In laws constantly refer to daughter as ‘baby’ rather than her name!

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MIL and FIL constantly refer to my 8 week old daughter, their granddaughter, as ‘the baby’ when speaking to us and one another.

”you come across with the baby”
”I’ll take the baby”
”pass us the baby’
”did baby just smile”
etc etc

When ‘the baby’ was 2 weeks old MIL referred to her as ‘thingy’ and I was livid but didn’t say anything. Husband agreed that it wasn’t good but we of course just left it as it was one passing comment. He doesn’t see any issue with only ever referring to our daughter as ‘baby’ or ‘the baby’.

She gives them non stop smiles and looks at them so adoringly and they can’t be arsed to use her name. It’s the very centre of someone’s identity!! Am I over reacting by being angry about this??

I think you're over tired, overwhelmed and thinking too much into it. This is your 1st so things are just different with your 1st, you want everything to be just so. There are far worse things that could be happening though. I'd say you're being a little sensitive towards what's probably just an innocent term they're using, to them, he/she IS probably their baby, who theyre probably extremely proud of. I'd leave it, if it were me, I think its quite sweet, honestly.

My Grnadmother made it really clear she hated our daughters name and didn’t make an effort to learn it. She kept referring to her as ‘the baby’, strangely when I started referring to her as ‘the old lady’ she learnt the name and used it 🤣

So why is it you actually dislike them and want an excuse for it?

Either that, or in the nicest way, you're being "that mum" wanting everything to be just so, which is impossible, and the hormones, lack of sleep, and pressure you've put on yourself is making things very weird.

My DS is 6 and is mainly referred to as "little man" or "dude". If I'm texting my husband from work or whatever I never use our sons name I just write "How's the dude today". I think ur being a bit rediculous tbh.

You are frankly, being ridiculous. I referred to my kids as the baby and now they are the kids. My DD is often ‘the girl’ and the boy is that too.

My dog is usually ‘the dog’ too even though he’s my favourite.

I still call my nearly 14 DD baby. 😂

DD is two and I still say ‘come here baby’ or ‘hello baby girl’ to her. DS (6) is autistic and frequently says ‘mummy she’s a toddler, not a baby’ to me and gets frustrated when I say ‘you’re 6 and you’re still my baby boy’ 🤣 I mostly call him little man or little dude though.

Obviously, I love both their names as I chose them.

It's cute and a term of endearment, they're her grandparents, not her doctor.

I'd take that as a term of endearment, would it bother you if your parents did it? I have had instances of over sensitivity when mine have been little and being tired with a newborn can make you feel even more irritable. I wouldn't make an issue over it, "thingy" is odd and I'd maybe comment on that if said again ask "who's thingy?!" But no need to send your husband in. You've got much better things to give your energy to IMO. If you like them generally, I think you'll regret sounding off over something like this xx

My youngest is 8 and I’ll still refer to him as the baby 🤣 Honestly, don’t overthink it.

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I think I'd start a separate thread, maybe in Chat?

I'm sure someone will be able to help.

Oh thank you @WhateverMate I honestly have no clue what I’m doing these days…I thought I had done that!! xxxx

I'm the baby of the family and family still call me 'the baby' - I'm 32 🤣🤣

I think just some family's do this 😅

Just play them at their own game.
"Would old woman like a cup of tea?" - "please could you pass the salt, old bloke?". "would old woman like to come and visit baby at the weekend?"

Do they put her in a corner?!!