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Or should tv stop giving Rebecca Loos airtime?

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SwiftieGrainger · 30/10/2023 18:36

Disgusted that Rebecca Loos has been invited on Good Morning Britain to comment ( not the first time ) on the Beckham documentary. The Beckham documentary is 1% about the time she popped up in his narrative and its not authentic to make a show like that without including details of something like the affair with Rebecca that made so many headlines at the time. That said both Victoria and David addressed it respectfully, never named her and didn't really say anything remarkable or ground breaking at the time. For her to now be given TV time about how much it annoys her that it was spoken about is despicable. I'd imagine it's worse for his wife to revisit than her, she just seems so very nasty and bitter. Aibu or should this sort of weird media circus not be on television?

Yabu - I really respect how much she's banging on about it instead of reflecting on the hurt she played a part in and staying quiet.
Yanbu - why is this on our television and why are we paying someone with their morals in the gutter to say their bit?

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Sandalholidays12 · 30/10/2023 19:35

@SwiftieGrainger even on these debates I'm usually not the type to slag down OW at all. But Rebecca does seem delusional let's not forget the woman has never had any bloody shame!! Nothing has changed, what about Rebecca's husband? Does he think its wise to respond? She's irrelevant and she is the one who has drawn attention to herself not the public.

AproposofEverything · 30/10/2023 19:35

SwiftieGrainger · 30/10/2023 19:26

Yes! But I can't see how he could've avoided it. I have said repeatedly on this thread one response would suffice but why is she now doing so many? That isn't okay is it. Hes not released new episodes to respond to.

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How could he have avoided it? It’s a conundrum!! 😂😂

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SwiftieGrainger · 30/10/2023 19:37

Gerrataere · 30/10/2023 19:34

When it all came out, she was going to be the nasty woman who caused some poor ickle man who didn’t know better to have an affair. So many women in her position are usually made the victim a witch hunt (Monica Lewinsky??). At least she took some of that power back. Good for her.

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Are we really doing this? Why are other women always empowered like they were tricked by married men and the wives whose lives were destroyed are vilified by people like you? Its not feminism to only like flawed women or people who make hurtful decisions btw. They're both to blame.

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Busephalus · 30/10/2023 19:37

I doubt her family think 'she's irrelevant', why is beckham so relevant?

AproposofEverything · 30/10/2023 19:37

She also is an ordinary citizen very likely without type of money to afford security or any type of buffer from this type of attention.

Also - many famous people choose not to put their children in the public eye, it’s possible. The Bechams have chosen to do so.

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SwiftieGrainger · 30/10/2023 19:39

Busephalus · 30/10/2023 19:37

I doubt her family think 'she's irrelevant', why is beckham so relevant?

Because of what he has achieved in his football career. Her family probably do think she's relevant and this thread isn't intended to rip her worth apart, just to say that repeated television appearances about one mention in a programme where she wasn't named and her OWN adult choices and actions are addressed is not on. There's a time to grow up basically.

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Gerrataere · 30/10/2023 19:40

SwiftieGrainger · 30/10/2023 19:37

Are we really doing this? Why are other women always empowered like they were tricked by married men and the wives whose lives were destroyed are vilified by people like you? Its not feminism to only like flawed women or people who make hurtful decisions btw. They're both to blame.

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She wasn’t tricked but she wasn’t responsible either. This is all on him. All of it. His action, his consequence. Maybe if he had paid her off a sum with a NDA she would’nt have said a word.

Im sure he’s learned his lesson on that one 🙂.

Dweetfidilove · 30/10/2023 19:40

SwiftieGrainger · 30/10/2023 18:50

That is true and the hate isn't acceptable either if its directed, abusive rubbish however I do think she needs to realise that is the byproduct of the decisions she made and hurt she caused in part at the time and now is probably a good time to just be quiet, if not for his wife but for his grown up children ( and for her own children and husband for that matter ). It just stinks of someone who still hasn't grown up and even motherhood and becoming a wife hasn't changed her much, no real remorse just anger that her bad choices have come back to haunt her.

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Is she bitter about the affair or about being named (hinted at) again and receiving online abuse?

Cheating is a dirty stain you can never fully washed away, and this unfortunately was David’s doing.

If he wants it to remain in the past, he probably shouldn’t be making documentaries that reminds everyone he was / is a cheat. The woman has a right to say her piece whenever required, because it’s her story too.

