to think my DP is very rude to pour curry sauce over food

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Tonight I cooked a curry for dinner from scratch. I asked DP to get some rice from the Chinese on his way home from work as mine always goes wrong. He came home with rice, curry sauce and vegetable spring rolls. Before he even tasted the curry I had cooked he poured the curry sauce all over his dinner. AIBU to be a bit pissed off about this? When I told him I was annoyed he seemed to think it was funny!

IKWYM OP. It's like taking time to pick out a nice new jumper for his birthday, and him immediately stuffing it in the dog's bed as padding without even trying it on. Yeah, technically, it's his to do what he wants with, and he's getting use out of it, but most people would surely feel sad that it hadn't been appreciated as a jumper.

Edit: On a different scale, obviously. I know a birthday gift isn't the same thing as a weekday meal. Same vibes, I mean.

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Nothing against moroccan food. "Moroccan curry" however... Different flavours so can't really imagine what comes out of mixing moroccan and curry...

I'm with you on this - I wouldn't care if it was a bung in the oven dinner (which we usually end up with about once a week) but a meal I've cooked from scratch, I would be.

I wonder if those saying it's OK would you do it at their parents' house or at a dinner party?

Don't understand the angst about rice, though - boil water, stick rice in, and let it cook for time stated on the packet?

Anyway, OP - Morocco curry sounds great, can you share the recipe? I love a tagine!

I think asking him to pop in to pick up some rice from a Chinese takeaway place was really weird. I can’t imagine having half “home made from scratch” 🙄 and half takeaway at the same meal. I also wouldn’t go into a takeaway and order rice, so I think you invited it to be honest. Why didn’t you tell him to go to Tesco and get a packet of rice I do not know.

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at “struggle with rice “

YANBU Op I would be livid if my dh did that.

If you can, get one of these:

rice cooker

They're fab. Perfect rice every time; no cooking involved.

Not sure if it's rude or just the act of an unthinking tit who doesn't understand the difference in curry flavours. As to the twerp who said your chickpea curry sounded rank, that is rude.

Yes it's rude. And laughing was nasty.

If she’s gone to the trouble of making a curry with lovely, tasty herbs and spices to make a really nice deep flavour and then he’s gone and smothered it in Chinese curry sauce then what was the point in her curry?

The point of the curry was to cook something for dinner because it was her turn to do so. She didn't have to cook it if she didn't want to - presumably she did so because she wanted to eat it?

You can't dictate how other adults choose to eat their meals

Nothing, it just all sounds a bit mixed up.

Moroccan food with chick peas would be a tagine with different spices and probably have dried fruit in it, and would generally be served with cous cous not rice.

Chick pea curry would normally be Indian/Pakistani/Bangladeshi, so served with basmati rice, not the long grain rice served by Chinese takeaways.

Chinese curry sauce (which may not even exist in the UK style in China but that's not relevant here) doesn't really go with chick peas, more likely chicken, prawns, tofu and veg like onions, peas or mushrooms.

So it definitely pays to be wary of something described as 'Moroccan curry served with Chinese rice'. It sounds like something a mass caterer makes up to cover vegan and gluten free dietary requirements and fulfill the commitment they made to diversity when they bid for the contract.

Amused at all the purists agonising over exactly which rice to use, but perfectly cool about a boorish person pouring bought curry sauce over an (untasted) home made dish!

He sounds classy.

Not what you asked, but as someone who ballsed up rice for years - Tilda easy cook basmati is perfect.

Rinse first, cook in plenty of water (none of this cook till it’s all absorbed) and it is as good as a restaurant.

As he didn't pour it all over everyone's meals why does it matter if it tasted wrong, surely an adult is free to eat what he wants? So many women are incredibly controlling!

"Moroccan style chickpea curry"

Think I would need something poured over that too but I had a bad experience with chick peas!

I like Moroccan food generally but as for chick peas, all I can say is calentita, basically a wallpaper paste-like thick pancake made with chickpeas. I've travelled a lot, eaten some odd stuff but that made me actually retch.

XH used to ladle salt over his meals before trying them. I used to ask nicely that he at least try the meal first, given that I would spend quite a lot of time prepping and cooking them, but he was of the 'Oh but I like a lot of salt so I'll ignore basic manners' camp.

So one day I ladled the salt into his portion before I served it up. As always, he added salt before trying it. Strangely, he didn't enjoy the finished product, but at least he took to trying his food before seasoning from then on.

Mind you, he also used to reach over my plate to help himself to things from my end of the table, rather than ask for them to be passed. Just shit table manners generally.

Different households, different manners, I guess. I have certainly been taught (can't remember if at home or elsewhere) that it's uncouth to add salt and pepper without tasting the food first: I wouldn't do it as a guest in someone's house.

I don't see the difference, though, between:

A. "I like lots of salt on my food, so I'll add it straightaway before tasting, as I doubt you've made it salty enough for my preferences";

B. "Right, let's just have a taste and see if you've seasoned it properly; euw, no, you haven't - I'm going to have to add more before it's acceptable"

If you choose to take it personally, how is one of those rude and the other polite?!

I'm not a very good cook but have never struggled with rice. But now I'm wondering if I've just been making horrible rice this whole time without realising it??

What are the things that make rice unappetising? Do I need to raise my bar?

And the people going on about chickpea curry being horrible are just showing their colossal ignorance-I'm a little embarrassed for you.

People are allowed to like and dislike different things. It's not ignorant to know that you don't like/want a particular foodstuff for whatever reason - do you think that vegans are being 'ignorant' for refusing meat, even if they've never actually tasted it before?

Personally, I like most foods; but I've never seen the attraction with chickpeas. Or couscous - it's like munching on the contents of a beanbag to me.

How can anyone not be able to cook rice? Even if you don’t get the measurements right to cook it so that the water is fully absorbed, cook it like pasta (on loads of water) then drain it and rinse with very hot / boiling water.

I am fairly average, using the words the op used. I can do the basics though, like boil eggs,pasta, rice and make toast .

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Sounds in effect very much like the pale, dense, damp, cuboidal, solid dough-slabs that were early-90s-and-prior school Yorkshire puddings. I guess they wanted to fill us up on flour. Or maybe our school cook was just terrible at Yorkshire puddings.