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To hate having dark brown eyes

138 replies

Bigcitylife778 · 18/11/2023 22:40

And feel plain

OP posts:
Cailleach1 · 18/11/2023 23:59

Ever heard the term ‘doe eyed beauty’, op? Hint: it is not about blue eyes.

Also, there are songs written about your eye colour. Who can resist Van’s ‘Brown eyed girl’?

Are you on the level op?

ToWhitToWhoo · 18/11/2023 23:59

What's wrong with dark brown eyes???

NortieTortie · 18/11/2023 23:59

YABU. DH and DC have blue eyes (I have green with a brown ring, that's hazel I think?) and I always wished one of my babies would have brown eyes. Their blue eyes are striking but there's something so heart melting about a pair of big brown eyes 😍

SwordToFlamethrower · 19/11/2023 00:00

My daughter has dark brown eyes and everyone complements her on them. I'm surr yours are beautiful too.

CatMandarin · 19/11/2023 00:00

I love them. I've got blue eyes and used to wear brown contacts when I was younger and got lots more compliments

MuchuseasaChocolateTeapot · 19/11/2023 00:01

I’m sure your eyes are beautiful OP. My sister has auburn hair and brown eyes and they’re lovely. Mine can look nice and green sometimes but are mostly a murky grey green.

junbean · 19/11/2023 00:02

I feel the same way having blue ones! I always envy women who are opposite in appearance to me. It's the same with straight hair/curly hair. People usually want what they don't have. I wouldn't dwell on it. I've always thought colored contacts would be fun though.

caringcarer · 19/11/2023 00:06

I like blue eyes, but I think that is because my family all have blue eyes. My Dad had amazing blue eyes.

JANEY205 · 19/11/2023 00:07

So many people are criticizing OP for saying she finds her brown eyes plain, what about the people crapping on blue eyes?

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Personally I love green eyes! Then I love vibrant blue which my children have. Dark brown eyes are often gorgeous but I’m meh about a lot of blue and brown eyes and I know what some pp mean about boring brown or boring blue eyes. Some aren’t vibrant at all. Kim Kardashian and Amal Clooney have some of the most gorgeous eyes on the planet and both are dark brown. Ian Somerhalder has gorgeous light eyes! So I don’t think it’s the colour of the eyes as much as the shade of the eye colour?

DumboHimalayan · 19/11/2023 00:08

On this exact thread I've been served several adverts using models with beautiful dark brown eyes to try to sell me things.

Your feelings about yourself aren't wrong, because they're your feelings. And I don't agree with the PP who suggested that by disliking your own dark brown eyes for yourself, you're somehow insulting everyone who has dark brown eyes. We always judge ourselves differently to others.

But I think maybe it's something other than purely the colour of your eyes that's making you feel this way. There's nothing intrinsically plainer about dark brown than hazel or blue or green or violet.

Dark brown eyes can be very beautiful — I personally find dark brown eyes captivating on a woman, especially if they're so dark that it's hard to see where the irises end, and the pupils begin. I can't be alone in this, because there are many beautiful and striking women who get work at least partly through their looks and who have dark brown eyes. I'm sure there are other women with dark brown eyes who you wouldn't think of as plain, either.

I'd bet there's something else — a self-esteem problem, a half-remembered childhood insult, some other physical feature that's affecting how your eyes look (perhaps one that can be modified like eyelashes), a problem with your general mood, something that's making you pick on your eye colour as a problem.

To hate having dark brown eyes
To hate having dark brown eyes
DuplicateUserName · 19/11/2023 00:10

I love how some people are getting insulted on behalf of 80% of the world's population 🙄🤣🤣

The OP is talking about themself, no-one else just them, which they're perfectly entitled to do.

If someone moans about being fat, do you reprimand them for insulting 63% of the UK's population?

TeaKitten · 19/11/2023 00:17

DuplicateUserName · 19/11/2023 00:10

I love how some people are getting insulted on behalf of 80% of the world's population 🙄🤣🤣

The OP is talking about themself, no-one else just them, which they're perfectly entitled to do.

If someone moans about being fat, do you reprimand them for insulting 63% of the UK's population?

Nobody has a say on their eye colour though, and it relates to entire races. Being overweight is different. I have dark brown eyes and am not offended by this post, OP hasn’t returned and it’s an odd post anyway. But the 2 things are not the same.

DuplicateUserName · 19/11/2023 00:24

TeaKitten · 19/11/2023 00:17

Nobody has a say on their eye colour though, and it relates to entire races. Being overweight is different. I have dark brown eyes and am not offended by this post, OP hasn’t returned and it’s an odd post anyway. But the 2 things are not the same.

They're exactly the same thing in the sense that some people hate being overweight.

And the OP hates having brown eyes.

Both are completely valid when that person is talking about themself only.

What the rest of the population do or don't have is neither here nor there to them.

Willyoujustbequiet · 19/11/2023 00:26

PerspiringElizabeth · 18/11/2023 22:56

YABVU dark brown eyes are stunning and unusual.

Try boring old blue(/grey)! The most common in this country!

Where do you live?

Nearly 80% of the world has brown eyes while grey is the rarest at approx 1%.

Cappuccino17 · 19/11/2023 00:26

Dark brown eyes are beautiful. Mysterious and also look kinder.

haribosmarties · 19/11/2023 00:30

Listen the grass is always greener. Everyone wants what they haven't got. I've got blue eyes bit I think brown eyes look so deep and mysterious. My husband has the most beautiful dark brown eyes.
Just learn to love your own beauty.
Easier said than done I understand. I spend a fortune curling my naturally poker straight hair and I have friends who do completely the opposite and hate their curls. Its quite sad really.
You are just bored of your own eyes because you see them every day.. they seem plain to you. But I bet other people admire them and wish they had brown eyes like yours

JaneJeffer · 19/11/2023 00:30

Oh I get it. This is the girl Van Morrison wrote the song about. No wonder she's pissed off.

Carouselfish · 19/11/2023 00:30

I'm the only one in my family in this country with brown eyes. (Other side of family, a lot do, but I didn't meet them til later in life). I bloody love them. My friend called their colour chestnust dash as they have flecks of orange in them. I used to wear lilac and feel like a purple Smartie. I've had random strangers and boyfriends swoon over them. 'I've searched all over France for eyes like that!' said one.' I hoped and imagined one of my children would have brown eyes: they didn't, they both have blue and while they are lovely eyes, I'm still a little sad. Brown eyes are friendly, soulful, mysterious, chocolatey, seductive and fierce imo!

chillin12 · 19/11/2023 00:32

Aww - I love dark eyes!!

NewPinkJacket · 19/11/2023 00:32

PerspiringElizabeth · 18/11/2023 22:56

YABVU dark brown eyes are stunning and unusual.

Try boring old blue(/grey)! The most common in this country!

Which country are you talking about?

Arou · 19/11/2023 00:33

I love brown eyes. I’ve always preferred them and have always been jealous of them. If I had it my way I would have dark eyes - they are so sultry and so gorgeous. To me it’s always especially apparent when I watch things like Elaine in the Love Witch or Morena Baccarin in Firefly. Even stylistic makeup like blue eyeshadow in the love witch it is just on another level - my boring grey eyes could never

Wellhellooooodear · 19/11/2023 00:35

Yooooooou my brown eyed girl!

Fairospop22 · 19/11/2023 00:35

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Get contact lenses if it affects you

coffeeaddict77 · 19/11/2023 00:36

I always wanted brown eyes, particularly as a child. Blue eyes always semed so common and therefore boring in the UK.