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Friend lying about tv appearance.

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KatKoot · 20/10/2023 22:54

A friend of mine has recently told me (& put on Facebook) that they were going to be a contestant on a popular quiz show
However when I checked online to see if I could be part of the audience the website said the show had been recorded in March and will be on tv in 2024.
WIBU to call this friend out on their lie or is it possible they’re telling the truth & audience website is incorrect.

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amylou8 · 21/10/2023 05:55

They probably don't want you rocking up as an audience member so changed some salient details.

electriclight · 21/10/2023 06:03

It would be a weird thing to lie about and then publicise so widely on sm. Surely the very first comment asked when it was airing, and people will continue asking so they can watch it. I think it's more likely that the website you looked at was incorrect or hadn't been updated or just wasn't offering tickets for the latest rounds.

Charlize43 · 21/10/2023 06:46

Have you thought of making better use of your time?

Maybe find a hobby that is productive, rewarding and that will give you a better sense of self.

Ducksinthebath · 21/10/2023 06:47

OP you do realise it’s not just names picked out a hat then you’re on TV? There are audition days and screen tests to make sure you’re not the sort to freeze in front of a camera, eff and blind if you get something wrong or go off on a political rant.

She could well be doing something like that.

Mydogisagentleman · 21/10/2023 06:59

My DD and I were contestants on a show.
We filmed it in February.
It hasn't yet been shown and we all had to sign an NDA or the winners won't be awarded any money they may or may not have won

Hibiscrubbed · 21/10/2023 07:13

KatKoot · 20/10/2023 23:10

I think they are a compulsive liar. I’ve always tried to be kind & help them out but it’s going too far now.

Well, this lie will have natural consequences won’t it. When they’re not on tv and they don’t £64,000/£125,000 in the bank.

You can just give them a look when they talk about it, signalling you know it’s bullshit, and either support them through this or unfriend them.

Your immediate effort to catch them out suggests maybe you should end the friendship.

littleblackcat27 · 21/10/2023 07:16

MillieVonPinkle · 20/10/2023 23:13

Even compulsive liars usually have some sense of self preservation.

Unless your friend is exceptionally thick she's unlikely to tell everyone she's going to be on WWTBAM this week if she's not - because she'll obviously get caught out!

Maybe the OP and her friend are both thick??

That was my first thought.

Dontcallmescarface · 21/10/2023 07:19

DD's uncle was on a T.V quiz show recently. It was recorded back in September 2022. You clearly don't like your "friend" very much, although I suspect that may change if it turns out that she won....bet you'll act like her "bestie" then.

LittleCrackers · 21/10/2023 08:00

mrsfollowill · 20/10/2023 23:41

@LittleCrackers she didn't win anything! there were four contestants and she was the second booted off. She answered her questions well but the machine was just against her that day so she left with nothing. Really enjoyed the day out though.

Ah, that's such a shame! I'm glad she enjoyed the experience, though

Lucyintheskywithlove · 21/10/2023 08:05

Regardless of whether she lied or not, it sounds like you don't like this friend, so just move on with your life and forget about it.
People have far worse things to worry about!

HikingforScenery · 21/10/2023 08:18

KatKoot · 20/10/2023 22:57

Not sure really. Maybe find out why they’ve said this if not true. I’ve caught them lying in the past but never had it out with them. But this is a biggie.

Why is this “a biggie”? it’s such a non issue? if her life is so sad that she needs to lie about being on tv, let her!

Diamondcurtains · 21/10/2023 08:23

My friend has been on loads of quiz type shows. They’re recorded well in advance and she never knows exactly when they’ll be shown on TV until nearer the time.

Puffypuffin · 21/10/2023 08:23

KatKoot · 20/10/2023 22:57

Not sure really. Maybe find out why they’ve said this if not true. I’ve caught them lying in the past but never had it out with them. But this is a biggie.

A 'biggie'? Really? Who is actually going to care about trivial stuff like this, what on earth is the matter with you?

MissTrip82 · 21/10/2023 08:28

I don’t really understand why you wanted to be in the audience for someone you clearly don’t like, don’t trust, suspect of being a compulsive liar, and go out of your way to ‘catch’.

Surely just move on from this friendship.

koalaknickers · 21/10/2023 08:29

KatKoot · 20/10/2023 22:57

Not sure really. Maybe find out why they’ve said this if not true. I’ve caught them lying in the past but never had it out with them. But this is a biggie.

I think the problem is you have been lied to in the past and just let it go. So you've built up some resentment and distrust towards this friend. Now this.

As pps have said, trying to find out if someone is lying or not is such a huge waste of your mental energy.

Whatever the outcome here is, it sounds like you'd want/need to verify everything she says in the future. That's what a relationship with someone who lies is like.

It might be better to distance yourself from this friendship as your values sound too different.

Livedandlearned · 21/10/2023 08:30

What a horrible thread, MN at it's worst.

whowhy · 21/10/2023 08:33

This makes no sense. If she told you she recorded the show last week and that she got to 12 questions, then why were you trying to buy tickets?

Sounds like you're both in fantasyland and also quite odd.

Basilton · 21/10/2023 08:34

happyshineyperson · 20/10/2023 23:08

Can’t people read? The friend said she was filming this week. She then told the OP how far she got after the “filming”. All sounds like a load of rubbish.

Well OP didn’t say that until many posts in when people pointed out that it was obviously prerecorded.

HeatherMoores · 21/10/2023 08:43

Surely if she was being recorded this week the tickets would have been advertised months ago anyway?

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Worddance · 21/10/2023 08:52

Sounds like the friendship has run its course.

Stroopwaffels · 21/10/2023 09:01

This is SO weird.

I have done a wee bit of work as a TV extra. Confidentiality agreements mean I am not allowed to post on social media about what I am doing and name the series or film at the time. So I could tell you that I had a day's work on a major TV drama in June, but until the release date is officially announced by the tv channel or movie studio, I can't say "watch out for me as patient number 10 in Casualty" or "might spot me as a cafe customer in Eastenders" or whatever. (Haven't been in either of those btw)

Not quite sure why the OP is so sure that she is being lied to.

1983Louise · 21/10/2023 09:06

My friend was on a quiz show and they can be recorded months in advance. I don't think I'd want you as a friend, it seems you want it to be a lie, very strange.

Blinky21 · 21/10/2023 09:07

It's pretty clear, the friend said they were filming this week but there was no filming this week, hence the lie. I wouldn't worry about it though, just keep asking her when it's on and eventually she'll have to admit the lie? Is she mentally well, strange thing to lie about

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