My DH gave our two year old breakfast this morning and

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it was an assortment of random unhealthy snacks… 🤔 Yes, I appreciate he was in a rush but aibu to think is pretty bad? I mean how long does it take to throw some fruit and yogurt in a bowl. Give me strength 🙄

See I don’t think Dads should be held to a lower standard - I think the one off, crap moments should be reserved for the person doing the bulk of the work.

Oh some people on here are ridiculous. If it's a one off - it's fine. If it happens regularly - it's not fine. Out of interest, who took the photo and why? If it was you then you were there to stop it? If it were your husband then he surely knew he was doing something not ideal. Unless he was proud of it?

It will be a one off I imagine because OP will just continue to always do it now. That's why it's an issue, the intention behind it.

I couldn't agree more.

Laughing it off is part of the issue. Men aren't stupid and need to be held to the same standards as women.

Two years old is awfully young for that quantity of crap food.

He's playing ignorant so he's not given the responsibility next time. Not cute.

Sorry this really made me laugh…but I’d also be really annoyed. It’s just so lazy!

I'd eat that for breakfast.

@wintertimeisbest "Men i dont understand their brains.
But i would just laugh it off as a one off dad moment just tell him to do toast next time."

Words fail me. Well, they don't-but I'd get banned.

That's incredibly lazy and almost a little concerning...

If this had happened in my house, I would not have intercepted the breakfast and taken a photo, nor would I have made another breakfast. There would have been a conversation along the lines of "WTF, try again".

Parenting is team work, team work needs communication.

I thought it was gonna turn into a funny thread about dads doing one off or silly things.
But the attitude of some omg over a biscuit.
Now op needs to leave hes a bad dad etc.
Shes taking on the full load.
I wonder how some of you have got partners with you attitudes.
If this is the drama because of a biscuit what would a muffin do would it lead to a divorce. FFS mumsnet as got worse.

As PP have said he isn’t ‘kind’ to get her dressed and fed.

He’s her parent.
Just like you are.

Her care should be 50/50, especially if you are both working.

The fact that he WFH and you work late means he should he getting her up, dressed and fed every morning so you can sleep in.

Then when his working day starts, you take over.

I am a lazy cook but even I would disapprove of that for breakfast.

I wasn’t there. He is WFH on a Friday and was kind enough to get her dressed and ‘fed’ this morning while I got myself ready which I really do appreciate as I was working late last night

What the fuck?? "kind" enough?? He's her father FFS. Kind enough to dress and feed HIS OWN DAUGHTER. Fuck me. If you're not making this up to wind people up on MN you need to raise your standards and what your expectations of the father of your joint child.

I got a shock when I came downstairs to see her breakfast. We both struggle with our weight and I really don’t want the same for dd. I will need to chat with him about this

If you struggle with your weight I would suggest not having snacks like that in the house. If they aren't there you can't eat them and your DH will have to give her something decent to eat on those occasions when he is "kind enough" to feed his own daughter.

That would infuriate me, so lazy and thoughtless.

Looks more like a hungover students breakfast than something for a toddler!

Its a poor breakfast and tbh I’d expect more from my DP as he’s someone that should know the deal.

I remember my DS staying at my dads when he was little and being so excited when I picked him up as he’d had a ‘Man’s breakfast’. I looked at my dad somewhat confused as he’s not know for his chef skills and asked if he’d made a full English? Turns out ‘Man’s breakfast’ is in fact, Jaffa Cakes and a mug of black tea as milk is for girls. 🙄 DS is 18 and we laugh about it now but I wasn’t overly amused at the time!

Weaponised incompetence.

Don't take him off the job. Explain the job, the consequences complete with diabetes and rotten teeth pictures. Ask him to come up with lists of breakfasts and tell him he's doing it every other day/week for the foreseeable because you need to know he can do it if something happens to you.

And no you shouldn't have to.

I'm struggling to believe this post is genuine because that breakfast really is that bad!!

I just don't understand why it would be considered funny except it playing into the lazy sexist stereotype that somehow silly fathers aren't capable of feeding or dressing their own children appropriately.

My attitude? It's just holding fathers as accountable as mothers which is hardly earth shattering or it shouldn't be. My husband is capable of feeding and dressing his own child....because it isn't hard.

Oh FGS get a grip.

Jeeze. I'm shocked he thinks that's ok. He needs educating.

He works full time, and I work part time so I take on the majority of parental responsibilities especially during the week. So I did kind of feel like he was helping me out but I do see your point. He’s a good dad, I honestly don’t think he understands how that ‘breakfast’ was problematic. DD has eaten an apple and some strawberries so I’m happy now. 👍🏻

You clearly took the photo before toddler had been given the breakfast so you are just as much part of it Imo.
My DH would never serve up a chocolate mini roll and biscuits for our kids breakfasts, but if he did one day I would call it out, not take a photo and sit back watching my toddler have it set in front of them.

Gosh, I call my DH a bit selfish when he watches over our sleeping 4 month old when he gets home from work, excited to see her - as I worry he will wake her up and disrupt her routine.

So I’d be furious if he did this knowing it’d make a massive rod for my back with future breakfasts.

I also suspect it’s intentional incompetence so you don’t ask him again. Pathetic. I’m surprisingly irritated on your behalf, OP.