Cautionary tale - If yuh nuh go unda fowl coob, fowl cyaa shit pan yu… Translates to if you did not put yourself in the situation, you could not have been caught in it.

Lampzade · 30/10/2023 19:40

Sandalholidays12 · 30/10/2023 19:35

@SwiftieGrainger even on these debates I'm usually not the type to slag down OW at all. But Rebecca does seem delusional let's not forget the woman has never had any bloody shame!! Nothing has changed, what about Rebecca's husband? Does he think its wise to respond? She's irrelevant and she is the one who has drawn attention to herself not the public.

Then DB should have had an affair with a woman who is not delusional then

BananaSpanner · 30/10/2023 19:40

SwiftieGrainger · 30/10/2023 19:34

Tbh Victoria was going through life getting on with things when she engaged in sex with her husband. Before the other women lovers come at me nooo I'm not saying David isn't isn't blame they both are but I'm talking about Rebecca here. She shouldn't have done it in the first place with on of the most famous men in the world if she didn't want potential backlash later on. And she gave people a LOT to be disgusted by at the time with what she said I'm interviews. She has to expect it may come up again and can't control the narrative, there would be nothing to come up involving her if she hadn't indulged in it. I have zero sympathy. As for her right to respond yeah go on Rebecca do it but it's very insincere and repeatedly isn't very nice at all.

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It didn’t come up, the Beckhams brought it up. Why are you absolving them of their responsibility in this situation of their own making?

meganorks · 30/10/2023 19:41

Give over. They brought it up again, not her. They very much tried to gloss over it, mostly focusing on 'poor us, the media were horrible'. Maybe if he had just admitted it was true and that he was sorry of the mess he created then she would have stayed out of it. But it seemed to me they were trying to imply the papers (and therefore, by implication Loos) made it up.

Deardanielle · 30/10/2023 19:42

I watched it this morning and although those were my thoughts before watching it, I actually thought she came across quite well when she was on. For me it would feel a bit odd to go on tv talking about an affair I had 20 years ago if I was happily married now though. I think my husband would feel a bit weird about it too, like I was still stuck in the past.

In saying that though I can see why she’d want her right to reply when it was made to sound like she was making up horrible stories

itsmyp4rty · 30/10/2023 19:44

Oh god she just wanted money and fame, she's said over and over how it set her up. She went on to be on all sorts of reality tv shows to extend her 5 minutes of fame. He's a selfish dick and she's just vile. No surprises she's related to Piers Morgan.

She so didn't want it all dragged up again that she has to go on tv to talk about how she really didn't want it all dragged up again.

Dweetfidilove · 30/10/2023 19:47

SwiftieGrainger · 30/10/2023 19:39

Because of what he has achieved in his football career. Her family probably do think she's relevant and this thread isn't intended to rip her worth apart, just to say that repeated television appearances about one mention in a programme where she wasn't named and her OWN adult choices and actions are addressed is not on. There's a time to grow up basically.

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She has grown up as much as the Beckhams have.

She has moved on and is living a quiet life somewhere.

Unfortunately when the Beckham affair is mentioned, she is who everyone thinks of unless they know otherwise.

Just as he can talk about it, she has probably worked her way through it, accepted it as part of her history and is no longer ashamed of it (if she ever was).

Why should she carry more shame for the affair than the person who cheated?

Why should she hide when he isn’t?

Why is she receiving abuse because he’s rehashing it?

More importantly, if people wish to pay her for responding, why not? He’s getting paid for it so let them all prosper.

MrsMarzetti · 30/10/2023 19:50

OP Are you Vicky's sister ?

BMW6 · 30/10/2023 19:50

Only 1 person in this was disloyal and broke their wedding vows.

The Beckham's certainly didn't need to make this documentary. They wanted the ££££££ (as if they didn't have enough).

They dragged it out into the light again and RL certainly has the right to have her say as a result.

DB is the one who should be held 100% responsible for betraying his wife.

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SwiftieGrainger · 30/10/2023 19:51

Gerrataere · 30/10/2023 19:40

She wasn’t tricked but she wasn’t responsible either. This is all on him. All of it. His action, his consequence. Maybe if he had paid her off a sum with a NDA she would’nt have said a word.

Im sure he’s learned his lesson on that one 🙂.

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Her behaviour after was on her.

