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Or should tv stop giving Rebecca Loos airtime?

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SwiftieGrainger · 30/10/2023 18:36

Disgusted that Rebecca Loos has been invited on Good Morning Britain to comment ( not the first time ) on the Beckham documentary. The Beckham documentary is 1% about the time she popped up in his narrative and its not authentic to make a show like that without including details of something like the affair with Rebecca that made so many headlines at the time. That said both Victoria and David addressed it respectfully, never named her and didn't really say anything remarkable or ground breaking at the time. For her to now be given TV time about how much it annoys her that it was spoken about is despicable. I'd imagine it's worse for his wife to revisit than her, she just seems so very nasty and bitter. Aibu or should this sort of weird media circus not be on television?

Yabu - I really respect how much she's banging on about it instead of reflecting on the hurt she played a part in and staying quiet.
Yanbu - why is this on our television and why are we paying someone with their morals in the gutter to say their bit?

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Gerrataere · 30/10/2023 19:07

profiteering off of anything that has hurt someone else is deeply wrong.

It is, isn’t it. Shame David didn’t take that on board when supporting football in hellhole countries…

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SwiftieGrainger · 30/10/2023 19:09

ABCXYZ17 · 30/10/2023 19:06

She hasn’t engineered anything! They made the documentary, she’s living a quiet life and takes a bucket load of grief - again! She’s done a couple of interviews, so what?
As for showing remorse, why should she? She was single, he wasn’t! Do you think that affairs wouldn’t happen if women just said no? It is his fault not hers and his responsibility not hers.

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God no, I think they're both to blame but I do not condone that she is doing interviews. She knew he was married. The hurt Victoria still has over it on the show says a lot and if you watch the interviews she comes across as really nasty..how can you not have any regret over your actions when you see that? I'm not saying David shouldn't either, like I say equally it's horrific but I I can understand the need for them to talk about it on their show and not her need need talk about it since. The Beckhams didn't make anyone give her grief, people have because they're disgusted. All they did was address it as they had to.

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Vistada · 30/10/2023 19:09

Are you kidding? THEY are the ones who dragged this whole thing back up 20 years later (in which time we hadn't heard a peep) - she has every right to defend herself and remind people that the Beckham's version is not the only version.

D&V have only themselves to blame

AproposofEverything · 30/10/2023 19:10

They knew what would happen when they brought it up. They have enough money to not need to court publicity, but they do so as it’s a key part of their business. Nobody was talking about this until they brought it up. She has a right to reply, and is judged either way.

It’s interesting though, his reputation was actually looking a bit better recently. Most of the affair talk was in the past. People seemed to have forgotten about the embarrassing email strop about his lack of knighthood and were fawning over his public queuing to see the queen. Qatar aside, seemed like good times… I guess he’s still getting away with it though, as RL’s the one getting the blame. Age old story.

Restinggoddess · 30/10/2023 19:10

I agree with PP who say ….
The Beckhams brought this up ( for profit - because they clearly need more money)

I doubt they reached out to RL and agreed terms - so should have expected her to respond
It takes two to tango and Goldenballs - got away with the affair. The Beckhams are a highly curated couple / family - and he is desperate for a knighthood ( let’s not forget a little matter of tax dodging)

Well done RL - let’s hope she has photos ( not really) they should have let sleeping dogs lie

And the sisterhood don’t need to kick her because she is OW - because that negates his part in this sorry affair

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SwiftieGrainger · 30/10/2023 19:10

Gerrataere · 30/10/2023 19:07

profiteering off of anything that has hurt someone else is deeply wrong.

It is, isn’t it. Shame David didn’t take that on board when supporting football in hellhole countries…

There's probably loads of arguments to be made like this but this is about Rebecca not David and her part in all of this, not a bargaining of wrongs.

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MatthewsMumFromTikTok · 30/10/2023 19:11

QuietDragon · 30/10/2023 18:55

DB was the one that decided to rake it all up again, for profit.

Hardly surprising that RL wants to defend herself from the social media onslaught.

This!!

AproposofEverything · 30/10/2023 19:12

SwiftieGrainger · 30/10/2023 19:10

There's probably loads of arguments to be made like this but this is about Rebecca not David and her part in all of this, not a bargaining of wrongs.

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Or about David, not Rebecca and his (married) part in all this? He’s the one with the money and power and the male ability to come out smelling as roses with randoms on the internet fawning over him.

ABCXYZ17 · 30/10/2023 19:12

SwiftieGrainger · 30/10/2023 19:04

That's because he had an established career that trumped his affair with her in the media. Football is more important to the media than an affair is and he was incredibly successful at that. Rebecca tried to form her career off of the affair - I think the affair is both of their faults however I really can't see that she needs to comment now? If she had a career like his and a documentary was made on it and she mentioned him briefly I wouldn't think anything of it but she doesn't, she has gained enough off off it already. And lol no I'm not the sort that thinks an affair is a woman's fault and not a man's but I am the sort who thinks that profiteering off of anything that has hurt someone else is deeply wrong.

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He caused the hurt not her, she could have been anybody! He took the opportunity to use his power, have an affair and let her take all the hate.
So what if she was in the spotlight for a bit? Are all women who’ve had affairs with married men supposed to crawl under rocks for the rest of their days in penance? Stop hating on women and look to where the blame for this affair actually lies.

AproposofEverything · 30/10/2023 19:13

And if there are others, as often reported? Are we thinking they are wonderful, for keeping it quiet? It’s OK to sleep with a married man as long as you don’t talk about it in public? And it’s OK for him to do it and talk about it.

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SwiftieGrainger · 30/10/2023 19:13

Vistada · 30/10/2023 19:09

Are you kidding? THEY are the ones who dragged this whole thing back up 20 years later (in which time we hadn't heard a peep) - she has every right to defend herself and remind people that the Beckham's version is not the only version.

D&V have only themselves to blame

I don't feel like they have though, it was a tiny bit of the programme. If it was a tell all style documentary about that alone then yes but it isn't. Also he didn't really give a version as I say it was diplomatic, nothing slanderous about her at all or new or enlightening and nothing that justifies her repeated tv appearances going on about it. Even one response would suffice but continuously is nasty.

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Gerrataere · 30/10/2023 19:14

SwiftieGrainger · 30/10/2023 19:10

There's probably loads of arguments to be made like this but this is about Rebecca not David and her part in all of this, not a bargaining of wrongs.

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But her ‘wrong’ isn’t even a ‘wrong’. He was married and decided to have an affair with RL, no one made him. His bad choices. Just because RL took advantage of an incredibly misogynistic British media, rather than cower away (because she was and still is the Evil Witch with magic powers of hypnotism over sweet innocence men apparently 🤣). Good for her, hope she made a mint over his stupid behaviour. It wasn’t blood money after all, you’d have to be pretty fucking low to take that…

AproposofEverything · 30/10/2023 19:15

The phrase that comes to mind is ‘play stupid games, win stupid prizes.’

Also, I don’t believe for a moment that they thought this wouldn’t come up, they’re not naive about how this stuff works.

Flavabobble · 30/10/2023 19:15

Also, she knew he was married at the time
I'm fairly sure David Beckham knew he had a wife at the time.

Rebecca Loos has, by all accounts been living a uneventful life with her family, until some TV show raked up her past.

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SwiftieGrainger · 30/10/2023 19:16

AproposofEverything · 30/10/2023 19:13

And if there are others, as often reported? Are we thinking they are wonderful, for keeping it quiet? It’s OK to sleep with a married man as long as you don’t talk about it in public? And it’s OK for him to do it and talk about it.

She did talk about it though, interviews on TV where she giggled about it at the time, going on to appear in multiple reality shows as a sort of celebrity. She did just fine. I think it's gross to keep it quiet and I never would but then I'd never knowingly be the OW and she did. I think she's resentful of the fact they they stayed together and she was a seemingly insignificant blight on their marriage, again is trying to bait Victoria with her goading interviews. I'd be devastated if someone did that to my mum & I feel for their kids.

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Thedm · 30/10/2023 19:17

SwiftieGrainger · 30/10/2023 19:13

I don't feel like they have though, it was a tiny bit of the programme. If it was a tell all style documentary about that alone then yes but it isn't. Also he didn't really give a version as I say it was diplomatic, nothing slanderous about her at all or new or enlightening and nothing that justifies her repeated tv appearances going on about it. Even one response would suffice but continuously is nasty.

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If the public had left her alone, then I’m sure she would have carried on her private life with her family. She wouldn’t have come out of the woodwork giving interviews. But the public didn’t leave her alone. The press didn’t leave her out of their headlines again. She took piles of abuse, because David descended to dredge it up. So she is talking, why not? She should at least get paid for all the coverage that has happened a second time because of David and Victoria.

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SwiftieGrainger · 30/10/2023 19:17

Flavabobble · 30/10/2023 19:15

Also, she knew he was married at the time
I'm fairly sure David Beckham knew he had a wife at the time.

Rebecca Loos has, by all accounts been living a uneventful life with her family, until some TV show raked up her past.

Yes equally to blame for the affair but I'm not on about who was to blame for that I'm saying that multiple TV appearances are distasteful. She could've stopped at one response? What purpose could there be to do more than one after addressing it other than trying to get back in the public eye?

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BananaSpanner · 30/10/2023 19:19

SwiftieGrainger · 30/10/2023 19:13

I don't feel like they have though, it was a tiny bit of the programme. If it was a tell all style documentary about that alone then yes but it isn't. Also he didn't really give a version as I say it was diplomatic, nothing slanderous about her at all or new or enlightening and nothing that justifies her repeated tv appearances going on about it. Even one response would suffice but continuously is nasty.

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It was a significant part of one episode. It wasn’t “diplomatic”, it was just framed very deliberately to invoke sympathy for something he did wrong. They absolutely would have known that it would have brought the worlds press to her door again. She’s been living the quiet life for two decades and has children of her own. Maybe they wanted to inflict that on her. Either way, she has every right to make money out of it and speak again if she wants to. After all, they are.

Thedm · 30/10/2023 19:19

SwiftieGrainger · 30/10/2023 19:17

Yes equally to blame for the affair but I'm not on about who was to blame for that I'm saying that multiple TV appearances are distasteful. She could've stopped at one response? What purpose could there be to do more than one after addressing it other than trying to get back in the public eye?

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No I’m agrees with you. Just give it up. You’re wrong.

They brought it up. She, yet again, faced the wrath of the public and the press, because of them. If she uses that to make some money then good for her.

ABCXYZ17 · 30/10/2023 19:20

SwiftieGrainger · 30/10/2023 19:16

She did talk about it though, interviews on TV where she giggled about it at the time, going on to appear in multiple reality shows as a sort of celebrity. She did just fine. I think it's gross to keep it quiet and I never would but then I'd never knowingly be the OW and she did. I think she's resentful of the fact they they stayed together and she was a seemingly insignificant blight on their marriage, again is trying to bait Victoria with her goading interviews. I'd be devastated if someone did that to my mum & I feel for their kids.

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But you don’t feel devastated for the kids that their dad had an affair? You’re devastated that she’s talked about it after their documentary thrust it back into the spotlight? Wow.

AproposofEverything · 30/10/2023 19:21

SwiftieGrainger · 30/10/2023 19:17

Yes equally to blame for the affair but I'm not on about who was to blame for that I'm saying that multiple TV appearances are distasteful. She could've stopped at one response? What purpose could there be to do more than one after addressing it other than trying to get back in the public eye?

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Well, between the Beckhams, and Rebecca Loos, only the Beckhams have their children in the public eye by choice. The Beckhams also chose to speak publically about someone no longer in the public eye. They also have always put their children in the public eye. I’m not sure your argument holds any water here.

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SwiftieGrainger · 30/10/2023 19:22

Thedm · 30/10/2023 19:19

No I’m agrees with you. Just give it up. You’re wrong.

They brought it up. She, yet again, faced the wrath of the public and the press, because of them. If she uses that to make some money then good for her.

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😂okay calm down. I don't think I'm wrong hence starting a thread on it, why does she need to respond more than once? That isn't defending herself is it its profiteering. And lol no not good for her, it's despicable.

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EvilElsa · 30/10/2023 19:23

They didn't HAVE to make a documentary at all. They certainly didn't need to include anything about David's extra marital shagging but they chose to. That's on them. Well, actually it's on David who couldn't keep his dick in his pants and then keep quiet about it years later when it had all died down to nothing. Everyone makes mistakes and he has chosen to monetise his. Why shouldn't she?

Thedm · 30/10/2023 19:23

SwiftieGrainger · 30/10/2023 19:22

😂okay calm down. I don't think I'm wrong hence starting a thread on it, why does she need to respond more than once? That isn't defending herself is it its profiteering. And lol no not good for her, it's despicable.

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Don’t you think it is despicable for David to bring it all up when she now lives a private life? Knowing that it would send the press and public back to her?

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SwiftieGrainger · 30/10/2023 19:24

AproposofEverything · 30/10/2023 19:21

Well, between the Beckhams, and Rebecca Loos, only the Beckhams have their children in the public eye by choice. The Beckhams also chose to speak publically about someone no longer in the public eye. They also have always put their children in the public eye. I’m not sure your argument holds any water here.

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The Beckham were famous world wide before kids so their kids were naturally in the spotlight. Rebecca was famous for being his mistress so why would hers be in the spotlight? If anything it would be wrong to put them in it as it would attract negativity towards them which is not fair. I can't see any reason anyone on here defending her can give that justifies why multiple TV appearances are acceptable in response to this? That isn't a response or defending herself that's thrusting herself into it now and it's not necessary.

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