To not get paying thousands for a wedding?

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I know I'm probably in the minority. It's just something I struggle to understand.

My friend is getting married and it's costing literally tens of thousands of pounds. They haven't really got the money but are saving hard and borrowing and I know that it's what she wants.

I'd be really annoyed if someone judged me for what I spend my money on. We all have to prioritise and do what makes us happy. Knowing this, I still wince at the cost and can't help but think what else the money could be used for.

My cousin spent thousands on a lovely wedding and they divorced three years later.

If you spent a lot do you regret it or was it worth every penny?

DH and I spent about £13.5 almost 19 years ago. We got married in a castle and had reception in a medieval banqueting room. I arrived with my bridesmaids and flower girl in a horse drawn carriage and we have sensational photo's I love to look at. We had a four course sit down meal and honestly I don't regret a penny we spent on it. I felt like a fairytale princess that day marrying my prince.

I’ve been to weddings that have cost tens of thousands and weddings on a shoestring. Love a wedding.

and yes I’ve looked around and thought, oh you have spent so much….

we had a £10k wedding for a 100 people (inc rings, dresses, new suit etc). It was more of a big party than a wedding.

but we spent £20k on a 3 week holiday last year, that was worth it!

Me neither, which is why we didn't do it. Ours was about £600 in 2016.

I've been to overblown country 'barn' weddings with no expense spared, and church hall weddings, where tinned soup and sliced ham out of a packet were served. All couples are now divorced.

A colleague spent £30k plus honeymoon in the tropics last year, on her first day back in the office said that they both wish they'd spent less and paid off a massive chunk of their mortgage.

A friend had the full Monty 10 y ars ago, we joked as to whether to gift them a lump sum or pay them a tenner a year - we should have done the latter as he was off within 2 years, an absolute fortune spent on the perfect day, wasted.

My own wedding cost £2k so I didn't feel bad about that aspect when we divorced.