I am coming off this thread now people as I have work to do but interesting to see responses. Some will have to agree to disagree with but I stand by it that in summary David and Rebecca are both to blame for their behaviour at the time, both knew it was hurtful and wrong. I don't think David and Victoria can win with their programme by not or choosing to mention Rebecca and how they did was fine. I accept she has the right to defend herself, I don't accept that she should do it repeatedly when the backlash that neither D nor V caused or can help has died down with the programme being released a little while now. I also think you do things like that you know people will react strongly and mumsnet has a strange group of people who think the OW is a victim in their own right and apportioning any blame on them somehow rids the male party of their part in it when it doesn't. I feel so sorry for Victoria and I'm so glad her and David have got past it. I also think Rebecca is bitter about that hence the anger and repeated tv appearances but tbh I don't really care that much, I just hope Victoria and their kids are okay and Rebecca leaves them alone now she's said her bit again and again

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PrimaniTu · 30/10/2023 19:51

FloofCloud · 30/10/2023 19:05

The whole Beckhams on Netflix is just self-glorifying bollocks ... it's not 'truth' it's an angle they want to portray. I'd be furious if I was her ... and to be honest I literally have zero respect or anything else for her (or Becks) - I can't abide VB either, but it's her I feel sorry for because no matter how you feel about her, she's put up with a shit load of crap off the back of his antics

Why do you feel sorry for VB? She's a very wealthy woman and if this is was true she could have divorced him.

However she didn't, therefore she's allowed herself to put up with his shit. For love, for the kids or for the brand. Probably all 3.

Gerrataere · 30/10/2023 19:53

I feel so sorry for Victoria and I'm so glad her and David have got past it.

Your naïveté is funny…

MorrisZapp · 30/10/2023 19:54

Wtf is it up to the world's women to show respect to Victoria Beckham if her own husband doesn't?

Women are not responsible for the sexual choices of men.

This whole thing begins and ends with his actions alone. I'm really sorry but your husband has to stay faithful all by himself.

Lucyintheskywithadiamond · 30/10/2023 19:55

just hope Victoria and their kids are okay and Rebecca leaves them alone now 😂

I think you are far too invested in this, maybe time to get a hobby. Thank you for the entertainment this evening.

Nushyboots · 30/10/2023 19:56

Yabu - i watched the ‘documentary’ or to put it frankly DB’s ‘showy ego piece’ purely to see him own up and actually show some human decency over the whole affair but noooooo….didnt even admit to the whole sordid affair, or even offer a sincere apology about his behaviour. It was all glossed over with him staring into the camera as if he could win you over with puppy eyes…well no he is and was an adult who was married with kids- the bloodclart billion pound ring on his finger should’ve reminded him of that when he was getting a cheeky leg over! Yes RL could have and should have said no ( she was a single woman who was propositioned by the most famous football player at the time)BUT DB should never have put his wife and kids in that position at all. Many men can turn down advances etc lets face it if it wasn’t RL it would've been someone else and rumours are there were. They shouldn’t have brought it up that laundry should’ve stayed under the bed

RedToothBrush · 30/10/2023 19:57

SwiftieGrainger · 30/10/2023 19:39

Because of what he has achieved in his football career. Her family probably do think she's relevant and this thread isn't intended to rip her worth apart, just to say that repeated television appearances about one mention in a programme where she wasn't named and her OWN adult choices and actions are addressed is not on. There's a time to grow up basically.

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It all comes back to the fact that if the man had kept his dick in his pants there wouldn't be a woman to shit on because.

Cos men somehow aren't responsible for where they stick their dicks and the fall out from that - only women are held to this and regarded as gold diggers or profiteering or attention seeking.

The sexism on this is appalling.

David Beckham is a man in a position of power. He used his fame to bed women. He is now profiting from doing so. At the expense of his wife.

And the reason he has to keep banging on about RL is because he's boring as fuck as an individual otherwise. It's one of the few things that actually makes him 'interesting' beyond the football pitch.

Ohdearanotheryear · 30/10/2023 19:58

Wow... you are judging her morals. How about judging the morals of a married man ?

Blame the single woman!

She's been quiet for years The Beckhams who sell their name are the ones who wrote the book...

StolenCookie · 30/10/2023 20:02

Didn’t she sell her story all those years ago? I’m not 100% on this but if she did then she has absolutely no right to privacy on this matter.