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I'm going to hell aren't I? What the fuck

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BlackFriYay · 15/11/2023 16:54

9 ish months ago I was seeing somebody I really liked but was being messed around terribly by. I'm talking ghosting after sex repeatedly, blatantly using me for sex but claiming otherwise.. I suspected he had a girlfriend towards the end but didn't have any proof as he "doesn't do social media". (Lies). Champions league wanker behaviour basically.

I thought I was in love with him at the time and it took me months to get over once I finally decided to cut my losses and move on.

I did some work on my self esteem and when he came crawling back months later (a few weeks ago) and text me asking to see me realised I wasn't into him at all so I cheerily replied no thank you, I'm not interested. Yay for me. He said he was gutted bla bla bla. I didn't reply. Forgot all about him.

The other day it was my DD's birthday and I changed my Instagram picture to one of her when she was born. Unbeknownst to me he has been looking at my social media (which I don't have him as a friend on) and he's sent me an inbox this afternoon saying he has seen that picture and is having a meltdown because he thinks I've had a baby recently and wants to know if it's his!

Now obviously I'm not going to let the silly git think he has an actual child but AIBU to blank his message for a few days and let him see how he likes it 😂

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Staygoldponyboystaygold · 15/11/2023 18:45

This is so funny, I’d let him stew for a few days!!!

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BlackFriYay · 15/11/2023 18:45

Night409 · 15/11/2023 18:44

If I went looking for him online and saw wedding pictures or whatever else I'd be minding my own business.

Of course not because you’re not together and so it doesn’t affect you.
You having his baby would affect him.

You have started a thread saying that your ex thinks you’ve had his baby and you’re wondering whether to let him keep believing it or not - why would anyone do that?!

You may not have messaged him and told him you are pregnant/have had his baby but you know that he thinks the baby could be his.
You cannot use the excuse that he shouldn’t be looking on your SM anyway.

Some of these replies are also encouraging you to imply that he is the father without using the actual words, which is beyond disgraceful.

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Oh come on, it's a bit of fun. I don't think anybody is genuinely wanting me to lead him on.

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feelingalittlehorse · 15/11/2023 18:45

backtowinter · 15/11/2023 17:03

I would reply "who is this?"

Then block

Ahahahaaa

This. With bells on 🤣🤣🤣🤣

YetMoreNewBeginnings · 15/11/2023 18:45

Hes doing this to get back in touch, hoping OP will reply and he can get talking again. He's wanting more sex and this is his only way of contacting OP right now. Get her back in the web. He really isnt stupid enough to believe this photo is of his child

Exactky this.

And getting in touch in such away makes him look, in his mind, like the Uber good guy who had to get in touch when he saw the photo as that’s what genuinely good guys like him do

littlebopeepp234 · 15/11/2023 18:46

Night409 · 15/11/2023 18:44

If I went looking for him online and saw wedding pictures or whatever else I'd be minding my own business.

Of course not because you’re not together and so it doesn’t affect you.
You having his baby would affect him.

You have started a thread saying that your ex thinks you’ve had his baby and you’re wondering whether to let him keep believing it or not - why would anyone do that?!

You may not have messaged him and told him you are pregnant/have had his baby but you know that he thinks the baby could be his.
You cannot use the excuse that he shouldn’t be looking on your SM anyway.

Some of these replies are also encouraging you to imply that he is the father without using the actual words, which is beyond disgraceful.

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🤣🤣🤣 your posts are so laughable! That’s HIS problem if he thinks she’s had his baby. As I said earlier, if he hadn’t kept ghosting her and treated her like shit then he wouldn’t need to ask if it’s his baby as he would already know it’s not!!!

oakleaffy · 15/11/2023 18:47

FirstFallopians · 15/11/2023 17:04

Pahahahahahaha!

Oh I’d love to say something like

“I kept meaning to get in touch before you got the notification from CSA, but I just never knew what to say.

She has your eyes xxx”

I hope he’s sweating!

haha!
Oh definitely @BlackFriYay make him get swetty ballz! 😆

GonnaGetGoingReturns · 15/11/2023 18:47

From you posting his message OP, he’s definitely not excited about being a new dad, he’s panicking in case you ask for maintenance/CMS support if you’ve had his baby. And also what any girlfriend he has will think.

I’m not saying I’d do what any of the other posters say here but as in the words of the Bros song “I owe you nothing”!

Afteropening · 15/11/2023 18:48

how long were you with him op?

MaliciaKeys · 15/11/2023 18:48

The best reply, as several people have said, is ‘who is this?’ and then block.

He’s a fool.

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BlackFriYay · 15/11/2023 18:49

Afteropening · 15/11/2023 18:48

how long were you with him op?

Not very long really, months.

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DimplesToadfoot · 15/11/2023 18:49

I'd reply with -

'Ty, Yes, Np's'

TY because he congratulated you.

Yes - you've answered his question, Yes he is being stupid in thinking you've had a baby.

NP's - As he's sorry for bothering you.

Grimupnorth442 · 15/11/2023 18:49

Brilliant OP😀

Lwrenagain · 15/11/2023 18:50

"New baby who dis?"

Treacletoots · 15/11/2023 18:50

Oh so very rarely does the universe hand you the perfect opportunity to instill a bit of karmic retribution.

Enjoy every minute of the suspense OP. Love it.

Yetanothernamechangeagain · 15/11/2023 18:51

I’d reply with

“Really? You think it might be yours? I’d assumed you were infertile because of your”

then block

CheekyHobson · 15/11/2023 18:51

This calls for a nice casual

Shouldn't think so

and then block.

Afteropening · 15/11/2023 18:51

BlackFriYay · 15/11/2023 18:49

Not very long really, months.

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are we talking a couple of months?

Night409 · 15/11/2023 18:52

littlebopeepp234 · 15/11/2023 18:46

🤣🤣🤣 your posts are so laughable! That’s HIS problem if he thinks she’s had his baby. As I said earlier, if he hadn’t kept ghosting her and treated her like shit then he wouldn’t need to ask if it’s his baby as he would already know it’s not!!!

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Wow!

Balanceitout · 15/11/2023 18:54

I'd blatantly ignore it. He's just trying to draw you back into communicating. Don't let him.

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BlackFriYay · 15/11/2023 18:54

Afteropening · 15/11/2023 18:51

are we talking a couple of months?

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We met in November 22 and I last saw him in February.

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Pinkpinkpink15 · 15/11/2023 18:54

I thought you didn't 'do' SM? Stop stalking me. Anything you need to know will come from the CSA (or whatever alphabet soup it is now).

MarryingMrDarcy · 15/11/2023 18:54

Ha! Hahahahahahaha!! Amazing 😂

Enjoy it OP. FWIW I’m team “who dis?” & block

littlebopeepp234 · 15/11/2023 18:54

Night409 · 15/11/2023 18:52

Wow!

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Yes exactly! So how do you explain how op can try to get revenge on a guy using social media when he told her he doesn’t do social media? 🤔 lol

Silvetmoon · 15/11/2023 18:57

This is too funny. I wouldn’t reply at all. Let him sweat a few days, then just block him.

Antisocialneighbour · 15/11/2023 18:57

This is hilarious.

if you haven’t replied yet I’d say ‘I didn’t think you had social media which is why I never got in touch to tell you’ and then just leave him hanging to fuck with his head even more.