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Friend lying about tv appearance.

259 replies

KatKoot · 20/10/2023 22:54

A friend of mine has recently told me (& put on Facebook) that they were going to be a contestant on a popular quiz show
However when I checked online to see if I could be part of the audience the website said the show had been recorded in March and will be on tv in 2024.
WIBU to call this friend out on their lie or is it possible they’re telling the truth & audience website is incorrect.

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amiboverd · 22/10/2023 18:44

Agree with this

DontListenToWhatYouveConsumed · 22/10/2023 18:53

@KatKoot if a friend lying is your line in the sand, then it is.
I'm not sure why you are getting a tough time 🤔
I had a friendship of a few years that ended due to their lies.
Started off stupid, inconsequential nonsense. Then they got bolder and bolder.
When I was told she lied about having cancer, had shaved her own head etc that was me done.
I cannot abide bullshit.

CantFindMyMarbles · 22/10/2023 18:54

YABU and you don’t have any proof

why would they lie though?!?

ToffeeMamma · 22/10/2023 19:11

Actually from what Stelify Media state 2024 episodes were finished recording by March but contestants can always apply and further episodes are recorded from that point on and are likely to be used in future years schedules. If your name isn't picked to be on an episode they also roll it over to the following years list and so on so you don't need to reapply. I know someone who filmed in September of 2021 for a series which was aired in 2023.

Rosscameasdoody · 22/10/2023 19:15

Sounds to me as though it was already recorded and your friends’ bit was due to be aired this week. If you didn’t clarify that with her, then that’s on you. You don’t seem to realise that these shows are taped months in advance. You don’t sound like much of a friend either tbh.

AllstarFacilier · 22/10/2023 19:19

To get to question 12 would be impressive, would be £125000

Platypuslover · 22/10/2023 19:25

You do realise these things are recorded months in advance before they are shown on TV?

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KatKoot · 22/10/2023 19:27

Platypuslover · 22/10/2023 19:25

You do realise these things are recorded months in advance before they are shown on TV?

Yes, they said they recorded week just gone & due to be on tv next year.

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KatKoot · 22/10/2023 19:29

I did clarify, they said recording was week just gone. But according to audience website the last series of WWTBAM with Jeremy Clarkson was recorded in March this year not October.

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Mari9999 · 22/10/2023 19:32

Why do so many posters on MN feel the necessity to play Sherlock ? If you think that your friend is a liar. Either accept the fact that your friend may not always tell the truth, or end the friendship.

What do you gain from all of the sleuthing and checking? If I had a friend who was not always truthful but I liked them, I would accept them warts and all. If this was an issue for me, I would end the friendship.

I think what would be most important to me was how they treated me and others when it really mattered. Exaggerating things to impress would probably not matter if they were over all a kind and caring person.

Moll2020 · 22/10/2023 19:33

You say “friend”. Doesn’t sound like you’re being much of a friend, maybe you should have a hobby!

Snugglemonkey · 22/10/2023 19:35

Sumtimesiamgreen · 20/10/2023 22:57

Why did you (spy behind her back) look it up ?

This! So weird.

dontgobaconmyheart · 22/10/2023 19:45

I really don't understand things like this; surely it's a bit weird to try and book to see a friend/acquaintance in something without even asking them if they would want you to be there - essentially you are just trying to catch them in what you perceive as a lie.

If you know they bend the truth then why continue the relationship if it bothers you? Obviously it's not normal behaviour if true but I'd hardly describe going on a tv show when in fact you didn't as a 'biggie', rather just a bit sad that they feel the need and clearly don't feel they have enough going for them on their own merit.

Either stop spending time with them if you think there is some underlying issue here or focus on your own life, rather than sneaking about googling their whereabouts.

Rosscameasdoody · 22/10/2023 19:50

So will the OP be coming back to update us when the episode is aired, I wonder.

Isthisexpected · 22/10/2023 19:56

KatKoot · 22/10/2023 19:29

I did clarify, they said recording was week just gone. But according to audience website the last series of WWTBAM with Jeremy Clarkson was recorded in March this year not October.

Can't you comprehend that the website just hasn't been updated?

porridgeisbae · 22/10/2023 20:02

Bit of a daft thing to lie about as sooner or later anyone she's said that to will realise she's lied (if she lied.)

BannedfromChristmas · 22/10/2023 20:03

There is obviously some history OP. A woman I worked with told ridiculous compulsive lies too including that she was engaged to the footballer Andy Carroll. It's so tedious.

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KatKoot · 22/10/2023 20:05

Yes; will do either way.

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KatKoot · 22/10/2023 20:06

KatKoot · 22/10/2023 20:05

Yes; will do either way.

In response to @Rosscameasdoody

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alfagirl73 · 22/10/2023 20:12

You'll just have to wait and see if and when she turns up on it at some point. These things are recorded well in advance, and can air at any point - often out of sequence. Plus contestants are usually under contract to keep quiet and not disclose particular info until a certain date. Also Lost in TV etc... are often inaccurate and out of date themselves. A friend of mine has been on tv quite a lot - if I want to go see them on something they usually arrange it so I'm their guest - it's quite difficult to be in the audience of a specific show on a specific date to see a specific person. Especially with a show like this because they don't know how long each contestant will last etc.

Createausername1970 · 22/10/2023 20:13

Mari9999 · 22/10/2023 19:32

Why do so many posters on MN feel the necessity to play Sherlock ? If you think that your friend is a liar. Either accept the fact that your friend may not always tell the truth, or end the friendship.

What do you gain from all of the sleuthing and checking? If I had a friend who was not always truthful but I liked them, I would accept them warts and all. If this was an issue for me, I would end the friendship.

I think what would be most important to me was how they treated me and others when it really mattered. Exaggerating things to impress would probably not matter if they were over all a kind and caring person.

This.

I know someone who stretches the truth to snapping point, but in all other respects they are fine. I just accept what they say at face value, if it turns out to be incorrect further down the line, then so be it. But as it is never anything life threatening, just them trying to feel better about themself by appearing to be more interesting, I don't get too bothered by it.

I like them too much to try to publicly catch them out.

FreeRider · 22/10/2023 20:18

I was on the Hitman And Her (anyone old enough here to remember that show) back in 1989. Recently I discovered the show I was on had been uploaded to YouTube...but my bit had been cut out (thank fuck, it was karaoke bit and I was terrible!).

So anyone I've told about that - most of my friends - would think I was lying if they searched for it online.

porridgeisbae · 22/10/2023 20:30

What do you gain from all of the sleuthing and checking? If I had a friend who was not always truthful but I liked them, I would accept them warts and all. If this was an issue for me, I would end the friendship.

Speaking for myself, I like to know the truth about things, for my own wellbeing/interest. I even went and sat in the public gallery in court once because I found out someone had told me a massive pack of lies about a case they were involved in, which I had swallowed, and I wanted to find out the truth.

Also someone might put up with a friend who they'd known to lie slightly, but eventually have enough. Before they draw the line, they might want to know whether what they'd been told was true or false, to help them decide what to do. Or if for instance it's a book club, it'd help OP decide how much she wants to be involved with this person outside of the group.

porridgeisbae · 22/10/2023 20:33

@Createausername1970 I wouldn't like someone I knew had lied to me- it would annoy or anger me. The only person like that I put up with is my uncle, because he's family so I don't feel I can bin him. Smile Even then I'll say 'well that's a conversation that never happened' or something. Smile

chaosmaker · 22/10/2023 20:48

@KatKoot I'm not sure why you care. Do any of these white lies actually hurt anyone or matter at all in any way? If not then just enjoy being her friend instead of trying to catch her out.

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