I'm going to hell aren't I? What the fuck

[BlackFriYay]

9 ish months ago I was seeing somebody I really liked but was being messed around terribly by. I'm talking ghosting after sex repeatedly, blatantly using me for sex but claiming otherwise.. I suspected he had a girlfriend towards the end but didn't have any proof as he "doesn't do social media". (Lies). Champions league wanker behaviour basically.

I thought I was in love with him at the time and it took me months to get over once I finally decided to cut my losses and move on.

I did some work on my self esteem and when he came crawling back months later (a few weeks ago) and text me asking to see me realised I wasn't into him at all so I cheerily replied no thank you, I'm not interested. Yay for me. He said he was gutted bla bla bla. I didn't reply. Forgot all about him.

The other day it was my DD's birthday and I changed my Instagram picture to one of her when she was born. Unbeknownst to me he has been looking at my social media (which I don't have him as a friend on) and he's sent me an inbox this afternoon saying he has seen that picture and is having a meltdown because he thinks I've had a baby recently and wants to know if it's his!

Now obviously I'm not going to let the silly git think he has an actual child but AIBU to blank his message for a few days and let him see how he likes it 😂

For all the men who ghost I feel this is just desserts. Can’t believe some women are having a go at you. You’ve done nothing wrong. I’d just ignore him.

Completely agree! He was continually ghosting after sex and so was using op for sex!! If he thinks he has got someone pregnant after using them for sex then that is exactly his just desserts! He gets no sympathy from me.

Reply and say, well it could be yours or it might be the bloke I was snagging behind your back.

Shagging

So it's her fault he treated her like dirt, but she'd still be the one stooping if she did anything about it. Which she hasn't.

Must be nice to live in a world where women are always wrong. It really makes you angry that you can't control pregnancy, doesn't it?

I like this one best.

I'd just reply: stop stalking my social media - you lied and told me you didn't do social media.

He has just followed me.. on an account created for his business 😂

I find the posts accusing you of behaving poorly having done absolutely nothing to confirm or deny his question extremely unpleasant.

OP you don't owe him ANYTHING, least of all an answer.

If you wish to decline to answer emphatically and lean towards a vague statement, that is 100% your business.

I would ignore and block, he was internet stalking you. You don't have to explain the life you're living to the stalker that is watching you incase they get the wrong idea!

Change your profile pic:

🤣 block the account!

Block him. He'll shit himself.

wouldn’t be be relieved if he had no desire to be involved?

”My child will be in touch one day if she decides she wants to meet you 🙄”. Then block.

Another one joining you in hell 👿

If you do reply, make sure he knows it's your daughter and you havent had a baby recently, as he'll just assume that's the reason you arent interested at the moment because you dont have time, not because he repulses you.

so you were dating for 3 months and you thought you were in love with him?

OP - i suspect he thinks you’re a bit bunny boilerish, hence thinking you could have had his baby and be planning on springing it on him!

so 3 months from meeting him to never seeing him again

and you thought you weee in love with him and it took you “months” to get over him

😧

Doubt it! And if he does think that then it’s his imagination running wild. Op already said he came back months later after ghosting her and she specifically told him she was no longer interested

12 weeks from meeting him to never seeing him again - and by the sounds of it OP was utterly desolate for months afterwards for the end of a relationship with someone she had fallen in love with

12 weeks!

Well then he really is an idiot, isn't he...because she never contacted him!

This thread was worth it just to see the pretzels people will tie themselves in to put a woman in the wrong when a man she used to know jumps on her out of the blue because he's overestimated his influence on her!

Indeed I did.

Two words, love bombing.

He was the first person I'd been with since splitting from children's father who I was with for eons.

It was incredibly embarrassing coming out of the other side and seeing it for what it was. I'm not usually the gullible type but there we go.

Edited to add - I categorically did not give off ANY bunny boiler vibes! I didn't chase when he ghosted and I certainly didn't tell him I loved him.

I posted about him in relationships and poured my heart out over there to get it out of my system 😂

Op you do sound nice and I don't want to be a bore but please tell him, you don't know what it could mean to him personally and it's not something to string out when you can just ease his mind.

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I would read it and next week reply. Who is this? Then block.