To be upset at being told to “just get on with it”

[rhaenyra01]

I have started having really bad migraines since having my DD. When I get them I can’t bear to look at light, and any sound even if it’s in another room or downstairs, goes straight through me and makes me feel like I’m being whacked on the head with a hammer. My whole head feels like it’s going to burst and it’s extremely painful. I also feel really nauseous and teary.

I started with one last night, took two ibuprofen and went to bed early, woke up several times through the night with the pain, this morning I was meant to be at work and was sat in tears in bed with the pain.

DH said not to go to work as I have to drive there and said it wasn’t safe for me to drive. As it’s a day where DH and I are both meant to be at work, we had arranged childcare, however DH got annoyed that he was having to take DD to childcare as he said if I wasn’t at work, I should be looking after her. I was literally sat with my hands over my ears and my eyes shut with the pain I was in, I could barely stand to hear him and DD’s voices. He said it was just a headache and I should just get on with it, what would I have done if childcare wasn’t arranged, etc. He left with DD making it pretty clear that he thought I was putting it on.

I don’t think DH appreciates how debilitating a migraine is and it’s really upset me. If I had a cold or anything else of course I’d look after my daughter even when I was off sick from work but I literally can’t bear sound and light when I have a migraine and all that helps me is lying in the dark and trying not to move. It’s making my head absolutely pound to write this post but just needed to vent. AIBU to be upset and feel guilty?

My ex-DH used to get migraines and he'd spend the day in bed. I would be annoyed because life doesn't stop when you get a headache.
Then I got my first one in my late 30s. I thought I was dying. Really. I went to emergency. It was horrendous. Then I felt bad for all the times I had been a bit light on the sympathy 😂

Anyway, rizatriptan has been a lifesaver. I can usually manage if I take one straight away. I'm not sure I could post online in that full on, it's taken hold period but I'm not exactly able to do anything then. Either way, you need to get some migraine meds, they should help.

If you suffer from migraines, why are you taking ibuprofen and not prescription meds? At the very least, you should be taking Migralieve.

Have you actually been diagnosed with migraines, or have you self-diagnosed because you don’t think you could possibly just have an awful headache? Most people can’t tolerate light when they have headaches; migraine sufferers can’t look at phone screens.

DH suffers from migraines. He spends about an hour vomiting before spending 24 hours asleep in bed in and out of cold sweats. He then has a further 48 hours of being very weak.

Because in all likelihood - this “migraine” is “self diagnosed”

I have suffered with more migraines since having my DS and Migraleve saved me. It fills the intense migraine down to a bad headache. I still wouldn’t/couldn’t look after my son. Not properly anyway. Your husband is out of line asking you to look after your child if you are ill, he obviously doesn’t felt migraines!
As others have said, please go and see a doctor about them as you may be prescribed something to help!

Hope you are feeling better and you got to rest and ignore all the bitchyitis comments on here, am shocked at the mean and vile messages. Talk about kicking you when you are down. Think a few need hrt to calm themselves down. Hope your husband also helped out and pls see your doctor as my migraines were hormonal and it also helps if you cut out sugar and any processed foods around 10 days before period due. Wishing you well.