Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Flexible and made to last.

Meet the Other Phone.
Flexible and made to last.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

Using 'Daddy' in a sex context

226 replies

JellyPopz · 20/10/2023 21:55

It's always made me uncomfortable, Daddy is what my kids call their father and not what I would ever call a lover.

Starting the 'This Morning Show' and ep 2 the PA comes in and tries to seduce her senior that she is in a relationship with using a baby voice and calling him Daddy.

I'm hoping the whole 'Yes Daddy', 'Give it to me Daddy' nods to something else and isn't fuelling a very sick fantasy?!

Sidenote: pleased to say I have never had a man who requested this.

Can someone enlighten me? It's not like this show was filmed many years ago, it's base story is around Me Too!

OP posts:
Thread gallery
7
DragonFly98 · 20/10/2023 23:30

Theimpossiblegirl · 20/10/2023 22:21

In America it's not the same as Daddy is not the usual affectionate term for a father figure.

In the UK it's gross.

It's is amd for much longer it's very usually for older teens to call their fathers daddy.

Mirabai · 20/10/2023 23:30

FeverBeam · 20/10/2023 23:16

I've always regarded it as more of an American thing. They're also more likely to refer to a woman as 'mama', in a romantic context. Wouldn't be for me but if other people are into it that's their business. People's consensual bedroom behaviour is none of my concern.

I could be wrong but I think the use of “daddy” and “mama” - may come from black culture - as in ‘daddy cool’ and ‘red hot mama’. Afaik in slang it means lover not father.

shadylane · 20/10/2023 23:34

It’s a character’s fantasy in a fictional TV show. I don’t think you have to agree with all the characters or think the same as them- it’s a story. It is not saying that all women should call their partner daddy during sex! It’s a plot device.

Lastchancechica · 20/10/2023 23:35

Absolutely sickening.

My teen dd used it once in a conversation about an attractive older male teacher. It was a long debate as to why it was unacceptable, she really didn’t get it. It seems to have some kind of alternative meaning to younger people.

bombastix · 20/10/2023 23:38

shadylane · 20/10/2023 23:34

It’s a character’s fantasy in a fictional TV show. I don’t think you have to agree with all the characters or think the same as them- it’s a story. It is not saying that all women should call their partner daddy during sex! It’s a plot device.

House of Cards. And it is disturbing because she is definitely possessed of some serious issues, and the title corrupts him too. It is unbelievably creepy

LuluBlakey1 · 20/10/2023 23:40

spookehtooth · 20/10/2023 23:06

This is what happens if you watch too much pork! The woman is obsessed with it. The gif isn't working, you can find a video with extract of her talking about pork

Edited
Show quote history

😂

AffableApple · 20/10/2023 23:41

JellyPopz · 20/10/2023 22:00

Yes, I didn't even touch on that. As a woman I enjoy sometimes watching pork, I go to well known websites and its an instant turnoff when there is any incest related video names, like 'step' makes it any better.

Perhaps it will be gone in 10 years. The 'sexy schoolgirl' role seems to have died a death from when I was a teen in 2000.

After watching the pork, I love a good nosh of that sausage

AmazingSnakeHead · 20/10/2023 23:44

I agree that it's rank. I would not use babe or baby for a partner either, though. It really boils my blood how when DS was a baby / toddler I would affectionately call him "baby" (as in, handing him something and saying "here you are, baby"), and people were weird about it. I had family and even DP tell me it was weird because it's a name used for boyfriends and not children! And several acquaintences sort of look at me weird or laugh. For calling my actual baby "baby". Insane world.

ScreamingBeans · 20/10/2023 23:45

Gross.

Startyabastard · 20/10/2023 23:45

Devilsmommy · 20/10/2023 22:02

@Startyabastard excellent word choice there, love it😆😆😆

Thanks it comes from watching 'Arthur' as a child. Do you remember that TV programme about the cartoon aardvark and his friend 'Muffy' that had the coined phrase?

Startyabastard · 20/10/2023 23:48

It is probably harmless, but as someone else said I can't get my head around it either. Gaggg

AngryBirdsNoMore · 20/10/2023 23:49

Mumsanetta · 20/10/2023 22:38

Men calling women “Mama” is a thing - “Hey Mama” can be very sexy especially when uttered by Rio.

Daddy/Papi is also a thing and has nothing to do with infantilising or incest. It’s more akin to “Big Daddy” / “The Man”

Rio?

Grimsknee · 20/10/2023 23:54

LuluBlakey1 · 20/10/2023 23:40

😂

Show quote history

My respect for Liz just sky-rocketed, I didn't know she was so passionate about apples, pears, cheese, and pork!

Oh and "daddy" in a sex context is stomach turning imo

MissedItByThisMuch · 20/10/2023 23:56

Sexual kinks, pretty much by definition, appeal to a distinct minority. Including the dom/sub thing of which the daddy/mummy kink is a part. It doesn’t mean people who take part are paedophiles or repulsive or any of the emotive words on here. It’s not my thing, but I can’t get worked up about what two consenting adults enjoy in the privacy of their bedroom.

YesThatsATurdOnTheRug · 20/10/2023 23:56

Absolute vom central.

ChaToilLeam · 20/10/2023 23:58

Revolting.

I also don’t like “babe” or “baby” and no man has ever tried to call me that.

CuriousGeorge80 · 20/10/2023 23:59

Agree it’s pretty gross. But I also find the whole thing around “daddy dates” when a bloke takes his daughter out for a meal or something really uncomfortable, and most people seem to be ok with that.

Loving the pork and sausage 😂😂😂

CesareBorgia · 21/10/2023 00:01

Revolting, and I am also in the 'don't call me baby' (or babe) camp.

Viviennemary · 21/10/2023 00:03

Totally weird creepy and horrible.

Rudderneck · 21/10/2023 00:05

I think in a lot of cases it's because it's transgressive. If it wasn't creepy in some sense, it wouldn't be transgressive, and that is where the thrill comes from for people who are into that.

I did date a guy once I could have imagined saying that, but it wasn't quite the same connotations, he came from a culture where it was fairly common slang to use family-words like that for unrelated people. Which he did quite often, but never during sex and he didn't ask me to do it.

Mumsanetta · 21/10/2023 00:06

@AngryBirdsNoMore Good Girls on Netflix

bronkie · 21/10/2023 00:16

JellyPopz · 20/10/2023 22:00

Yes, I didn't even touch on that. As a woman I enjoy sometimes watching pork, I go to well known websites and its an instant turnoff when there is any incest related video names, like 'step' makes it any better.

Perhaps it will be gone in 10 years. The 'sexy schoolgirl' role seems to have died a death from when I was a teen in 2000.

I like watching pork too especially when it is under the grill crisping up for a nice bacon sandwich 😂

Princessconsuelabananahammock9 · 21/10/2023 00:35

I like it. I bought an ex boyfriend a shirt that said "just call me Daddy."

I'm in North America though. It's not an incest thing, it's a dominance thing. No one I know here calls their father "Daddy."

I don't have a father any ways. So I don't use it for a male parent figure.

Rosebel · 21/10/2023 00:35

But I don't think it's about imagining you're having sex with your dad. In Bdsm I think it's about being taken care of by a usually older man. Some of those relationships don't even involve sex. Is daddy really any worse than terms like sir or master?
I haven't heard of it in a more vanilla relationship though.

Swipe left for the next trending thread