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To think this card is inappropriate?

311 replies

Hexandthecity · 27/10/2023 20:54

Saw this in a supermarket the other day. I find it very distasteful and almost upsetting. Surely if we're condemning sexual violence, we're condemning all sexual violence? Rape jokes are not acceptable, so why is a card joking about serious sexual assault OK?

To think this card is inappropriate?
OP posts:
PabloandGustheGreySquirrels · 27/10/2023 23:24

@Hexandthecity Wow you really are an offence-seeking missile aren't you?!

porridgeisbae · 27/10/2023 23:26

It's a process that requires certain skills. Smile Night x

Hexandthecity · 27/10/2023 23:26

PabloandGustheGreySquirrels · 27/10/2023 23:24

@Hexandthecity Wow you really are an offence-seeking missile aren't you?!

Nah mate, I get through life just fine. I do have standards of what I find acceptable to joke about and what not. Sexual assault falls squarely into the latter category.

OP posts:
HootyMcBoob · 27/10/2023 23:31

Hexandthecity · 27/10/2023 23:26

Nah mate, I get through life just fine. I do have standards of what I find acceptable to joke about and what not. Sexual assault falls squarely into the latter category.

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Bs0u416d · 27/10/2023 23:34

EarringsandLipstick · 27/10/2023 22:53

I'm not the OP. But I consider it offensive. I'm not virtue signalling. I find plenty of things funny but not attempts at making sexual assault a joke.

I totally respect your right to be offended, and the OP's. I'm not offended and I didn't read it as sexual assault and I suspect neither did the in house councel at Sainsbury's. But, as I have said in a PPs, it takes all sorts. We are all informed by, shaped by and entitled to be upset by what ever we like. For me, this is a lot of hot smoke over nothing. None the less, I hope you have a lovely weekend and I'm sure we all have more to agree on than not.

Jeannie88 · 27/10/2023 23:40

Really.looking far too deeply and dare I say woke into this. It's just a joke, I would have read it, picked another one up, not given it a second thought. There are much more sinister and worrying things going on in the real world to be bothered about a card you don't want to buy. No, it doesn't signify male rape, it's about an angry wife thinking about shoving it up his arse, heard the expression ill shove a broom up my arse while I'm doing everything else? Probably not.

Jeannie88 · 27/10/2023 23:41

HootyMcBoob · 27/10/2023 21:19

Wear a helmet whenever you set foot outside your comfort zone. Better still, I suggest you don't get out of bed. Ever. This way it's less likely you'll ever be offended or upset by something like a greetings card. FFS.

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ZiriForGood · 27/10/2023 23:49

Bs0u416d · 27/10/2023 23:16

But where do we draw the line about that is funny or not? If we drill down into every joke, to the darkermost conclusion, nothing is funny, nothing can be joked about. Isn't this absolute madness?

Too often bad things are brushed off as a "joke" - bullying, verbal abuse, so posts like "it's just a cartoon/card" caught my attention.

From my point of view, a violent crime is a good hint that extra caution is needed about a "joke". And, in my opinion, the topic of penetration without consent is crossing the line. Too serious, too prevalent, too low rate of sentencing the offenders.
In comparison, I think murder is often less troublesome in jokes, thought I don't remember a (murder) joke that would make sense on a card.

Tryingmybestadhd · 28/10/2023 00:18

This is what I call choosing to get offended . I guess you can choose to be offended by pretty much everything

Ramalangadingdong · 28/10/2023 01:09

I don’t find it funny.

RosiePeel · 28/10/2023 02:02

It’s not funny, it’s like something from the 1980’s, and it does joke about sexual assault. But the thread has been hijacked by boomers so 🤦‍♀️

StarlightLady · 28/10/2023 05:02

😂 It’s not about a sexual assault, it’s not about what happens in real life and there is no connection with rape.

Fantastic sales publicity for this particular card though!

Minniliscious · 28/10/2023 08:58

@Sunshineclouds11 Unlike the handle …..

Minniliscious · 28/10/2023 08:59

@RosiePeel Dick

Minniliscious · 28/10/2023 08:59

Imagine taking life so seriously 🤦🏻‍♀️

BIossomtoes · 28/10/2023 09:25

RosiePeel · 28/10/2023 02:02

It’s not funny, it’s like something from the 1980’s, and it does joke about sexual assault. But the thread has been hijacked by boomers so 🤦‍♀️

Has it? Has anyone apart from @Hexandthecity actually said how old they are? Or is that just an ageist assumption on your part?

Liamgallaghersparka · 28/10/2023 09:51

This is the sort of card I'd buy my husband.

VoiceOfCommonSense · 28/10/2023 10:05

Pewpewbarneymcgrew · 27/10/2023 20:59

Really couldn’t get worked up about silly cards

Must have nothing better to do..

Pewpewbarneymcgrew · 28/10/2023 10:27

Liamgallaghersparka · 28/10/2023 09:51

This is the sort of card I'd buy my husband.

Me too, and if he didn’t like it I’d tell him to shove it up his arse

HRTQueen · 28/10/2023 11:06

I find it quite amusing

when I have been patronised I have often had a thought of me doing some amazing martial art movement that throws them down to the ground and they grovel in a pitying way

I can’t but even if I could I wouldn’t but I it amuses me

it’s not real that is what is amusing

Damnloginpopup · 28/10/2023 11:09

BIossomtoes · 28/10/2023 09:25

Has it? Has anyone apart from @Hexandthecity actually said how old they are? Or is that just an ageist assumption on your part?

Fifty...and really can't believe that all the offended haven't got their tongues firmly in their cheeks.

...as opposed to between someone else's unconsenting cheeks.

HootyMcBoob · 28/10/2023 11:21

Pewpewbarneymcgrew · 28/10/2023 10:27

Me too, and if he didn’t like it I’d tell him to shove it up his arse

😄😄

Littleladylumps · 28/10/2023 11:24

Can nobody take a joke anymore? Fucking snowflakes.

Minniliscious · 28/10/2023 13:24

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

adriftinadenofvipers · 28/10/2023 13:59

Sick to the back teeth of this woke shite. It’s actually ridiculous!