bothered that another parent copied my childs name

[catphone]

This happened a few years ago when we lived in a remote area.
My child name was very uncommon and unique. I deliberately picked the name because it wasn't common and I didn't want her to share her name with a number of people. I don't want to say what it is because there are very few people in the world with it. As she got older, in assembly, she found out that someone in primary 1 had the same name as her and the parent had obviously heard of and copied her name. Subsequently, there were a number of others with the same name.
AIBU to be annoyed?

Honestly I doubt they got it off you. It's just the name zeitgeist at work.

I have a list of baby names I love - I only like ones that are unusual and that I've never met anyone with. Not a month goes by that I don't have to delete a name off the list because all of a sudden, I hear it everywhere. Nobody is spying on my list, it's just the way fashions go. I've now resigned myself to the fact this makes it almost impossible to find a truly unusual name.

What's unusual before a baby is born gets picked by lots of parents for that very reason and immediately becomes more widespread.

I remember meeting a Grace in 1996, and thinking what a beautiful and unusual name!

Since language follows rules almost anything you can make up thats pronounceable has already been used.

I thought I made DD name up as a child just from sounds I loved. Now thanks to the internet I know its actually a traditional name from another culture (actually my heritage culture) but its very rare in England.

Same way I have never met or even heard of another people with my name in real life, it always gets 'thats unique', 'where did that come from' and 'I never heard that before' but thanks to facebook, instagram and google I can see there are actually several others in other countries pretty much at the other side of the world so not 'rare' just 'rare here'.

How do you know there are only a few people in the world with it? Surely if you have picked it you must have heard/ seen it somewhere ? My own name was unusual in my area when I was growing up although very common in the country my parents came from , now it is very common here too.

No one owns a name but it's not unreasonable to be annoyed. When you put alot of effort into picking a 'unique' name and then hear another with the same name, it can be disappointing. As much as no one owns a name, OP has the right to feel how she feels about the name...

Oh, come on…🙄

Common as it is, Balonz is a boys name though I'm sure. Balonza? Balonzana? Or if you live anywhere near me, it will be Balonz-Rae.

CBA to RTFT but this is some weird yooneek name isn’t it?

An odd name doesn’t mean your child is special.

You are indeed a treasure. I thought it was from his 2009 series, but couldn't find it on Youtube. Thank you so much.

Why does it put you off a name when you hear it used?
The names I love give me a warm fuzzy feeling of being associated with happy memories and nice people. I can't imagine ever getting that sensation from a name I have never encountered in the wild. Both DCs have names of beloved characters from two of my favourite books but they are both 'classic' names I have met a number of people with over the years and they have mostly been good people. For me the problem with a rare name is one person can totally affect how that name is perceived.

Is this a fake post? Surely has to be. 🤦‍♀️

On a slightly different tack, there is a 'hole' in the internet relating to the late nineties. The companies that had made a good living from collating data and records for almanacs and yearbooks realised that the internet would kill their sales, but didn't know what the future would look like.
I did some work with the British Library some years ago when they were suffering some existential angst over the fact that all of their catalogues were based upon the spine of a book to make sure folks knew which shelf to file them away on, whereas we now want to know about sits between the covers.

Found the one I was thinking of

It was based on An Episode of Sparrows by Rumer Golden. I might try to get hold of the book.

Rumer's an interesting name. So is Ngaio (another favourite author of mine - Ngaio Marsh)

I went to school with a Loveday.
I taught a darling little Nevaeh.

About 12 years ago a teacher friend told me they wanted an unusual name for their daughter and had called her Eve 😆

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@MartyMcFlysPurpleUnderwear
I thought farah lol

Spider Nugent-Honey-Smythe?

There’s load of them in our school.

Oh my goodness, names can be a sensitive topic, and the reasons for choosing them.
I have a very common name for women of my age of Irish Catholic heritage and there were loads of us in the family and at school - no one chooses it now. So when my daughter was born I gave her three of the longest names I could, totalling 26 letters. Whilst at school she was the only one with this name but it's not at all unusual.

I don't want to say what it is because there are very few people in the world with it.

How on earth do you know the worldwide usage of the name? You failed to realise that by giving your child this name they will introduce themselves to other people sharing the knowledge of your rarest of names increasing the chances that someone else will use it.

Omg. Why didn't anyone tell me that I had stolen directly from God when I named my son Adam? I am going to hell

Yes you have a right to be annoyed. The other comments are not wrong in that you don't have claim to that name but if the other mum copied because she heard it from your child then I'd be a bit miffed too.
Nothing you can do about it, but don't feel ashamed of your emotions! Just know that locally you were the first with that name! Sending solidarity and don't dwell on the unncessarily nasty comments.

😆 Pyra Mid

Where did you hear the name?
mount little girl has a very unusual name and our boys name was almost as equally unusual. Now she’s in nursery there is a boy with the name we were going to pick which just seems so off that if she was a boy there would’ve been two unusual (well therefore less unusual) names in the class

I hope you filed a police report and got a crime number so you could claim on your insurance and get reimbursed for the stolen name.

Is that a joke? Grace was nr 3 on the name chart in 2008.Couldn't get much more common!