to think my DP is very rude to pour curry sauce over food

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Tonight I cooked a curry for dinner from scratch. I asked DP to get some rice from the Chinese on his way home from work as mine always goes wrong. He came home with rice, curry sauce and vegetable spring rolls. Before he even tasted the curry I had cooked he poured the curry sauce all over his dinner. AIBU to be a bit pissed off about this? When I told him I was annoyed he seemed to think it was funny!

Well I was going to say YANBU OP but then I read about the chick peas

I'm amused that everyone is acting like you're a control freak or that you need to chill out and accusing you of being 'worked up' etc. Seemed pretty clear to me that it was a slightly irked but mostly light hearted thread.

Also a bit disappointed no one told you to LTB!

People make a mess of cooking rice because they think there is some sort of mysterious rule that means you have to get the perfect amount of water every time, then cook until it's all absorbed.

That's nonsense, and it's a surefire way to end up with a sticky, gloopy mess.

You rinse the rice repeatedly to get rid of the starch, add boiling water to at least 3x the depth of the rice in the pan, leave it on a gentle boil until the rice is at your preferred "bite", add more boiling water if required, remove and drain when it's done.

No possibility of over/under cooking, and it doesn't turn into a sticky mess.

I wouldn't be offended: probably being in the chippy just made him really fancy the curry sauce.

My husband sometimes puts salt and pepper on food without trying it first (not just my food). I love salt so don't skimp on it, I promise. He also adds loads of ketchup to stuff. Likewise I would probably dollop yoghurt on a curry without having tried it first...

I like the sound of chickpea curry (although I probably wouldn't cook it for my husband without offering to do some chicken on the side as well). Moroccan food is delish.

Different households, different manners, I guess. I have certainly been taught (can't remember if at home or elsewhere) that it's uncouth to add salt and pepper without tasting the food first: I wouldn't do it as a guest in someone's house.

But I agree things can be more relaxed at home - particularly if you know you like your food saltier than whoever prepared it. And obviously with kids eating, stuff is likely to be underseasoned and probably everyone needs to ass salt to taste at the table.

(Condiments are different as they go on they side, so I think it's ok etiquette-wise to put some on the plate.)

Good grief, my husband adds all manner of condiments to the meals I cook, and I couldn't possibly find the energy to care. Of course, I loathe cooking so I'm usually too relieved that it's over for another evening to bother myself over another adult's food choices.

It seems that OP enjoys cooking though, which I guess is why she feels differently.

I would be pissed off that he didn’t even taste it first, but then again I would judge anyone who poured chippy curry sauce on anything which clearly puts me in the minority around here 😂 With regards rice, buy a rice cooker from an Asian supermarket, they are cheap and absolutely foolproof. Way cheaper in the long run than paying for cooked rice.

If your curry had apricots in it, I'd have slathered it in curry sauce too.

I can’t even work out what crime he’s committed. Or why it’s a crime.

imagine being so proud of your own cooking that you get upset about this. Not sure even a Michelin star chef would get like this over a chick pea curry of all things.

I’d get it if you were a fabulous cook who had made duck a L’orange and he smothered it in curry sauce, but you can’t even boil rice which is very basic.

it was just curry sauce, let it go.

She can’t even boil rice,what’s the odds of her being so superb she cooks a chick pea curry like it’s an art form 😂

OP if you have a microwave, get one of these.

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Sistema-Microwave-Rice-Cooker-2-6/dp/B00BTIVNT4/ref=asc_df_B00BTIVNT4/?tag=googshopuk-21&linkCode=df0&hvadid=231941614295&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=17239554866774459550&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=m&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9046326&hvtargid=pla-384010877277&psc=1&mcid=9019203c167b3db285a6ee9da63c3e2e&th=1&psc=1

Rinse and soak your rice then add twice as much weight of water to rice and microwave for about 8 minutes.

Will pay for itself in a couple of meals compared with buying rice from a takeaway.

Rice is easymode to cook, or maybe get one of the asian rice cookers or something.

I think yabu as in he can eat whatever he wishes, chinese curry has MSGs in it,it would make dog poo taste nice,it was never going to beat home made monosodium glutamate free curry.

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Ltb

I was always taught it was rude to season your plate before trying it.

One thing if it’s a regular dish that you know how it is, but a new recipe? Even a small sample bite would be polite first

It does seem bizarre to add salt and pepper to a meal before tasting it. How do you know it needs it? I'm an excellent cook, but always screwed up rice until I got a microwave rice cooker. And the people going on about chickpea curry being horrible are just showing their colossal ignorance-I'm a little embarrassed for you.

Quite vofused what's Moroccan chickpea curry. Do you mean just Moroccan chickpea stew or non moroccan chickpea curry😳
Maybe it needed the curry to actually be some type of curry.

If I'm being sent to the Chinese to pick up rice, I'm coming home with satay sauce.

Believe it or not loads of people struggle with rice but are good with other foods. I know a couple of people who always complain their rice turns out sticky, hence rice cookers exist. If it was that easy for everyone they wouldn’t. They can cook other things well.

I even know one work colleague who complains she loves omelettes but can’t cook them and I can’t understand how she can’t!

Well, I've read this thread and now I really want a Chinese curry. It is rude what your husband did though.

However, I do find boiled rice tasteless and bland. Whenever we have Morrocan chicken and chickpea stew, which I assume is similar, we have it with cous cous which I add olive oil, lemon juice and parley to. And salt and pepper obvs. Easier to cook than rice as well.

I also wanted to know why you didn't cook the rice. It's so easy. Also want to know what type of curry.

Ah, I see Moroccan, surely that would be a tagine!

Rice can be difficult for many and different types of rice can require different timings. Rice cookers are staples in several Asian countries and considering the market here (and in several countries) for microwave rice, OP is not the only one who struggles.

Can you yourself say that there isn’t one dish or type of food you struggle to cook or make or are you simply a perfect cook deciding to be unnecessarily rude?

As an Asian, a moroccan chickpea ‘curry’ sounds like an abomination, as does having to buy in chinese take away rice. I’d be disguising it too. You’re not always going to have meals that both of you enjoy.

Some foods I know will always need seasoning. Boiled carrots, for example, for me, always benefit from a bit of salt.

What do people have against chickpeas and Moroccan food?