Fake engagement ring

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I’ve been married for 8 years, and it’s always been on my mind. I can’t quite figure out how I feel about this.

My husband proposed to me with a £150 engagement ring. He had more than £100,000 savings in his account. But he was on a student visa and had not started working as he did not have a work visa. He was not able to work until he had a visa through marrying me. So I understand that he felt like he could not spend money without having a job.

He thought it was a real diamond, and never told me otherwise. His mother also advised him to buy this ring.

Some feminist part of me thinks that engagement rings are a bit backward and to just not worry about it. But then another part of me thinks I really deserve a beautiful ring like everyone else. I don’t wear my engagement ring because when I look at it I just feel like I was lied to. And it feels fake.

What would you think if you had this happen to you? Should I wear the ring?

£150 is a lot of money to some people. My brother spent £75 on my sister in law's engagement ring from Argos. She loves it because he chose it and wanted to commit to her. They're married now and she still wears it 10 years later.

Okay…….I’ll bite……

Do you think he doubted marrying you but wanted to marry you for a visa and therefore only bought a cheap ring in case it didn’t work out?

upside….you’re both still together and (I presume) happily in love. Why not get an upgrade ring to celebrate how far you have come if this is how you feel?

Unpopular comment:
Love shouldn't be bought. What are you if money is 'required' to have you?

For richer or poorer...

Just to add... My mum and dad (technically step dad) did an argos engagement ring to begin.. Years later he bought her 2 amazing rings when finances allowed.. She still always wore the £90 Elizabeth Duke ring xx

Is the issue that he needed to marry you to get a visa and you now worry that he doesn’t love you? Because I can’t see an issue with the ring unless you feel insecure (mine only cost about £200 and I really like it)

This was my reaction as well. I think pp are being very harsh calling you materialistic
Its about the symbolic value of the item.

But if he has £100k in savings he ‘could’ afford a more expensive ring. But he didn’t choose to spend a penny of that on OP. That would tell me something

If you’re broke, you’re broke and that’s the end of it. Any ring is special in that situation. But this guy wasn’t. And it wasn’t that situation.

Kind of agree with @Threesmycrowd and @Chardonnay73

Wouldn’t bother me. I am not fond of jewellery. I just bought a couple of plain bands from Argos for our wedding and we got some blue stone thing for an engagement ring. I lost it before we got married!
I’m not you though. Maybe make sure you get something you love for your 1st anniversary or something.

Hmmm... think the ring might be a bit of a side issue.

I would never buy any jewellery or watch now new, knowing what I know now, some bargains on eBay, a 1ct solitaire for £500 or some lovely vintage clusters for a couple of hundred.

18ct gold will always be of value and will probably go up, so it is never wasted money.

How is it a fake engagement ring anyway? It’s literally an engagement ring. You mean fake diamond.

I don’t understand what your non problem is. I think we all deserve lovely jewellery if that’s what we like. Maybe buy something for yourself. If he loves you, why does the value of the ring matter?

I have a beautiful engagement ring from Hatton Garden. But I got fatter so it's too tight.

Could you ask him to give you the ££ and buy one yourself? I got this .75k one off of second hand dealer on ebay for £350. It's genuine real diamond as I had it checked at a high street jeweler. I like rings, I wanted a beautiful ring so I bought one. If its important to you, tell him. If all else fails just treat yourself

a beautiful ring like everyone else

If you want a posh expensive ring then ask for one, but don’t assume that is what everyone else has or even wants.

🥱 Ridiculous immature comment

The value of the ring is a red herring! You can post all you like about how you love your engagement ring that didn’t cost much. Great.
The issue is that the husband had a substantial amount in savings and yet bought a ring as if he hadn’t. Why not? It didn’t have to be £10k, £5k or even £2k.

He bought a cheap ring (encouraged by his mother) which he didn’t have to. That says enough. Gavel

I think it’s pretty gross tbh. It’s only a ring. She should get a grip.

I've been married for 5 years and don't even have a ring, engagement not marriage 😂 and I really don't care. It's all materialistic. It's just jewellery -_- doesn't matter the price of it.

What would the same £150 ring cost now .
Eight years ago that amount of money wasn't exactly cheap.

If it's the symbolic value then the price is meaningless...

On the contrary MN seems to me full of people who think the more you pay for something the better it is.
A fool and her money, etc etc.🤔

Hmmmm it's the thought and love behind it surely. I couldn't give a fig how much hubby spent on engagement ring it's the love that mattered but I do know we got both wedding rings under 100 and again what does it really matter

😂

The cost of the ring wouldn't bother me in the slightest as it's a symbol after all
BUT in your case, he had 100k in savings!
I have to ask.. Did he marry you for a visa and only spent that in case it didn't work out?
What has he spent the 100k on?