Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

I'm going to hell aren't I? What the fuck

767 replies

BlackFriYay · 15/11/2023 16:54

9 ish months ago I was seeing somebody I really liked but was being messed around terribly by. I'm talking ghosting after sex repeatedly, blatantly using me for sex but claiming otherwise.. I suspected he had a girlfriend towards the end but didn't have any proof as he "doesn't do social media". (Lies). Champions league wanker behaviour basically.

I thought I was in love with him at the time and it took me months to get over once I finally decided to cut my losses and move on.

I did some work on my self esteem and when he came crawling back months later (a few weeks ago) and text me asking to see me realised I wasn't into him at all so I cheerily replied no thank you, I'm not interested. Yay for me. He said he was gutted bla bla bla. I didn't reply. Forgot all about him.

The other day it was my DD's birthday and I changed my Instagram picture to one of her when she was born. Unbeknownst to me he has been looking at my social media (which I don't have him as a friend on) and he's sent me an inbox this afternoon saying he has seen that picture and is having a meltdown because he thinks I've had a baby recently and wants to know if it's his!

Now obviously I'm not going to let the silly git think he has an actual child but AIBU to blank his message for a few days and let him see how he likes it 😂

OP posts:
Thread gallery
7
CubaLibre23 · 15/11/2023 19:50

His punctuation (lack of) is a crime against the English language.

ilikemethewayiam · 15/11/2023 19:51

Totaly · 15/11/2023 17:01

Tell him you’ll let him k ow when the first DNA results come through as you are going in alphabetical order.

🤣🤣🤣🤣

Afteropening · 15/11/2023 19:51

since you have split…. have you posted any photos at all on instagram of yourself?

CostelloJones · 15/11/2023 19:51

Just RTFT and omg some of these replies 😂😂😂

There is a HUGE difference between letting him shit his pants for a bit before putting him out of his misery and… actually pretending you had his baby.

Some people don’t spend much time on social media so he may have not got a quick reply anyway - guarantee I wouldn’t have even seen his message for days if it were me.

(Coming someone who had multiple miscarriages/losses and now has a bit of a funny relationship with pregnancy/baby announcements. Not offended at all ffs)

PumpkinFence · 15/11/2023 19:51

Oh this is brilliant!

SurprisedWithAHorse · 15/11/2023 19:51

Afteropening · 15/11/2023 19:51

since you have split…. have you posted any photos at all on instagram of yourself?

Why on earth do you want to know that?

Tinabrowley · 15/11/2023 19:51

😄 hilarious post OP.

MargotBamborough · 15/11/2023 19:52

Mwahahahaha just leave him on read forever.

BlackFriYay · 15/11/2023 19:53

Afteropening · 15/11/2023 19:51

since you have split…. have you posted any photos at all on instagram of yourself?

Nothing that would confirm or rule out a pregnancy no. I don't tend to post pictures of myself. It's mainly all food / funny memes / days out / the odd one of the children.

OP posts:
2whatdo · 15/11/2023 19:55

even if you say it isn't his will he believe you

Shivermetimbersmearty · 15/11/2023 19:55

reading pps and your update, I’m inclined to agree that he knows there’s no baby!

he wants to hook you in. He also wants you to say there’s been no-one else since blah blah blah.

all the more reason to ghost and block!

Globules · 15/11/2023 19:57

I've never met you.

I love you.

Maddy70 · 15/11/2023 19:57

I would tell him. But ...tomorrow ;)

SwiftieGrainger · 15/11/2023 20:00

littlebopeepp234 · 15/11/2023 19:31

That’s his problem! He shouldn’t use people for sex and then ghost them and then wonder if that person got pregnant with his baby! Simples!

If you actually think this way you must be a horrible person. You know nothing about the man.

Afteropening · 15/11/2023 20:00

SurprisedWithAHorse · 15/11/2023 19:51

Why on earth do you want to know that?

think about it….

The OP answered so clearly obvious to some!

Delphinium20 · 15/11/2023 20:01

This is absolutely brilliant! So many good replies. No idea why some posters have the sads for the poor man who ghosted you. I suppose they are either men or pickmes.

AliceOlive · 15/11/2023 20:02

BlackFriYay · 15/11/2023 19:13

He has just followed me.. on an account created for his business 😂

Tell him to back the hell off. His behavior is creepy.

Theunamedcat · 15/11/2023 20:02

Maybe let him dangle a little

SurprisedWithAHorse · 15/11/2023 20:05

Afteropening · 15/11/2023 20:00

think about it….

The OP answered so clearly obvious to some!

No, I don't see why pics of OP, which might be her face or a weird angle or her after a load of pasta would mean anything at all. She hasn't been pregnant so what on earth difference does it make?

You're really reaching now, aren't you?

Fuckityfucksake · 15/11/2023 20:06

As much as he's a dick, I couldn't not tell him.
Not yet though, let him stew a bit. I'd offer
No, don't be so fucking stupid I wouldn't procreate with an absolute arsehole. Then block.
I did snort at the getting back to him after going alphabetically through the list 😂

Afteropening · 15/11/2023 20:08

SurprisedWithAHorse · 15/11/2023 20:05

No, I don't see why pics of OP, which might be her face or a weird angle or her after a load of pasta would mean anything at all. She hasn't been pregnant so what on earth difference does it make?

You're really reaching now, aren't you?

read the OP’s response to my question and that should hopefully help you along

Thefaceofboe · 15/11/2023 20:10

This has made my day 😁

Hibiscrubbed · 15/11/2023 20:10

What absolute heaven. Sometimes the universe rewards us with spectacular opportunities such as this.

Gettingbysomehow · 15/11/2023 20:11

Blank him forever and block him. He never needs to know the truth lol.

BlackFriYay · 15/11/2023 20:14

He has unfollowed me again now, the follow will have been to get my attention if I didn't see the message. Blimey this must be all he has thought about since 4pm this afternoon, assuming that was when he saw the picture and not days ago when he has been cyber stalking

OP posts: