To think you just don't do this to a child

[Notanotherone8765]

My daughter's whole class go swimming every Friday. They get the bus to the swimming pool which is about 15 minutes away.
On Friday they were finishing up their swimming (it's the last thing of the day) and the teacher then said that everyone had to stay in the pool except my daughter. Turns out one of the girls was having her birthday party at the pool straight after. My daughter then had to get in the bus with the teacher and they came back to the school. I was there for the bus getting back and asked why my daughter was the only one on the bus and that's when the teacher told me. I understand not everyone is invited to everyone's party but would there not have been a better way of doing this? My daughter and I am very upset and I want to know if you think I'm being unreasonable. All opinions will be considered. Thank you
Oh and my daughter is 6 for context

Read all your updates. This is horrible!

Why on Earth did your school sanction this, and get involved in making your child feel bad by facilitating it?

They should have said, no we will take all the children back to school afterwards, and also had a word about leaving out just one child.

Also sounds like the Mum timed it on purpose to be cruel.

Hope you discussion with the school goes well.

Lots of English schools also have this week as half term, but I think perhaps many don’t realise that Halloween is a bigger thing in NI, so I can see why you call it that.

I agree that the school should not have changed its usual routine for this. Even though it makes some sense logistically it clearly gets them involved in something the should not be.

As for excluding one child from the class. That is very much in the mum concerned. Adults should not be facilitating the escalation of poor relationships between the children and other children.

Accountability is a very important part of being an adult.

So let's hold the dad accountable. Why wasn't he involved

All the people insisting this can't happen just goes to show how many regulations and policies this school are breaking in doing this. Unbelievable. All the children should have been taken back to school and birthday parents collected them from there.

What I was objecting to was you and others giving bad mother's a free pass because she is a woman.

I agree that the both the Dad and Mom should be accountable.

Then we 100% agree, that's my view too

I think you're right to email the school. Its disgraceful that they went along with this plan. I'm wondering if they were told last minute that your dd wasn't invited and weren't sure what to do, having already agreed the kids would stay in the pool.
Sorry you've had to deal with troll hunters on top of being upset about this. I would have been really upset too. Some parents can be dickheads.