just me and my eldest who as the theme goes is on the spectrum 🤣

Socialyawkward · 14/12/2023 14:08

The ruler thing as well it was just because it made sense. Still can't make it make sense but it did.

Ellamaelucyolivia · 14/12/2023 14:33

Well, it's like something a child would do, I guess.

BreakfastAtMilliways · 14/12/2023 14:43

@Mochudubh it was (in my case) purely for the feel of it against my skin, done surreptitiously under the desk. Nothing practical about it whatsoever. 😂

I have an autistic friend who (a) used to chew the ends of his biros and pencils off completely (echoing a PP with the erasers) and (b) once ended up at the university doctors having loo roll tweezered out of his ears because he was trying to block out his room-mate’s music.

Tabitha005 · 14/12/2023 14:58

Ha ha, OP, that really made me laugh and I don't think you're weird at all. Every one of us is someone else's weirdo, after all.

Schleep · 14/12/2023 15:01

Another one to say that I do similar (I'll hold the hot cup against closed eyes too) and I have a formal diagnosis of ADHD.
Read into it what you will.

Tabitha005 · 14/12/2023 15:03

@BreakfastAtMilliways (excellent user name, btw) I used to do the ruler down the sock thing, too. There's something of the ASMR about it - although I wouldn't have known what ASMR was when I was a kid.