to think my DP is very rude to pour curry sauce over food

[Confused19831983]

Tonight I cooked a curry for dinner from scratch. I asked DP to get some rice from the Chinese on his way home from work as mine always goes wrong. He came home with rice, curry sauce and vegetable spring rolls. Before he even tasted the curry I had cooked he poured the curry sauce all over his dinner. AIBU to be a bit pissed off about this? When I told him I was annoyed he seemed to think it was funny!

The difference is that one says 'I'm assuming your cooking is going to be awful', and the other says 'not to my taste, sorry about that'.

Who's said that it's awful? Why isn't it just as likely to be "this is amazing, but I really love salt, so I'm going to add salt to make it even more amazing!"?

If condiments and sauces were universally used to mask a dreadful taste, do you think that fancy restaurants would ever make them available? That would be the equivalent of a musician handing out ear plugs with every ticket bought for their concert!

On reflection, after reading these comments, had he tasted the food and then poured the sauce over it because he thought it was awful - yes, this would have been worse.
Having spoken to him more, slathering the meal in curry sauce seems to have been more of an automatic response - not because he hates my cooking but because he loves the condiment.
I am still a bit pissed off.

Goodness me, you hold a grudge don’t you?

If you had made home made burger and chips, would you have been annoyed at him blatting ketchup all over his chips before tasting?
What's the difference?

@MyCreakyKnees No, I wouldn't have been pissed off if he'd put ketchup on his chips.
How is that remotely the same thing? 😂

I think it's rude.

For context, I cook about two or three times a week. DP normally about twice (he always makes the same thing, breaded Birdseye cod he puts in oven, mushy peas and jacket potato - he does chips for himself. I always enjoy this meal). The rest of time we have ready meals or takeaways or we might go out. We have a baby so cooking elaborate meals not a priority but on this occasion I had made an effort.
@Janieforever Yep, he's still sleeping in the spare room (ha ha only joking)

Rice is so easy. Rinse the rice. One cup rice to 2.5 cups water. Bring to the boil. Lid on. Then you can turn the stove off and it will cook itself in about 25 minutes.

Ask him for a rice cooker for Christmas. Prevent the issue from the source 😂

Give him a beginners cookbook of quick and simple recipes for Christmas.

Shoving Bird's Eye in the oven every single time does not count as doing his share of the cooking.

Even a cheese and vegetable omelette would be a better offering and would probably be ready faster.

If it's basmati you're struggling with then you need to soak the fuck out of it and wash all the cloudy away.

Don't leave it to go over.

Chuck a bit of milk and paprika into the water whilst boiling. I sometimes add cumin pods when feeling particularly experimental 😂.

Or use long grain, literally can't fuck that up.

No, far worse than the worst Yorkshire pudding! It's a 'delicacy' in Gibraltar, a Geordie told me that the only way he could get it down was with gallons of ketchup! I honestly feel a bit queasy now and it's almost 50 years ago!

There's a lot of controlling people on here

Why does anyone need a rice cooker?

Cup of easy cook rice. Cup and a half of water in a pyrex bowl. Microwave for 13 mins. Perfect rice

Buy a rice cooker. I have a Joseph Joseph one and even the kids can do it.

Let him eat his food the way he wants. Christ alive

@Confused19831983 How is it not?
Sauce over chips etc before tasting.
Sauce over other foods before tasting.
It's no different.

Get a microwave rice cooker, quick easy perfect rice every time.

A rice cooker is your friend here . Don’t have to watch it - perfect every time

OP try boil in the bag rice its game changer always comes out perfect!

It was a bit of a dick move from him, but he's been made to go the chippy for rice and temptation put in his way, so I couldn't blame him that much

My thoughts exactly.

How does that work in an Italian restaurant, when the waiter comes with the comically phallic black pepper mill, and you can choose how much black pepper you'd like before even eating? Likewise the parmesan... they are both just condiments, the meal can be eaten with or without.

Would you taste your pasta in an Italian restaurant before they sprinkle the Parmesan, or black pepper?

The difference is:

Everyone knows what chips taste like. They are a plain food that demand salt, vinegar, ketchup, mayonaisse, gravy, curry sauce etc.

No-one knows what the OP's Moroccan style chick pea curry is going to taste like. It is likely to be a strongly flavoured spiced meal. Drowning it in another strongly flavoured spiced sauce without tasting it is very different.

I like how everyone is still arguing hypotheticals and rice and ignoring the flavour mix. I am still going green from the idea of moroccan tagine with chinese curry on top😂 🤢 Still wonder what's up with his tastebuds