Using 'Daddy' in a sex context

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It's always made me uncomfortable, Daddy is what my kids call their father and not what I would ever call a lover.

Starting the 'This Morning Show' and ep 2 the PA comes in and tries to seduce her senior that she is in a relationship with using a baby voice and calling him Daddy.

I'm hoping the whole 'Yes Daddy', 'Give it to me Daddy' nods to something else and isn't fuelling a very sick fantasy?!

Sidenote: pleased to say I have never had a man who requested this.

Can someone enlighten me? It's not like this show was filmed many years ago, it's base story is around Me Too!

A friend of ours likes watching Late Night Poker. But he’s from Bolton and pronounces it Late Night Porker. Cracks us up every time!

It’s more of an American thing, not my kind of thing but can’t get worked up about it. As for PP saying daddy is more used in England for father I don’t know any adults that call their father “daddy” 🤔 definitely heard it loads in American tv shows and movies though

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But yes it's grim, I have no issues with lots of other words but "Daddy" is cringy & just gross, I also have noticed so many porn videos & clips with the whole "step sister.." this, that & the other & my mind boggles tbh

Tell that to Pitbull and other Latin American/mexican singers.

I don't like it, but in other cultures it means the one in charge. It is sub/giving up control thing to some people.

As someone who likes blues, older country, classic rock and folk songs: there seems to be a tradition in many American songs of male and female partners calling themselves and each other 'daddy' and 'mama'. Mississippi John Hurt sang 'Hurry down, sweet daddy, come blowin' your horn/ If you come too late, sweet mama will be gone.' Hank Snow's 'Moving On' includes the lines 'Your true loving daddy ain't coming back' and 'I got a pretty mama in Tennessee'. Lonnie Donegan and others sang 'Don't you rock me Daddy-o'. Pp have already mentioned Boney M and 'Daddy Cool'. There was a well-known Sixties rock band called The Mamas and Papas. Even the British band the Kinks had the song 'Sunny Afternoon' including the line 'I've got a big fat momma trying to break me' - in the context, clearly the character's girlfriend, not his mother. I assume that the usage stems from your partner being the actual or potential father or mother of your children, and does not imply an incestuous relationship.

Of course men calling women mommy is a thing. It is absolutely a fetish play thing just like valuing men daddy.

Language is powerful. Words mean different things to different people. Not everyone shares your parameters, does not mean they are gross. I could never call someone baby or anything like it during sex. It is what I call my baby. Not goi g to judge others who may want to though. Different people, different, different meanings, it is all grand to me as long as safe, sane and consensual.

Even without the incest connotation, if it implies an older man then that is also grim.

My teen dd used it once in a conversation about an attractive older male teacher. It was a long debate as to why it was unacceptable, she really didn’t get it. It seems to have some kind of alternative meaning to younger people

It sort of just means a hot older guy... See Pedro Pascal ... Also an alternative is "zaddy"

https://youtube.com/shorts/0k4-lglLsLs?si=-Dubph1CCzGv3NBX

And such

Thats a very low bar. Have you considered therapy?

Therapists aren't going to stop you having sex the way you enjoy it if it isn't harming anyone, in fact sex between consenting adults is often a safe way to explore issues in a way that gives you power/control back (can happen for victims of sexual assault etc).

Oh no pork markets.

Men calling women Mommy during sex very much is a thing I'm afraid. Again it's a sub addressing their dominant partner

My vagina would shrivel up in a millisecond if DH called me mummy during sex. Honestly, I’d have to leave him as I could never look at him again. Not an overreaction, just how I feel.

I saw this video yesterday!

https://vm.tiktok.com/ZGJw2Dhhb/

Had this very discussion tonight after watching the new Marilyn film where she uses it throughout with various men , it’s so disturbing and makes me feel queasy to hear!

Well, is it any different to "baby" being sexualised? If you think about it, no. Be my, be my baby 🎶

What are the connotations of that word sexually?

It really gives me the ick, but I don't think, for the vast majority of people who engage, it's about an incest fantasy or pedophilia. It seems to be much more to do with wanting a narrower way of relating to each other sexually that is outside of normal life. A role play that, because both sides understand their role (based on fairly well worn archetypes) avoids some conflicts and (I think) the depth of relationships that aren't so bound.

Love a bit of kink shaming tbh...

What 2 consenting adults do in private is their business so long as it doesn't hurt anyone

And more modern usage just means an older male who is attractive. "I'd call him Daddy". A skinny/less attractive/geeky male who "has a glow up" - "He went from 'I'll have her home by 7' to 'your daughter calls me Daddy too' "

’My vagina would shrivel up in a millisecond if DH called me mummy during sex. Honestly, I’d have to leave him as I could never look at him again. Not an overreaction, just how I feel.’

@HoppingPavlova So fucking what?

And anyway, why would your partner call you Mummy during sex if that’s not your thing?

It amazes me how some of you get through life. There’s a whole world out there where people are different to each other and have different likes and dislikes and preferences.

This particular one doesn’t involve you or harm you at all. Why are on here crying about incest and child abuse and your vagina’s shrivelling up?

If it’s so distressing go and think about something else to distract yourselves, or are you enjoying getting into an absolute state over this?

I’ve always found the idea of it utterly repulsive. Why would either want to role play that? Why would you want to imagine shagging your own dad, or for the man, his daughter!?

Maybe there’s some other implicit meaning to it but just the word associations feel so deeply wrong and predatory.

I bet closet paedos love that sort of thing!

Why would you want to imagine shagging your own dad, or for the man, his daughter!?

Why would anybody want to imagine shagging a baby? I mean, maybe there's some implicitly other meaning to the term "baby" but it just feels predatory!

Yes it is.

What do you think we call our fathers?

Sorry, I stalled after "Yes, I didn't even touch on that. As a woman I enjoy sometimes watching pork"
I know, I know it's porn. But my brain shouted "Pork Daddy!" and made it all so, so much worse

I don’t use the term baby either, but it’s clear that a grown adult is not actually a baby so easier to differentiate and disconnect. Baby (albeit very cringeworthy) is used as a term of endearment outside the bedroom, too. Daddy isn’t used as a term of endearment in the same way Is it? It’s a childish term for someone in a parental role.

Parents are supposed to punish kids when they misbehave and are in an authority position.

Daddy used in this way as a dominance thing feels wrong to me as it’s like power play, ‘’oh daddy I’ve been naughty, punish me!’’ In a babyish voice 🤢