bothered that another parent copied my childs name

[catphone]

This happened a few years ago when we lived in a remote area.
My child name was very uncommon and unique. I deliberately picked the name because it wasn't common and I didn't want her to share her name with a number of people. I don't want to say what it is because there are very few people in the world with it. As she got older, in assembly, she found out that someone in primary 1 had the same name as her and the parent had obviously heard of and copied her name. Subsequently, there were a number of others with the same name.
AIBU to be annoyed?

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I can imagine stood their in a cold November morning. When the teacher call her name and another child had assumed it. That must have been devastating. How did she make it through the day. Did the school offer some counselling for DC ?

I have quite an unusual name and I hated growing up and my siblings who had more usual names could always get badges, pens, etc with their names on but I never could.

Names go in and out of fashion. You can tell a persons age from their names almost. My sons are mid twenties and I named them Rowan and Tristan. Shamelessly stolen from an Archbishop and my favourite vet series book. Within ten years both names had become very popular. I love hearing some of the new names people come out with and really love that some of the older names are coming back into fashion.

The grass is always greener. I would have loved to have been a Susan or an Angela. DD has a pretty, (imo) classic name, she'd love something more unusual.

It's not just unreasonable, it's a little unhinged. Firstly, it happened years ago, in a village you no longer live in, but it's being posted about now...you've been annoyed by it for this long? Secondly, refusing to share the name online just in case someone takes it? I'd understand if your cousin was taking the name for their dog or something... but some lady, in a remote area, from years ago.... let it go!

OP didn't know this woman or child until the child started her kids school.

Imagine being egotistical enough to think a woman you had never even heard of until a moment ago COPIED directly off YOU (a complete fucking stranger she likely didn't even know existed) 5 years earlier lol.

The world is full of people who think they are the star and everything revolves around them. Truth is they are not and it does not... thats not mean, just fact.

If your sister or best friend used the name three weeks later, then yes, it’s weird. Someone in the same village years later? You don’t really have cause to complain.

Completely unreasonable. How ridiculous to think you can gate keep a name. But also you copied somebody to hear this name, like everybody in the world does, except maybe Elon musk.. so it is normal foe certain names to become more popular. I'd be more concerned about why that is such a big deal to you and get some support to be able to think about it more rationally. There are much bigger problems the rest of us face in life.

Also just to play devil advocate with a bit of logic on the 'grace is not uncommon' think... anyone consider the poster does NOT live where you do?

in1996 Grace was ranked 41 in England & Wales and ranked 45 in Ireland but did not rank at all in Scotland until 1999. That's if shes even from the UK, its much less popular in some other countries.

Is it Oowatanassiam?

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well, my parents are obviously going to hell , they STOLE my name from the Bible! (obviously no names existed at all before that time! :D )

omg this thread reminds me of the time two of my colleagues had an argument for HOURS because both thought they’d invented the super unique name Mia. 😂😂😂

Do you know drives me mental on these threads? Everyone saying their kid has a unique name or that they do but they never ever share it. My kid is called Belle, there you go, wasn’t hard.

Imagine being a grown ass woman and crying because somebody copied you 😭🤣

The problem if you genuinely DO have a unique name is that its VERY easy to get stalked/harassed. Trolls on forums who look for easy targets are not above doing that as many 'unique' named people have found out.

If you say 'My names Katie' it doesn't really help anyone find you even if you say 'my names Katie, I'm from Essex born in 1995, I'm married and I have 2 kids and work in banking' it still likely not that easy to find you.

You could have ZERO info except my first name and if you put my name in google I am (links to facebook, instagram and other sites I use with my real name) the first hit and majority of the first few pages as well as the only British person to come up.

The down side of a rare name is little to no anonymity.

@housethatbuiltme indeed. Absolutely why I would never give my rl name.

i wouldn’t dream of naming my child on a chat forum, especially if they have a very uncommon name

You would 🤷‍♀️

Popular, not common.

This has to be a reverse 😂😂😂

When my first was born, o chose a name that I’d never heard of, but had seen listed in the titles of something I’d watched on TV. I thought it was SO unusual and loved it. Fast forward to registering their birth, and the person behind me named her baby the same as my son. Fast forward to school, and they were everywhere 😂😂
Thats just how names become popular. Someone hears it,and likes it. Others hear it and like it. More and more people hear and like it. And before you know it, the name is top of the list of most popular names. Just take it as a compliment to your good taste.

Op has moved away from where daughter was born, so she has even less reason to care or be upset. Waste of time.

Yabu! I like that name. Yabu Smith has a ring to it.

Yabu is cute

They are the same thing - common when talking about the use of names means commonly occuring not lower class.