I'm going to hell aren't I? What the fuck

[BlackFriYay]

9 ish months ago I was seeing somebody I really liked but was being messed around terribly by. I'm talking ghosting after sex repeatedly, blatantly using me for sex but claiming otherwise.. I suspected he had a girlfriend towards the end but didn't have any proof as he "doesn't do social media". (Lies). Champions league wanker behaviour basically.

I thought I was in love with him at the time and it took me months to get over once I finally decided to cut my losses and move on.

I did some work on my self esteem and when he came crawling back months later (a few weeks ago) and text me asking to see me realised I wasn't into him at all so I cheerily replied no thank you, I'm not interested. Yay for me. He said he was gutted bla bla bla. I didn't reply. Forgot all about him.

The other day it was my DD's birthday and I changed my Instagram picture to one of her when she was born. Unbeknownst to me he has been looking at my social media (which I don't have him as a friend on) and he's sent me an inbox this afternoon saying he has seen that picture and is having a meltdown because he thinks I've had a baby recently and wants to know if it's his!

Now obviously I'm not going to let the silly git think he has an actual child but AIBU to blank his message for a few days and let him see how he likes it 😂

Oh and block him on social media. Even though he doesn’t use it. 🙄

Can you download one of those 'baby daddy photo apps and merge the photo of your daughter with his profile or linked in profile? Then update your FB profile picture? It would be so funny.

P.s. I love your responses to the hilariously challenged posters!

She's told him not to contact her. Surely he can work out the baby isn't his, most people tell the dad of an unplanned pregnancy. He's just trying to muscle in on her life again after her telling him to leave her alone. I think we have all worked that out now. So why is not saying anything unkind? He knows it isn't his bloody baby. You can work that out from anyones SM if there us just one random picture of a baby on one day and no others.

I've opened the message and said "don't worry, your name is not on the birth certificate of that baby" ..I just had to. It hasn't left my mind since PP suggested it yesterday 😂

I know. I'm the devil incarnation. Wicked, wicked woman.

Don't worry, I'll make sure he knows she isn't his. I'm hoping he will feel very, very silly.

Edited to add: I will be blocking him, on both accounts, and setting my IG to private now.

Haha this is hilarious! Silly man this might help him realise not to treat women like a disposable item? Leave him sweat OP!

Fabulous 😂😂

If my ex that treated me so badly messaged me asking that, I’d say something like - absolutely not. Now fuck off and don’t message me again.

I wouldn’t ignore it (knowing he’s going to keep asking) - which will mean he’s going to keep trying to contact me.
Or say something to imply it could be his - which will also mean he’s going to keep trying to contact me.

If OP wants to have contact with him then playing games isn’t the way to do it.

If she doesn’t want contact with him then she’d shut it down straight away and tell him to fuck off and block.

Yeah, but it hasn't happened to you, so... 🤣🤣🤣

That’s nice.

The Op isn’t you.

And actually like all of us you don’t actually know what you’d do in a circumstance you e never been in. Only what you think you’d do.

Seems to me that the bloke was a cat playing with a mouse )the op).

Now the mouse (op) is playing with the cat (the bloke).

Tom and Jerrafina.

No need for any pearls to be clutched.

Well I do because I had a similar experience when my ex messaged me after 3 years of no contact, asking if the newborn baby was his 🤦‍♀️

I told him no obviously not and to fuck off back to school and to not contact me again.
Then I blocked him.

But I didn’t want anything to do with him, so I didn’t encourage any contact.

I love your response.

I have no idea why people are being so self righteous! The bloke was a total arse. Serves him right for stalking OP's SM after he'd already been told to get lost!

I think most people might appreciate letting him stew for a bit under the circumstances without being out for revenge, obsessed or any other nonsense that conveniently plays into misogynistic stereotypes of women 🙄

@Totaly Tell him you’ll let him k ow when the first DNA results come through as you are going in alphabetical order.

Just laughed my head off on the school playground 🤣 Everyone's glancing at me from under their brollies 🤣🤣🤣

PLEASE say what Totaly said, OP!

@MN I think this should be a Mumsnet classic!

Huh? What?

Of course your ex didn't think your newborn baby was his if you hadn't been in contact for three years.

He played you for a response and got one.

Can’t believe there are people on this thread who seem to think the OP owed him any kind of answer.

She owes him precisely nothing.

There is no baby.

The picture is of her daughter when she was a baby.

We’re not talking about someone who has a posted a picture announcing the arrival of her new baby, we’re talking about someone putting up the picture of her child as a baby, from several years ago.

If he stalked her profile and jumped to conclusions then that’s on him, not the OP.

I love the OP’s response, but personally I wouldn’t have replied. He doesn’t deserve anything.

And yes, I would have inwardly chuckled at the thought he might think he has a baby out there. Because the reality is that if you treat women like shit and then bugger off, then there’s probably a chance you might have children out there you don’t know of.

But in this case he doesn’t.

@Afteropening You clearly have never been with an emotionally abusive love-bomber. It's not OP you should be criticising

A three year pregnancy? That’s quite something.

So are you an elephant or in the Guineas book of records?

The posts just get more and more sensible and plausible, don't they?

This is hilarious 😂 I love it OP

It wasn’t even my baby! Lol

And yes I did respond because I knew that if I didn’t he would keep asking if the baby was his.
Once he knew, he’d have no legitimate reason to contact me.

A baby photo 9 months after you had sex would have any man wondering.
And I’d hope any decent man would reach out.

OP has also responded to this guy and was encouraged to do so by many posters…………

The elephant.

Unfortunately, the book of world records is only for humans.

erm, but he didn’t have any legitimate reason to contact you after three years?

And instead of blocking him you contacted him, so you clearly wanted to contact him.

Were you obsessed with him per chance? A bit of a bunny boiler? Because you’re acting in exactly the same way as the op who you’re accusing of being one.

Do keep up.

after three years there was no reason for him to think that a newborn was his, and therefore no reason to contact him.

In other words, stop making implausible shit up to justify your agenda.

Ermm no I’m acting the complete opposite.

I replied and shut it down straight away.

OP has done the opposite - she wanted to wait a few days and now she’s replied without a definite answer, knowing he’ll contact her again.