Husband won’t call grandchild by his name

[Blyther]

our grandchild (5 months) has an unusual name. It’s a made up name which is a bit ‘out there’- think along the lines of ‘starry-Skye’ or ‘misty-bridge’. Our daughter in law is a bit whacky.

It’s of course entirely up to the parents to choose the name of their child but my husband won’t even say his name as it makes him cringe so much. He refers to the baby as ‘the little one’ or will call him by his middle name.

It’s now become apparent to the parents how he refuses to use his name and it’s causing an atmosphere. I just don’t know what to say to them as I completely understand his point and feel very sorry about the potential bullying he (the baby) is likely to encounter further down the road.

Advice on moving forward please.

If he can’t say the name out loud without laughing then he needs to practice doing so. For example, he could say to you ‘what time is StarrySky arriving?’ Or just say it a few times a day. It’s not about upsetting your ds and ddil it’s about the sense the child will pick up on that their dgf doesn’t like their name. This can lead to the child feeling they are not liked.
Honestly, he needs to get a bloody grip and use the name. He’s being pathetic.

Isn't it just!

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😂

"Where's Grandad's favourite cetacean? Here he is!" <Picks up baby and cuddles him>

"My little beluga whale - yes you are!" <kisskisskisskisskiss>

Edit: I know Moby Dick was a sperm whale, but the way these conversations go, I didn't want to put "sperm" in there.

Give us a clue then. I've never come across Naveah before, and as it's not a traditional name and as it's an alternative spelling of one that's only really become established post-2000 I can't see a linguistic basis for any one way of pronouncing it over another.

Ok so we have deduced that your kid is called Pooh-Bear. Good god.

Would a grandparent really start a thread mocking the name of their new grandchild, clearly identifying themselves and risking the DIL or anyone that knows the child seeing it? Really? What a fool. As is the H who apparently can’t form those words without laughing…

That's a girl's name.

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So the names not great but it’s still their choice and you could just use Dixie? On top of that how do you think your grandchild is going to respond to you when he’s older and you can’t say his name or laugh at it? How do you think that will make him feel? They’re not changing it so it’s on you to grow up for the sake of your grandchild, surely your love for them should over come the feelings you have for his name?

I must be the only one here who can relate to the husband. I had a friend who named her child something really stupid and it was genuinely hard to say the name without laughing, had to stop saying it. I can see where he's coming from.

neveah is heaven backwards. I read somewhere that when people miscarried girls they named them that, now whenever I hear the name it makes me think of that. I have heard it a few times...

The name is utterly ridiculous, aren't their rules that mean a registrar can deny certain names?

YANBU op.

I (now) know where it comes from. But that doesn't help with pronouncing it without spinning Knocking On Heaven's Door backwards on the turntable and risk summoning a malevolent demon.

The UK has no law that restricts names that parents can legally give to their children. However, names that contain obscenities, numerals, misleading titles, or are impossible to pronounce are likely to be rejected by the Registering Officer

From, https://www.ons.gov.uk/aboutus/transparencyandgovernance/babynameswithspecialcharacters

Nuh-vey-uh... its not hard once you have heard it once yet PP repeatedly keeps mispronouncing it again and again.

My names unusual, people often get it wrong first time (even though its phonic, people assume it should be 'fancier' than it is) but since the 2000s about 99% of people have the basic respect to ask if its right then correct themselves in future.

No one is mad at a one off mistake but DELIBERATELY calling the kid the wrong name again and again playing dumb that you can't learn it when its pretty damn simple is plain disrespect.

Think the name is shit all you want but don't play dumb to try and insult the person, it just make PP look thick not the child.

There should be, or at least a discussion with the parents. Hormones can make you think the strangest things, including bad name choices.
My son for the first 10 mins of his life was given a name and when I told the Doctor he had to turn his head away laughing despite it being an old traditional name. After I came to my senses I didn't blame him and it was changed that day.
When I told my son the story as a young adult he quickly responded "thank God for deed poll" 🤣

Why is Moon-Beam hyphenated? I actually find this almost more annoying than the name tbh.

I mean, it's awful, but everyone will just shrug and say 'hippy parents, what can you do?' And Dixie will grow up to be a right little wannabe roadman, like all the other boys at the moment (at least where I am in the middle class home counties!).

Poor little thing, that's a cruel name to saddle him with. It sounds like a name a teacup Chihuahua would have!

In the UK technically you cannot use a title as a name (things like King, Queen, Prince, Princess, Duke, Earl, Lady or professions like Doctor) under fraud laws but people manage.

You can't change to one via deed poll though.

Other than that I do think we have any naming laws.

Giving a baby girl that name would be ‘mean’ to say the least, but Dixie on its own would be passable and she’d probably end up just being called that with the MB part left off, but a baby BOY?!! That’s just cruel and selfish, can you imagine as a teenage lad having to say to new pals ‘Hi I’m Dixie-Moon-Beam??!!! Seriously, some parents!!

Please please tell us the name. Oh, DIXIE MOON BEAM… is this a send up. The mother is a gobshite.

More likely, how is the child going to respond when he’s older and is called Dixie-Bloody-Moon-Beam-Stream??! Parents can be twats! I mean, I’d have LOVED to have called my eldest daughter ‘Gary-Mark-Robbie-Howard-Jason-Take-That-Forever Smith but even I could see that was unfair!!

Reported to who??
you are absolutely ridiculous and actually insulting to children who are ACTUALLY abused.

Christ.

I think I'd just call him Dixie. (Not Dix for obvious reasons.)

Does he have a middle name?

I'd call him Dixie