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To think its disgusting that dh used my towel

336 replies

WinkyTinky · 24/10/2023 10:46

Bought myself a new bath towel recently, a lovely pink fluffy thing, a treat just for me. Dh used it this morning, stuffed it into the wash basket, and went off on his way. So I took it out to get it straight in the washing machine only to find he'd really given himself a good scrub and left the evidence behind 😠Anger level 1-10?

OP posts:
Sayitaintso33 · 24/10/2023 15:00

EvilElsa · 24/10/2023 14:45

What is it with these men who can't wipe their own arses properly when they use the toilet? It seems to be a frequently mentioned thing in posts on here. I'm genuinely surprised it's so common, I can hand on heart say that even my kids have NEVER left shit stains on towels. Absolutely foul behaviour. Imagine putting a shitty towel in the wash basket for someone else to deal with. I'd hit the roof.

It might not be true. It might be a fairly effective way of demonising men.

Debini · 24/10/2023 15:04

Instead of posting about him here why don’t you just talk to him? Tell him your not happy he used it and that you want it replacing. Problem solved 🤷‍♀️

Yorkshirelass04 · 24/10/2023 15:06

VeridicalVagabond · 24/10/2023 11:12

Why are so many women ok with being married to, sharing a bed with, having sex with grown adult men who don't know how to wash their arse?

This isn't about the towel, I wouldn't care if my husband used my towel because my husband isn't a minging grot who cuts about all day with a shitty arse.

This is spot on and I'm giggling on the train....

TinChristmas · 24/10/2023 15:15

100% not normal.
There shouldn’t be any shit after wiping and showering!!
just no.
I don’t know why everyone does use a bday or washlets after a shit and just dry paper.

rasellagirl · 24/10/2023 15:18

He is disgusting.
And PPs saying that they share towels? That’s disgusting too.
Don’t believe a word re either situation.

Daphnis156 · 24/10/2023 15:21

A new towel, I think.
And lessons for him on how to wash.

Until then put three immodium in his dinner.

spookehtooth · 24/10/2023 15:29

@TinChristmas thanks for reminding. Buying my first house, no space for bday but I remember looking at similar, I kinda showerhead type thing you fit beside a toilet designed for bum washing. I want to give it a go, hoping it reduces loo paper usage on messy occasions

backtowinter · 24/10/2023 15:31

spookehtooth · 24/10/2023 15:29

@TinChristmas thanks for reminding. Buying my first house, no space for bday but I remember looking at similar, I kinda showerhead type thing you fit beside a toilet designed for bum washing. I want to give it a go, hoping it reduces loo paper usage on messy occasions

A shatafe, I think it's called. I'm installing one when I get my bathroom updated

CeaselesslyIntoThePast · 24/10/2023 15:32

I think most men don't wipe at all

MargotBamborough · 24/10/2023 15:41

CeaselesslyIntoThePast · 24/10/2023 15:32

I think most men don't wipe at all

???

Outliers · 24/10/2023 15:45

This is why it's important to wash your bum, and not simply reply on paper.

Everyone needs to improve their hygiene standards and catch-up with Asian and African practices.

Tiddlywinkly · 24/10/2023 15:49

Ew. Why does he have pooey bum AFTER showering? Has he no shame? LTB

ChocolateCinderToffee · 24/10/2023 15:53

bday???

It's a bidet.

Yorkshirelass04 · 24/10/2023 16:58

Outliers · 24/10/2023 15:45

This is why it's important to wash your bum, and not simply reply on paper.

Everyone needs to improve their hygiene standards and catch-up with Asian and African practices.

That's a nice idea for people who can have bidets in their bathrooms and never go to the toilet in the office or elsewhere!

FatherJackHackettsUnderpantsHamper · 24/10/2023 17:28

Maybe he needs a rear view mirror to help check?

And a leaf blower!

spookehtooth · 24/10/2023 17:40

@FatherJackHackettsUnderpantsHamper where's the leaf blower come in? Some sort of arse equivalent of the hand drier? Dyson are you reading this???

Fahbeep · 24/10/2023 17:55

ChocolateCinderToffee · 24/10/2023 15:53

bday???

It's a bidet.

I know. Imagine if someone left shit on your favourite towel on your actual Bday. Not the present one would expect from an OH!

FatherJackHackettsUnderpantsHamper · 24/10/2023 18:05

where's the leaf blower come in? Some sort of arse equivalent of the hand drier? Dyson are you reading this???

We're talking brute force to clear the debris!

A Karcher pressure washer would probably be more efficient; but then, why not just use the shower in the first place?!

newnamethanks · 24/10/2023 18:08

Years ago there was a TV programme about new recruits to the army, all young teen men. One scene showed them showering before they were issued with their clothing. The sergeant stood there shouting instructions on how to wash. Use the soap. Yes, all over, now rinse it off before you get out. It was necessary, he said, otherwise more than half of them would just stand under the water for a few minutes then get-out. Wet but not washed. Quite alarming.

Lynz32 · 24/10/2023 18:22

spookehtooth · 24/10/2023 14:58

Maybe he needs a rear view mirror to help check?

There might be a training school somewhere, or just instructions on good technique online like you get for washing your hands and brushing your teeth.

I wish more public loos for us men had automatic flushing 🙏 This isn't the only issue, there's flushing and not getting pee on the floor. It can be a bit of an obstacle course sometimes

Don't get me started with this. Ever since my work has moved to gender neutral toilets for everyone every time I go to the toilet now it is literally covered in piss all over the seat and the floor. I get the transgender issues but all that these kinds of policies do is allow non transgender men to invade single sex spaces and be disgusting.

Bouncyball23 · 24/10/2023 18:34

Tally00 · 24/10/2023 10:52

Could you buy him some toilet paper?

Made me laugh more than it should off 🤣

C1N1C · 24/10/2023 18:38

At least you know his crack is now clean... Silver lining?

WinkyTinky · 24/10/2023 18:39

@Fahbeep I've had worse birthday presents...

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itsmyp4rty · 24/10/2023 19:07

We all 'rely' on paper to wipe here. Never had a shit stain on anything. It's not hard, you just keep wiping till it's all gone.

CeaselesslyIntoThePast · 24/10/2023 19:18

itsmyp4rty · 24/10/2023 19:07

We all 'rely' on paper to wipe here. Never had a shit stain on anything. It's not hard, you just keep wiping till it's all gone.

Sometimes it is like wiping the top of a marker pen though.