AIBU my partner messages another woman every day saying they love each other and I want him to stop.

[DebbieAdams]

I have been with my partner 2 months and noticed he is often on his phone. One day it was left on the side and I looked through his recent messages which I know is wrong but something made me do it. He is messaging another woman every single day, they talk about everything life work children, plans for the future and they say they love each other. I'm at a complete loss what to now do and how to go about confronting this?

I think when you’ve seen messages this clear and obvious, you don’t try to find a gentle way to ask him to stop, you just find your self-respect and dump a cheating liar. It’s only been two months and he’s not even managed the honeymoon stage. Bin him. Waste of time. You’ll never be able to trust him.

I just need to figure out what to do now, maybe say nothing? He treats me well.

You’re such a mug it’s unbelievable. And I really do mean that in the nicest way

What the fuck is wrong with you?? Please find your self-esteem and run for the hills.....

He is in an established relationship with her and you are the OW. If you were to end text messages between me and my husband you would see us saying we love each other, you wouldn’t see any sex chat though.

I have seen some people refer to someone one else as their partner in some pretty tenuous circumstances but this really has to be the most ridiculous ever. And how long you have known him prior doesn’t change that, I have known lots of people for more than five years, they does not make a partner.

No.

Not sure what the confusion is...you have been seeing a guy for a few weeks who is seeing someone else too (probably for longer than you)