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To think its disgusting that dh used my towel

336 replies

WinkyTinky · 24/10/2023 10:46

Bought myself a new bath towel recently, a lovely pink fluffy thing, a treat just for me. Dh used it this morning, stuffed it into the wash basket, and went off on his way. So I took it out to get it straight in the washing machine only to find he'd really given himself a good scrub and left the evidence behind 😠Anger level 1-10?

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Lilibert456 · 25/10/2023 18:50

jlpth · 25/10/2023 01:04

If he’s regularly getting shit on towels, it seems he is incapable of wiping his arse properly when he shits.

Regardless, I think you can rescue the towel. I would put neat biological washing liquid on the affected area, let it soak for a couple of hours, scrub with a toothbrush and rinse in cold water. Once you have the stain out, then put it on the hottest wash it’ll take and tumble dry it. It’ll be hygienic and unstained.

Make sure it is his toothbrush.

munner · 25/10/2023 18:59

Dirty bastard

Nowherenew · 25/10/2023 19:07

No one should be having shit on towels!

Id love to know why you are still with this vile man and how we can help with one of you moving out, as this is not ok.

Sumthingsweet · 25/10/2023 19:30

Eww he sounds like a right tramp what did you see in him

IDriveMySupernova · 25/10/2023 19:38

DP accidentally shrunk my sock the other day while he was doing the laundry. He apologised and went online to find a replacement (I stopped him, it's just a sock) But he cares and respects me enough that if something is important to me, it's important to him. He's also capable of wiping his arse properly, thank god!

This is so sweet! He sounds like a keeper.

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MargotBamborough · 25/10/2023 20:18

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Huh?

Martz · 25/10/2023 20:31

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Hang on a second, she’s not the one who’s unable to clean her own arse or smearing shit onto the towels AFTER washing. It’s fucking grotesque and I’d be utterly appalled if I was in her position too. Equally, I’d probably post about it online to vent too. I’d be too ashamed on behalf of DH to even discuss that with anyone close to me. Let the woman rant!

MagicFarawayTea · 25/10/2023 21:45

That’s not normal. Actual shit? Christ on a bike.
Dirty fuck.

Rosscameasdoody · 25/10/2023 21:54

Imamumgetmeoutofhere · 24/10/2023 10:54

IMO you are BU. To put it bluntly you have sex with this man. Why would using your towel, which you can wash, be an issue?

Mainly because he leaves shit stains on it !!

CanIPetThatDawg · 25/10/2023 21:56

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I bet you leave shit stains on towels

TooningOut · 25/10/2023 21:57

Is this the same man that soils the bed? And wears incontinence pads? I think that one was deleted...

Rosscameasdoody · 25/10/2023 21:57

jlpth · 25/10/2023 01:04

If he’s regularly getting shit on towels, it seems he is incapable of wiping his arse properly when he shits.

Regardless, I think you can rescue the towel. I would put neat biological washing liquid on the affected area, let it soak for a couple of hours, scrub with a toothbrush and rinse in cold water. Once you have the stain out, then put it on the hottest wash it’ll take and tumble dry it. It’ll be hygienic and unstained.

And use a good slosh of dettol laundry cleanser in the final rinse, just to make sure.

ChocolateCinderToffee · 25/10/2023 22:00

Mydogmybestfriend · 24/10/2023 23:44

That's disgusting but it is just a towel. Wash it and I would buy him his own one in a different colour

I suggest brown.

Throwhandsupintheair · 25/10/2023 22:19

This is up there with the nastiest thing I’ve ever read on here. It was about a woman who was married to a dirty fucker who was suffering with chronic bum thrush or something. Instead of getting it treated he would scratch and dig inside his arsehole with cotton wool buds and leave the used buds lying all over the house for her to clean up.

She sounded so depressed. And you know that dirty fuck was probably being unhygienic at work too, spreading his arse bacteria all around. Some people are so nasty it’s unreal.

CustardySergeant · 25/10/2023 22:24

Throwhandsupintheair,* *that is the most disgusting thing I've ever read on here. 🤢 I just can't fathom how some people think and how little they respect the people they live with.

porridgeisbae · 25/10/2023 22:38

@Throwhandsupintheair There was also one who had to put a towel on the sofa where her OH sits, otherwise he makes the sofa stink.

An1ta · 25/10/2023 23:15

Fuck the towel. Get a whole new husband 😄

Valeriekat · 25/10/2023 23:36

Rosiem2808 · 24/10/2023 10:47

Did he know it was your bath towel OP?

It is pink!
Of course he knew.

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WinkyTinky · 26/10/2023 00:40

I washed the towel, not sure what to do with it now. God knows how long it would have languished in the basket if I hadn't done. There's a co-op bag on the floor in front of the washing machine with some of his wet gym gear in. It's been there over two weeks. I'm not touching it. I've no idea when it's going to get washed. I really think there's something wrong with him.

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Justleaveitblankthen · 26/10/2023 00:51

LTB.
Honestly, the only thing I would think every time I looked at him throughout the day would be:
'You have this morning's shit still sitting in your bum. Don't you? "

Dirty MoFo. 😡

Sumthingsweet · 26/10/2023 00:52

Winky was he always this dirty ? How do you sleep with him ugh sorry but does he not smell like poo ?

SwingTheMonkey · 26/10/2023 01:17

I was married to a man who, over time, began to go several days without a wash (at all - and with no mental health problems). He just couldn’t be bothered to shower. His feet were something else (I didn’t get close enough to the other bits to know what they were like). In the end I just couldn’t stand the sight of him and I left. I’ve now been more than happily married to a wonderful man who I adore (and who looks after his personal hygiene), for 13 years now.

They do exist, op - if ever you feel like starting again!

Biddie191 · 26/10/2023 09:57

"jlpth · Yesterday 01:04

If he’s regularly getting shit on towels, it seems he is incapable of wiping his arse properly when he shits.

Regardless, I think you can rescue the towel. I would put neat biological washing liquid on the affected area, let it soak for a couple of hours, scrub with a toothbrush and rinse in cold water. Once you have the stain out, then put it on the hottest wash it’ll take and tumble dry it. It’ll be hygienic and unstained."

I'm assuming his toothbrush?

Didshejustsaythatoutloud · 26/10/2023 14:38

Ewww, I'd be more concerned that he doesn't wipe himself thoroughly after defecating!! Lol

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