To be sad that no one would help

[Parpadew]

Emergency last night and I needed someone to drive a forty minute round trip. That's all. Never asked for this or any favour really before. I offered to pay. No one would help. Not my mum, siblings. One friend would have but she's on holiday. Got a taxi in the end but it was sheer luck one turned up as it's not a well covered part of the country.

Feel really alone right now!

The only train station near me is a (fast) 20 min drive away along small lanes. It has a carpark about the size of a postage stamp and a tiny platform either side of the rails with no shelter. There is a taxi; Dave has an estate car and he lives round the corner from the station. He'll come out as long as it's not too late and not too far to go if it's getting late.

I can picture the chaos of a whole train load being evacuated there!

So i can see how this situation developed.

I live in an equally tiny village though and we all have cars. It's tricky when you don't drive and rely on public transport. I do get that the OP lives in a city.

OP clarified ages ago.

She doesn't live rurally, she lives in a city. The train carrying her 'DP' unexpectedly terminated in a village 20 mins drive away from the city she lives in.

How often do you need help, OP?

There's someone in my family who, the minute something goes pear-shaped, shouts for help. They don't try to sort things out themselves. Is this you? If so, perhaps the family have had enough. Are you also, like my relative, one of those people who don't seem to think ahead and have a back-up plan?

IME if something happens to prevent a journey the train company normally organises some form of cover — bus or taxis. I was once on a train that had to stop at Hereford because of a problem further along the line and was taken 100 miles by taxi to Crewe. Did no one from the train company/ station offer that in your circumstances?

Why should SHE have the expense of a car when SHE (or her partner) doesn’t normally need one?

Because it gives you choices. Other people have the expense of running a car which affords them their own choices.

You don’t get to not have the cost of running a car but still getting the choices, unfortunately.

I would be sad too. They could have a good reason which you’re not aware of ie closet gin drinkers. Or it’s simply thoughtlessness. I would have to say something.

@VWdieselnightmare

Never asked for this or any favour really before.

(from the OP)

I agree

At 5pm I would assume that the train company would sort it out to get everyone onto big town.

Or City taxi drivers would hear of the issue and think -l will get over to rural place and make sone easy money

So at 5/7ish it's not an emergency-just inconvenience.

That's awful, unless I've had a drink I'd absolutely have driven and helped out.

Not surprised you're feeling a bit shit now

What reasons did your Mum and siblings give?

Probably all in the middle of making dinner at that time.

@BibbleandSqwauk I agree the op was initially a little unclear but updates (if people bother to read them) said it was her stranded and the "partner" bit was a rhetorical question^
Not so. It was her partner. She's posted that she's lied to him about why people wouldn't help. She's either unclear of changing the story a fair bit.

What time was it? Does your partner not have friends or family he could call?
And would be first time my dh has slept at a train station

I think it depends what the other people were doing and how serious the situation was. Did they need to work/have kids who needed feeding or were in bed etc

That’s terrible if my family asked me I would have jumped straight in my car !!! Why wouldn’t u ?
I can’t get my head around why people are so selfish ! X

Doesn’t it depend on context?

If my sister was stranded at a train station then I’d go and pick her up. I have done.

If my sister’s boyfriend was stranded at a train station at 1am, drunk, following a night out with his mates, and I have to be up at 6am for work, then it’s a no from me.

Where's that?

Got a taxi in the end

That’s fine then, isn’t it?

My guess is that your family were aware that you would be able to get one. You’ve said loads of times that you wanted them to help because there were no taxis, but that’s obviously not the case because you did eventually get one. You just had to wait a bit.

Also if the weather was such that trains weren’t running and so on, perhaps people didn’t feel confident/safe driving in that weather?

Some people are delusional about what some parts of the UK are like. Suggesting walking a 40 min journey in the dark is laughable. I live semi-rurally, Uber won’t come out. Taxis need to be booked. My children’s school is 6 miles away. Takes 10 mins in the car, walking it would take hours! It’s either narrow country lanes, thick with mud, no lighting, no pavement, or a very fast B road, where most people do about 65 mph, again no pavement. Everywhere is water logged at the moment and the puddles come up over the roof of the car.

Right. Like the op, I don't drive because I live in a city. And one of the reasons for that is that I can get a taxi if I need one. As she could have. And did.

I've waited at stations for hours sometimes. Not expected my boyfriend's relatives to come and pick me up...

@10HailMarys

It was more than ‘a bit’ - they waited 5 hours for the taxi.

I’d never leave a friend or family member waiting for that long out in the cold when it was possible to have it done and dusted within the hour.

@Moveoverdarlin OP lives in the city 20 minutes away and could easily have booked a city taxi to go out to the station and pick her DP up. If there were other people stranded there at 5-6pm they could have shared the cost.

(Unless that friend or family member was the type to constantly take the piss! But it doesn’t sound like that’s the case here...)

I just want you to know you are not being over sensitive and that you are free to never offer to do and to decline doing anybody a favour in future.

So you would absolutely do the same thing for your sisters husband in the same situation? Except from the fact you don't have a car of course. But you defo would if you did.