Wedding bouquet toss, only 1 single lady.

[SpringHexagon]

Hi all, thoughts, ideas, opinions, welcome. Please!!

I get married abroad at the start of December, small group attending that mostly include family (around 15 adults and 5 children). There is only going to be 1 unmarried lady, so I think doing a traditional bouquet toss would be pointless.
Would I be unreasonable to not do a bouquet toss? Or to just hand my bouquet to the unmarried lady, or shout her name and lob it at her from the other side of the room? 😂 What would you folks see as a reasonable adjustment here?

*Edited to correct that lady isn't single but will be only one unmarried, her partner will be in attendance also.

Just keep your bouquet. DJ has just included bouquet toss on the list in case it's something you want to do but nobody will miss it.

I don't think it's a thing any more is it? Don't recall there being one at any wedding I've been to in the last 10+ years

@smartiesneberhadtheanswer I was being lighthearted, but Ok.

Like I said, I only threw it in the first place because the unmarried Women, not being utter fun sponges, were up for it and asked me to.

I only realised the next day I never did one when I put my flowers in a vase. My mil made my bouquet from flowers in her allotment so I'm not sure it would have survived

This sounds very cringey

Don't do it. It's unnecessary. I've had two weddings and didn't 'toss the bouquet' at either. It's never happened at any wedding I've been to as a guest either.

Unmarried lady. Ha ha…
I was one. Until I got married.
If we could all just be “ladies”.

I don’t think I’ve ever been to a wedding as an adult that did a ‘single ladies’ bouquet toss. Maybe I haven’t been single in so long that I don’t remember it. I didn’t do it at my wedding.

I have been to one or two that did it to all the children, but that’s dependent on having enough children. Really though I think it’s quite antiquated now and my bouquet was bloody expensive. I wasn’t tossing it anywhere! I think I even took it on my honeymoon with us!

Bouquets cost a fortune!

Keep it

Never seen a wedding toss. My bouquet cost a fortune, there’s no way I was throwing it!

Thanks to those who have actually answered me, since having never been married before, I was genuinely unsure. And until pointed out, I hadn't realised that I had never witnessed a bouquet toss in real life 😂
Unsure why other people are being so rude, didn't think it was that awful a question, but then again, Mumsnet!

Tossing the bouquet is an American thing. I've only been to one wedding where the bride tossed her bouquet and that was in Ireland last year.

With only one unmarried woman there, I would just keep it myself.

This sounds like overthinking. Either don't do it at all (which I'm sure won't bother anyone) or do it as a bit of a joke, anyone can catch it. Don't single someone out.

The only time I have ever seen a bouquet toss was in those rather staged You've Been Framed videos in the 90s.

I didn't toss mine. It seems a very outdated tradition to me. I put mine on a relatives, who I wished with my whole heart could have been there's grave a couple of days after the wedding.

As a wedding celebrant and a guest at hundreds of weddings over the years, I can honestly say that I've never been to a wedding in the UK where the bride has tossed her bouquet. It doesn't seem to be a thing anymore...not least because wedding bouquets are SO expensive 😨

Keep your bouquet OP, and either get it pressed or give it to someone very special. My daughter took hers to her Grandma who was in a dementia care home after she got married. Other brides I've known have done similar - one took hers to her grandparents grave. There are lots of options other than the 'toss' which is a little outdated now I think.

I also saw that video on SM that a PP mentioned, where the bride handed out single stem roses to all the women at the ceremony. This was a lovely touch ♥️

I’ve never been to a wedding that did a bouquet toss.
I wouldn’t never partake in it anyway, as I think it’s stupid.

I’d say its sort of died out or its more if an American tradition.

I just wouldn’t do one if I was you, as there’s not much point and your friend might not even want to get married.

That’s such a lovely idea!

I like this suggestion!!! Switch it u pa bit or don't toss

I didn’t toss mine

I've not heard of one being done since the 90s, I wouldn't bother.

Options:

1. Bouquet toss, children tend to love it.
2. Don't toss, hang it to dry it, get it pressed, or place it on the grave.
3. You could hand it to her, however, this may offend or upset her, depends on your relationship and her humour I guess.

But at least you know now it's not a mandatory thing. I was at a wedding recently and there was a bouquet toss and my child caught it, we brought it home and dried it, she was thrilled. But I've never tossed my own bouquets (been married more than once lol).

Don't do it. I didn't even though there were quite a few single women at my wedding.

I've never seen anyone do a bouquet toss. Not even as a child in the 80s and 90s.

I didn’t know this was still a thing. Haven’t seen it in years and heard lately from the younger generation that they think it’s horrifying!

My DD was married recently and put her bouquet on my mum and dad’s grave.

Been married twice, kept both and had them dried etc. Think they've gone in the loft and fell to dust now but when I was young no way did I want anyone else to have my expensive and thoughtfully constructed flowers!!