Husband won’t call grandchild by his name

[Blyther]

our grandchild (5 months) has an unusual name. It’s a made up name which is a bit ‘out there’- think along the lines of ‘starry-Skye’ or ‘misty-bridge’. Our daughter in law is a bit whacky.

It’s of course entirely up to the parents to choose the name of their child but my husband won’t even say his name as it makes him cringe so much. He refers to the baby as ‘the little one’ or will call him by his middle name.

It’s now become apparent to the parents how he refuses to use his name and it’s causing an atmosphere. I just don’t know what to say to them as I completely understand his point and feel very sorry about the potential bullying he (the baby) is likely to encounter further down the road.

Advice on moving forward please.

tell him to grow up

does he realise he is putting you in a position where you are going to have to chose between your son's family or your husband?

The only bullying I see is from your husband - no one gets bullied about their names these days

Especially as the surname is Stream 🙄

But that’s not how it’s spelt? Heaven backwards is Nevaeh not Neveah which phonetically would be Never-ey? You’re criticising the PP for pronouncing it wrong but keep spelling it wrong yourself (and probably pronouncing it wrong too)!

Where on earth have you got an 'r' from in the middle of Nevaeh??

Yeah, I just don’t buy it!

Your husband’s behaviour is not your problem. It’s his problem. He is a grown up. Let him spoil the relationship if he is silly enough to do so. You do the right thing and call the child by their name. Let him do what he wants.

😂😂😂

I have scrolled through 23 pages
I NEED to know the name 🤣

Se told us several pages back.
Dixie Moon Beam

You think Baby Moonie is better than Dixie. Wow. It's not.

According to OP hint & what it rhymes with the surname is stream so it's
Dixi moon-beam Stream, I think there was a hyphen added, apologies if wrong.

@Springforward1 yes, I think you're right. Not convinced the whole thing isn't a wind up though.

What a ridiculous hill to die on. The new strategy is to call the baby by his name! It’s just plain disrespectful.
naturally over time it’ll probably end up shortened anyway, unfortunately if you can’t be respectful you may not be in your grandchild’s life enough to know.

👍At worst if true, poor child announcing that full name in front of classmates, at best if a wind-up at least we got a few laughs 🤦‍♀️🤣

I agree that some names nowadays are silly. Sometimes I think parents are trying to outdo each other on who can come up with the most 'different' name, not giving any thought to the child being stuck with it for life. Not only through school, but on job applications too. Your name is the first thing about you a employer will read. If it's some airy fairy cr*p, it won't be a good impression.

But all that being said, unfortunately your husband will have to get on board with it, to not cause a big family row. The parents were selfish to give your grandson a stupid name, but that's on them. You don't want it driving a wedge between you.

Oh!

Is that where the "Stream" surname comes from?

I thought it was just so we knew the was pronounced "Dixie-Moon-BEEM", rather than "Dixie-Moon-Bee-AHM" - and that the surname sounded similar, not that it was Stream.

Like Thomas Neil Cream, the murderer.

There can't be many British surnames that rhyme with "stream" though.

Dixie is fine. Noticed that the Coren Mitchells are bucking the trend...new baby called June Violet, first called Barbara. Probably radical names at the beginning of the last century...

Unfortunately he needs to suck it up and grow up! It is not his place to decide what to call the child. He, and you are making something that should be a lovely moment of welcoming a child into the world a negative experience for the parents. They will start to think that if you can’t even call their baby their name, what else will you choose to not follow?

Dixie-Moon-Beam?? Holy shit, that's waaaay worse than I expected. Personally, I'd go with Dix - sounds like Dicks, I know, but written down it's ok. And there are a LOT worse names out there than Dix! Besides, isn't Dick a common name in the UK?

I always think about how these kids are going to feel when they choose what they want to do in life. Personally, I don't know how confident I'd feel in hiring a barrister or King's Counsel named Dixie Moon Beam. I know that's an unwarranted prejudice, but it is what it is...

Are you my MIL? I too am 'controlling' 'difficult' blah blah blah

Names not that bad I've heard worse. At school he'll probably just get called Dick or Dixie. Nothing wrong with that.

Your husband sounds vile - did he belittle your son when he was growing up? He sounds like a bully who says it like it is and accuses people of not being able to take a joke.

He'll probably end up RSM in the Paras.
Growing up with a name like that he's going to go in one or other of two opposite directions.

"Names not that bad" are you joking?

He'll get called Dick or Dix and in the greater scheme of things it could be a lot worse. All the pearl clutching by OP about the shortened name being 'rude' I thought it was going to be much worse.