Page 7 | Using 'Daddy' in a sex context

JellyPopz · 2023-10-20T20:55:55+00:00

It's always made me uncomfortable, Daddy is what my kids call their father and not what I would ever call a lover. Starting the 'This Morning Show' and ep 2 the PA comes in and tries to seduce her senior that she is in a relationship with using a baby voice and calling him Daddy. I'm hoping the whole 'Yes Daddy', 'Give it to me Daddy' nods to something else and isn't fuelling a very sick fantasy?! Sidenote: pleased to say I have never had a man who requested this. Can someone enlighten me? It's not like this show was filmed many years ago, it's base story is around Me Too!

Mirabai · 21/10/2023 09:40

Watercoloursky · 21/10/2023 09:09

Similarly old-timey US references, but in West Side Story the teenaged Jets sometimes address each other as 'Daddy-o'.

Blanche Barrow (hung out with Bonnie and Clyde, married to Clyde's brother) also famously addressed her husband as 'Daddy' when they were out and about, so I don't think it's just used in the bedroom - PPs have made interesting points about it being more about authority than literal paternity.

I realise my two examples are from the 1950s and 1930s, mind...! 😂

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I think it’s a good point that the usage is that old - it probably dates back further than that too.

Watercoloursky · 21/10/2023 09:49

nutsnutspistachionuts · 21/10/2023 09:30

It's "a thing" everywhere but definitely more mainstream in the US. In the States it's not even seen as particularly bdsm.

Sorry if this is a bit pseud's corner but I think British society is traditionally more hierarchical so many of us would gravitate more towards a "yes sir" type thing ahead of "daddy"? Whereas USA society is less class-led but perhaps the nuclear family is more culturally dominant, like girls asking their dad's permission to go out etc. I've never seen my dad as any sort of authority figure whatsoever and that's borne out by dad portrayals in the British media - think the nice enough but ineffectual type dads in My Family or Waffle the Wonder-Dog or whatever, vs the archetypal fierce dad who ruled the roost in Clueless or all those American high school movies.

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That makes a lot of sense to me.

YoureALizardHarry11 · 21/10/2023 09:52

DumDeDaDumDum · 21/10/2023 09:28

Considering it's mainly women calling their partners daddy are you suggesting that these women are paedophiles of some sort?

I'm involved in the kink world and it is categorically NOT used as a peadophile sort of thing 🤔

People who call their partner daddy are usually a sub, their daddy is usually the dom. It's about control, being the boss ect and having someone love you and Make you feel cared for

All sorts of fucked up in it's own way but its definetly not paedophile related

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Yes, but it’s definitely strange to use the term ‘’daddy’’ to refer to a dom when, in the usual context of the word, daddy is the authoritative parental figure who gets to ‘’control’’ the child. It has undertones of some really disturbing kind of power role play fantasy whereby ‘’daddy’’ gets to punish the ‘’child’’ in a sexual manner for being ‘’naughty’’ if that makes sense.

It does seem rooted in paedophila, 100% (even if it’s not.)

Emeraldrings · 21/10/2023 09:58

YoureALizardHarry11 · 21/10/2023 02:19

I don’t use the term baby either, but it’s clear that a grown adult is not actually a baby so easier to differentiate and disconnect. Baby (albeit very cringeworthy) is used as a term of endearment outside the bedroom, too. Daddy isn’t used as a term of endearment in the same way Is it? It’s a childish term for someone in a parental role.

Parents are supposed to punish kids when they misbehave and are in an authority position.

Daddy used in this way as a dominance thing feels wrong to me as it’s like power play, ‘’oh daddy I’ve been naughty, punish me!’’ In a babyish voice 🤢

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But people who use the term baby could be exactly the same. As you would be implying you are the parent.
Personally I don't really care what anyone calls their partner. But anyone who thinks its gross or relates to incest needs to just relax. It is never about that, read up on it if you want proof or don't and just don't worry about what others do in their sex life.

Startingagainandagain · 21/10/2023 10:00

I find that really gross.

Also can't stand seeing women dressing like schoolgirls and/or pretending to be teens in porn videos and men getting off on that...

I know that some adult happily live that kink with a partner that has the same fetish but it really is not for me.

Zanatdy · 21/10/2023 10:01

If a man asked me to call them Daddy, no chance

Saschka · 21/10/2023 10:02

Theredfoxfliesatmidnight · 20/10/2023 22:16

Is it that different to calling a lover babe or baby? That's more weird in my opinion

People call random posters on Netmums and FB “babe”. They don’t call randoms Mummy or Daddy.

Chiwg · 21/10/2023 10:03

It's absolutely vile. And anyone that does it needs their hard drive checking.

YoureALizardHarry11 · 21/10/2023 10:06

Emeraldrings · 21/10/2023 09:58

But people who use the term baby could be exactly the same. As you would be implying you are the parent.
Personally I don't really care what anyone calls their partner. But anyone who thinks its gross or relates to incest needs to just relax. It is never about that, read up on it if you want proof or don't and just don't worry about what others do in their sex life.

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It isn’t the same at all because it’s culturally normal to use the term baby as a term of endearment, both in and outside the bedroom, where as daddy is a child like term for someone’s dad.

also like I said before, it’s pretty easy to disconnect the term ‘’baby’’ from an actual baby when you’re having sex with a partner, they can’t easily role play at being a baby, unless of course they like that sort of dress up in the bedroom. An adult can more easily role play at being a child by changing their voice and leaving the rest to the imagination.

People being called baby in the bedroom don’t usually start taking on that role by babbling and sucking a dummy.

I think you know what the point is.

