To be sad my dd won’t have a sister?

[ajarintennessee]

She has two older brothers, but for me and all around me wiht friends and cousins and aunts I see that special place a sister or several holds, and I’m so sad for her she won’t have that. It’s dhs call that we are done with babies and he’s just not very sensitive about things, which doesn’t help. Tell me of your close lasting relationships with brothers to make me feel better! (I have brothers too but it’s not the same)

I have a boy and three girls. The closest pairing are between the brother and eldest girl. I think age gap has more impact on sibling friendship over all.

I have one younger brother and no sisters. I’ve never really felt the need for a sister. I didn’t really get on with my brother growing up but I think that’s because he’s four years younger. As adults we are now good friends.

I think you’re probably suffering from confirmation bias as you look around and only see ‘close sister relationships’ around you. And then you’re feeling sad about what your DD doesn’t have - rather than concentrating on the great things she does have.

I have a sister. We have never been close. I haven’t directly spoken to her this year as far as I can remember. No falling out or ‘no/low contact edict’. We just live different lives and don’t see or speak to each other much at all.

Growing up, we both wished we had a brother. But there’s no guarantee a brother would have been what either of us imagined.

My advice would be to simply stop dwelling on what you wish things were like so you can see the positives in what things actually are like.

My best friend has two younger brothers and they get on brilliantly, are very close and supportive of one another. Their kids all get on well and she gets on with the wives.

The only properly estranged siblings I know who really don't have anything to do with one another are sisters.

I also know of three sisters where two don't get on and any essential communication has to go through the third. It is something like, sister 1 and 2 get on really well, sister 1 and 3 don't get on and don't trust one another, sister 2 and 3 speak but aren't close and sister 3 is suspicious and mistrustful of sister 2 because sister 2 is friends with sister 1.

I have 5 siblings, 3 brothers and 2 sisters. I'm closest to my sister where there is the biggest age gap (8 years). We're just very similar in personality, careers, values etc. when younger I played with my brothers as they were closer in age.
I think with families being smaller these days there will be lots of girls who don't have sisters and there will be a bigger reliance on friendships. Whilst I am very close to my sister I am closer to my bf (who only has a brother) and see them several times a week (we live close to each other) and our dc see themselves as cousins.

I totally get it. I have a sister and it is special indeed. Also see it with others too (not all of course). More so in adulthood, as things are less fraught when you don't live together.

I have a dd and a ds, and felt a little sad that my dd won't have a sister when I found out (she wanted one, and I get it too), as did she, however she hasn't mentioned it agsin since he arrived, and so far they adore each other and have made it very easy, so that's really all I can ask for. I won't be having more so that's it and I'm forever grateful for my pair.

I think there's something to the sentiment that it's ok not to get everything we want though. Life is full of little frustrations snd sadnesses about all sorts of things, and that's ok. So in short YANBU to feel how you feel, but I'm sure your dd will be fine either way.