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My DH gave our two year old breakfast this morning and

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Teegan89 · 20/10/2023 10:18

it was an assortment of random unhealthy snacks… 🤔 Yes, I appreciate he was in a rush but aibu to think is pretty bad? I mean how long does it take to throw some fruit and yogurt in a bowl. Give me strength 🙄

My DH gave our two year old breakfast this morning and
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Coffeerum · 20/10/2023 12:10

@Teegan89 He’s a good dad, I honestly don’t think he understands how that ‘breakfast’ was problematic.

Don’t be ridiculous, he’s a grown man, he’s entirely capable of knowing that a bowl of cake and biscuits is not an appropriate meal for anyone let alone a toddler.

Blondeshavemorefun · 20/10/2023 12:11

Wow. That's takes the biscuit literally !!!

Madness

Sadly seems you have to explain what a good breakfast is so next time suggest fruit /yog/cereal

arethereanyleftatall · 20/10/2023 12:12

queenofayrshire · 20/10/2023 11:43

Oh some people on here are ridiculous. If it's a one off - it's fine. If it happens regularly - it's not fine. Out of interest, who took the photo and why? If it was you then you were there to stop it? If it were your husband then he surely knew he was doing something not ideal. Unless he was proud of it?

They really really aren't ridiculous. I wish young women could see that. But they won't till their oestrogen and men-pleasing goggles drops.

It is a one off, because what happened is precisely what this lazy man planned. The op made an alternative breakfast. The op will now make sure she makes every breakfast for their child, and they'll both laugh together about how funny it was that he made her biscuits. And, then, the op will wake up in a few years time.

Coffeerum · 20/10/2023 12:13

wintertimeisbest · 20/10/2023 11:58

I thought it was gonna turn into a funny thread about dads doing one off or silly things.
But the attitude of some omg over a biscuit.
Now op needs to leave hes a bad dad etc.
Shes taking on the full load.
I wonder how some of you have got partners with you attitudes.
If this is the drama because of a biscuit what would a muffin do would it lead to a divorce. FFS mumsnet as got worse.

You seem to have incredibly low standards. Laugh it off as a “dad moment”?? What on earth is a dad moment?

SouthLondonMum22 · 20/10/2023 12:13

wintertimeisbest · 20/10/2023 12:07

Oh FGS get a grip.

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I need to get a grip because I don't find sexist stereotypes to be funny? Ok then.

DisappearingGirl · 20/10/2023 12:14

Well I am not precious about kids having a biscuit or two as a snack sometimes. But that is a really rubbish breakfast, unless you had run out of all cereal, milk, bread and fruit!! Very poor, OP's DH!

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Teegan89 · 20/10/2023 12:14

bluebellsanddaisies23 · 20/10/2023 11:30

@Teegan89 - I would step back from the post - you seem to be getting quite a few vitriolic responses now and some are very harsh. I would just say to your DH not to give DD these biscuits in the future.

It’s ok. I have thick skin. If anything this thread has given me a kick up the bum regarding a healthier lifestyle for all of us.

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Soontobe60 · 20/10/2023 12:15

Presumably as you were there to take a photo you also took it off your child and gave them something better? Why do you have to ask him to sort breakfast out? Is he unable to think for himself???

SouthLondonMum22 · 20/10/2023 12:15

Teegan89 · 20/10/2023 12:08

He works full time, and I work part time so I take on the majority of parental responsibilities especially during the week. So I did kind of feel like he was helping me out but I do see your point. He’s a good dad, I honestly don’t think he understands how that ‘breakfast’ was problematic. DD has eaten an apple and some strawberries so I’m happy now. 👍🏻

Is he stupid? If he isn't then of course he understands and you are just excusing him.

DuplicateUserName · 20/10/2023 12:15

McIntire · 20/10/2023 10:57

The problem could be that you have that much available crap food in the house anyway.

Why would this be a problem?

Does it suddenly force a good, competent, caring parent into serving it for breakfast?

Lets hope there's no alcohol in the house then.

Minniliscious · 20/10/2023 12:16

It would’ve taken seconds to scramble an egg and toast some bread!

wintertimeisbest · 20/10/2023 12:16

SouthLondonMum22 · 20/10/2023 12:13

I need to get a grip because I don't find sexist stereotypes to be funny? Ok then.

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Your welcome.

arethereanyleftatall · 20/10/2023 12:17

Do some people really think the husband doesn't know that biscuits are not a good breakfast?

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Teegan89 · 20/10/2023 12:17

Coffeerum · 20/10/2023 12:09

You clearly took the photo before toddler had been given the breakfast so you are just as much part of it Imo.
My DH would never serve up a chocolate mini roll and biscuits for our kids breakfasts, but if he did one day I would call it out, not take a photo and sit back watching my toddler have it set in front of them.

I removed it and replaced it with fruit. 👍🏻

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crumpet · 20/10/2023 12:18

It was a shit effort in the expectation that he won’t be asked to do it again as a result. Does he always pull a stunt like this when asked to pull his weight?

arethereanyleftatall · 20/10/2023 12:18

Are you able to consider why your husband didn't replace it with fruit op?

wintertimeisbest · 20/10/2023 12:18

Coffeerum · 20/10/2023 12:13

You seem to have incredibly low standards. Laugh it off as a “dad moment”?? What on earth is a dad moment?

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I dont have low standards but thanks for the feed back.

Coffeerum · 20/10/2023 12:20

wintertimeisbest · 20/10/2023 12:18

I dont have low standards but thanks for the feed back.

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Wondering how other women have partners because they actually expect their partner to engage in joint parenting would suggest your standards are actually rock bottom.

DaftQuestionForToday · 20/10/2023 12:20

Cornishclio · 20/10/2023 10:45

Why didn't he just give the toddler cereal. Takes no effort unless he needs to spoon feed them.

E@Cornishclio

its also no better.

lifesnotaspectatorsport · 20/10/2023 12:21

My husband did similar for our 3 and 6 year old's snack boxes (they have a 10.30 snack at school). Two kinds of biscuits and a cereal bar. I was Hmm

He grumpily replaced one of the biscuits with fruit, he was in a rush etc - but I honestly don't think he thinks it matters. He always grabs packaged snacks because it's quicker. I confess to occasionally checking the snack boxes now (it's one of his jobs to do them) to make sure it's not 100% rubbish.

DeathRattleDazzle · 20/10/2023 12:21

I do sometimes cave and give my DD aged 2 something like a biscuit for breakfast. She hasn't died yet. My older ones will have Nutella on toast or a croissant, it's not all that different.

I am a woman and far from lazy or deploying strategic incompetence. I just don't get all antsy about breakfast. They eat other food during the day 🤷‍♀️

wintertimeisbest · 20/10/2023 12:22

Coffeerum · 20/10/2023 12:20

Wondering how other women have partners because they actually expect their partner to engage in joint parenting would suggest your standards are actually rock bottom.

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Thank you for your feed back have a good day.

Coffeerum · 20/10/2023 12:23

DaftQuestionForToday · 20/10/2023 12:20

E@Cornishclio

its also no better.

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Many cereals are indeed better than a chocolate roll and a bowl full of biscuits.

butterpuffed · 20/10/2023 12:23

Have never known such a trivial thread about what a stranger's child has eaten ,cause so much fuss , it's ridiculous .

DrCoconut · 20/10/2023 12:24

As a once off I couldn't get too worked up about it. The world will keep on turning. If it's part of a bigger pattern then maybe a discussion is warranted.

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