FKATondelayo · 21/10/2023 10:09

I'm the most pearl clutching, rad fem, anti-porn/surrogacy/prostitution, 50 Shades book burning, Mary Whitehouse tribute act ever. I even thought about complaining to the BBC last week when they played Sex Bomb at 7pm (I don't need to hear "infra red semen pumping" on Strictly)

That said, I cannot get worked up about this. It's a WORD, and a word that has two meanings in two different contexts.

There are men in this country recently who have walked free for raping children and yet this is the issue? Come on.

JaneyGee · 21/10/2023 10:09

LylaLee · 20/10/2023 21:57

This plus the prevalence of incest porn & stepchild porn & schoolchild porn makes me feel sick. I think a lot of people are defective.

There was something in the paper the other day about porn and how it is warping young boys. A sex therapist said you wouldn't believe the stuff teenage girls are now expected to do. They think it's normal because the boys have convinced them it is. And the boys think it's normal because they've grown up with internet pornography.

DRS1970 · 21/10/2023 10:14

That type of thing just rings paedophiles and incest in my mind. Can't get past that.

JaneyGee · 21/10/2023 10:16

Chiwg · 21/10/2023 10:03

It's absolutely vile. And anyone that does it needs their hard drive checking.

I wouldn't want to see the hard drive of the average man in this country. I have a nasty feeling even a lot of ordinary, 'good' men indulge in some really sick and dark fantasies online. I also suspect that the majority of men have vague hebephilic tendencies (i.e a sexual interest in girls between 11 and 14). Obviously the vast, vast majority never act on those interests, but that's because they know they'd go to prison, be ostracised by loved ones, or be beaten up.

AgnesX · 21/10/2023 10:18

GilChesterton13 · 20/10/2023 22:15

As a woman I enjoy sometimes watching pork

Mmmmm, crackling...

😁 with some nice stuffing....😄

Chiwg · 21/10/2023 10:20

JaneyGee · 21/10/2023 10:16

I wouldn't want to see the hard drive of the average man in this country. I have a nasty feeling even a lot of ordinary, 'good' men indulge in some really sick and dark fantasies online. I also suspect that the majority of men have vague hebephilic tendencies (i.e a sexual interest in girls between 11 and 14). Obviously the vast, vast majority never act on those interests, but that's because they know they'd go to prison, be ostracised by loved ones, or be beaten up.

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I agree.

Just going on 'the hub' proves that. Pages of step daughter/step sister/barley legal/ women with pigtails and frilly pink underwear holding teddies

It's fucking horrific.

And that's what's MAINSTREAM/LEGAL!

HRTQueen · 21/10/2023 10:26

It’s used in many cultures it’s not referring to a father or father like figure more a grown up man, a man who is in charge of his life (not a young man but not necessarily an older partner)

little papa and little mama is used in some Spanish speaking countries (not sure if it’s used in Spain) for attractive/sexy man/woman it’s means nothing more than that

Evaka · 21/10/2023 10:32

Mumsanetta · 20/10/2023 22:38

Men calling women “Mama” is a thing - “Hey Mama” can be very sexy especially when uttered by Rio.

Daddy/Papi is also a thing and has nothing to do with infantilising or incest. It’s more akin to “Big Daddy” / “The Man”

Yep, I understand the icky feelings but I sometimes jokingly call my man Mack Daddy and it's absolutely not because I want to have sex with my father! It's slang, folks. Words can have loads of different meanings.

LylaLee · 21/10/2023 10:32

JaneyGee · 21/10/2023 10:09

There was something in the paper the other day about porn and how it is warping young boys. A sex therapist said you wouldn't believe the stuff teenage girls are now expected to do. They think it's normal because the boys have convinced them it is. And the boys think it's normal because they've grown up with internet pornography.

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Injuries from anal. Think being strangled is normal. Being choked in a bj is normal. Pornstars are ready to go with no foreplay.

They literally 'make room for a cameraman.' The positions and angles all for visual titillation, not for pleasant sensations.

JamSandle · 21/10/2023 10:34

Never called a guy it and never would. Don't really want to conjure images of either of our dad's during the act

Spinnymop · 21/10/2023 10:51

Not read the whole thread, but have we established if op enjoys watching live pork, as in a pig, or is it packets of ham and sausages that floats her (gravy) boat?

EBearhug · 21/10/2023 10:55

I think even if it is a word that in this context, originally doesn't mean father, but just authority figure, in the UK, it is a name that often is used for your dad. So while many couples might just use it in the sub to their dom way, or even just to a strong man, there probably will be some who are getting off on the father/daughter vibe, and I wouldn't want to be part of that.

Disturbia81 · 21/10/2023 10:56

@JaneyGee Grim but true in many cases. Look ar how early we start getting perved on and beeped by white van men. It was 12 for me. I remember the feeling, it was awful.. innocent view of the world gone. One minute I'm a kid who men are fatherly towards and then it feel insidious. Not all men of course

DiscoBeat · 21/10/2023 11:02

I have a friend who sent my a picture of the spread she'd put on for her OH's big birthday; fancy breakfast table, champagne, loads of presents, decorations etc... and in the middle, a card addressed "daddy". He has no children.

Hopefully it was from a cat or something 🫣

OneTC · 21/10/2023 11:04

It's not my idea of a good time

JamSandle · 21/10/2023 11:08

Disturbia81 · 21/10/2023 10:56

@JaneyGee Grim but true in many cases. Look ar how early we start getting perved on and beeped by white van men. It was 12 for me. I remember the feeling, it was awful.. innocent view of the world gone. One minute I'm a kid who men are fatherly towards and then it feel insidious. Not all men of course

11/12 for me too.